Author┃ Blue Sky Read aloud ┃ Shiso
Guidance ┃Liang Shanbo Editor ┃丄學号
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According to @ People's Video report: In Luoyang, Henan, the mother insists on running with her 10-year-old son every day, insisting on not resting for 1 year, and sometimes dragging the tire to run, and the father accompanies the back to guard.
The media and netizens continue to brush the screen to like, the child's father said that the family accompanied each other in the run!
This way of companionship, has it touched your heartstrings and reminded you of the happy time with your parents?
Netizens said: Doing happy things together as a family is a kind of high-quality companionship!
Loving children and giving children a sense of security is the responsibility of parents and the bond of harmonious parent-child relationship.
Sometimes children don't work hard, they are not excellent, the reason says a basket, indifferent, says more and works against you.
If you want to change your child, parents must first change themselves. Less nagging, more action, and change with your children.
Parents are originals and children are photocopies. If you want your children to have good quality, parents need high comprehensive quality.
To love children, you have to spend time with them. And high-quality companionship is the embodiment of the quality of parents.
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Exercise accompaniment, develop exercise habits
Exercise changes the structure of the brain, secretes dopamine, produces happy factors, makes people feel happy, stimulates brain development, promotes bone growth, and is conducive to growing tall and strong.
There are many sports suitable for children, in addition to running, there are swimming, jumping rope, basketball, table tennis, badminton and so on.
On a clear weekend, parents take their children to play games, frolic together, sweat together, and interact with parents and children! Happiness knows no bounds!
Parents exercise with their children, enhance each other's feelings, relieve emotions, release stress, improve immunity, and enhance physical fitness. When parents wholeheartedly accompany their children and laugh with him, there is light in the child's eyes and happiness on his face.
My colleague's child Edamame, in the first grade of primary school, grandparents brought more, doted on the little grandson, edamame loves to watch cartoons, staring at the TV, happy to be a gray wolf, watch haha laugh, sing and dance, watch for more than two hours, always rubbing his eyes. Grandma let him eat fruit, eating in his mouth, his eyes still watching TV.
In order to reduce the time the child spends watching TV, colleagues take him downstairs to play table tennis together. Gradually interested, Edamame took the initiative to ask for a table tennis class. Starting from basic movements such as standing, holding the racket, serving, catching the ball, etc.,
Three times a week, colleagues and wives accompanied the transfer, rain or shine, accompanied by their sons to practice.
A few years have passed, playing table tennis has become a sports hobby of Edamame, catching and slaming skillfully, spinning, arcing beautifully, colleagues often spend time with children to compete in ball skills, edamame is lively and cheerful, more and more sunny.
Sweat in exercise, cooperate with each other, relieve stress, refresh, and the happiness index rises linearly.
Consciously exercise accompaniment, two-way interaction, enhance parent-child cohesion, enhance children's memory, exercise children's perseverance and perseverance, cultivate children's lively and cheerful personality, cultivate the ability to react quickly, and stimulate children's inner potential.
Exercise accompaniment, develop children's exercise habits, and create a strong and optimistic heart!
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Reading companionship, develop reading habits
Voltaire said: Reading makes people's hearts bright.
Reading accompaniment, let children fall in love with reading, children's knowledge will be broadened, the horizon will be more broad.
Children have a strong desire for knowledge, choose books suitable for the child's age, or refer to the reading list of school teachers to accompany children to read more extracurricular books.
Accompany children to read and create a good atmosphere for family reading.
For the sake of children, we parents need to put down the mobile phone, turn off the TV, pick up the book, read it with the child, or read it to the child, or use the audiobook to look up the information together, so that the child can recall the retelling content.
Make a reading plan with your child.
· Insist on reading at a fixed time every day.
· You read and I listen, I read you listen
· Enjoy reading, situational performances.
· Read and memorize.
· Excerpt good words and good sentences.
When the child's comprehension is improved, the child can be encouraged to read independently. Children are interested in reading, and with the habit of reading regularly, parents can slowly let go. Letting go is not about giving up the initiative to reading to the child.
Yu Qiuyu is a famous cultural scholar and essayist, and was awarded the "National Outstanding Contribution Expert" in 1987. When he was a child, his mother was the only cultural person in the village, and opened a free literacy class, Yu Qiuyu followed his mother to read and read, obsessed with reading, he once said, I read any book very respectfully, that is a habit developed since childhood.
Yan Geling is a famous writer and screenwriter in the United States. Her novels, film and television conversion rate is very high, such as "Jinling Thirteen Chao", "Fanghua", etc., the response is very good! When she was three or four years old, her father taught her to read, and there was a lot of books in the family. At that time, no one thought that she could be a writer, and she did not have the long nature to read, and later she began to write, from a literary troupe actor, to a war correspondent, a full-time writer, and a screenwriter, her writing path was inseparable from her father's enlightenment and companionship.
Reading is like a key that opens the door to wisdom.
Reading companionship and developing a good habit of reading are the cornerstones for children to thrive.
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Learning to accompany the formation of independent learning habits
When your child is writing homework, what are you as parents doing?
Learning is a child's business. When a child encounters an assignment that you don't understand, ask you, how do you handle it with tact?
Learn to accompany, focus on companionship. It is not to accompany the completion, but to cultivate a correct learning attitude and reasonably allocate learning time.
Parents should correct their mentality and maintain a normal mind. In the face of the child's little progress, give encouragement and praise in time; in the face of the child's will not or make mistakes, do not get angry or angry. Loud scolding or scolding children will not only not solve the problem, but will lead to children's self-esteem being frustrated and not wanting to learn
Former colleague Xiaowen, when accompanying the study, the child thought of desertion, grinding mouth, angry attack, grumpy chopping feet, the result of the ankle is broken, ten days can not walk. A mother on the Internet counseled her child, talked several times about the child still did not understand, could not understand, directly angry to cerebral infarction hospitalization. When parents are accompanied, they must do a good job of their own emotional management, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
Yuan Mengyuan, a housekeeper at Jiaotong University, an inspirational mother. When her son was in the third grade, she found that the child had ADHD and could not read the book, so she picked up the book, sat down to read the book, and read with her. After her son went to college, in order to encourage her son to go to graduate school, she picked up books, used all her spare time, did not give up discouragement, memorized English over and over again, and successfully studied for graduate school in the same year as her son.
Good companionship does not cross the line, does not think for children, and does not do problems for children. Dictation homework requires the active cooperation of parents, reporting to write to children, watching children write. When encountering difficult problems, analyze the ideas and methods of solving the problems, and patiently inspire children.
Good companionship is not to help everything, not to supervise the child, but to accompany the child quietly when he needs it, and to give the child confidence and psychological support.
"I want to learn" becomes "I want to learn", and the effect of learning companionship is there.
Learning to accompany is a good habit of developing independent learning.
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Be with your heart
Influence children with the power of role models
In the company of their parents, children have received attention and trust, felt warmth and affection, enhanced self-confidence, enhanced sense of security, become more and more confident in themselves, do not shrink back when encountering difficulties, and bravely face difficulties.
Accompany sports, accompany reading, accompany learning, encourage more and criticize less. When the child expresses his or her needs, the parents give a timely response, even if it is a look, a word, the child will feel respected and valued.
Accompanying children is also accompanying themselves, and this kind of companionship is a huge spiritual nourishment for parents and children. You accompany me small, I accompany you old.
Companionship is the best love that can resist all hard, warm life for long years.
Accompany with your heart, influence the child with the power of example, have a little more patience, get closer to the child's heart, and make the parent-child relationship more intimate.
The purpose of high-quality companionship is to not accompany, a period of companionship, in exchange for the child's good habits.
This is the quality of parenting.
Author: Blue Sky An optimistic and positive woman.
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Shiso, a native of Benxi, Liaoning, now living in Japan, has a master's degree, always keeps his curiosity, strives to be a slash youth, loves life, loves reading, and is eager to convey warmth and strength with sound.
Shanbo Education Guidance ┃ Liang Shanbo
Liang Shanbo, a first-class teacher, an advanced educator in Shenzhen, the first batch of family education instructors in Bao'an District, the first learning star in Bao'an District, and the editor-in-chief of Shanbo Education Public Account. Engaged in education for 38 years, focusing on the comprehensive quality education of parenting.