Author ┃ Shanshan Read aloud ┃ Shanshan
Guidance ┃Liang Shanbo Editor ┃丄學号
After the introduction of "double reduction", I know that a netizen has changed it in such a humorous way.
In fact, let education return to the family, let students reduce the burden, let education return to nature, is the original intention of "double reduction".
However, after the introduction of the "double reduction" policy, mothers could not sit still.
They believe that the torrent of the times has always abandoned people who have not worked hard.
If the child is not top-notch, it means that he is eliminated.
A treasure entered the first grade of primary school in September this year, subject to the "double reduction" benefit, this semester the mother did not help homework, every day with the child to read textbooks, tell stories, play games, the family atmosphere is peaceful.
Near the end of the term, the teacher dictated in class, 10 words, a treasure only wrote 4, and also made 2 mistakes.
Mom was anxious, the group asked for advice on educational methods, and the results of the discussion were: write, write more, dictate more. Of course, this "writing" cannot be written during class time, but at home at night.
In this way, the original harmonious atmosphere of the family is broken, and the harmonious family environment is facing a test.
Under the "double subtraction", how to create a harmonious family atmosphere?
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Harmonious family environment, why create
The TV series "Tiger Mother and Cat Father" tells such a story:
The tiger mother Bi Shengnan, played by Zhao Wei, is young and beautiful, calling the wind and rain in the workplace, but for the sake of her daughter's education, she resolutely gave up everything and returned to the family in an all-round way.
In order to get her daughter to attend the best primary school in the city, Tiger Mom adopted competitive education, various classes to make up for the difference, and formulated an almost strict learning plan for her daughter.
Since then, the princess-like Rosie has not only had endless homework and TV that she can't watch every day, but also has to keep fit, insist on exercising every day, and participate in extracurricular tutoring classes.
However, the "cat father" Russell, who only hopes that his daughter will grow up happily, does not think so, and he is accustomed to reasoning with his daughter and communicating with his daughter on an equal footing from the perspective of a friend, and often makes some dragging his feet when his mother breaks the blood for her child's education...
Since then, the harmonious family environment has undergone tremendous changes.
The completely different educational concepts of tiger mothers and cat fathers have caused them many differences, which has led to a series of family conflicts.
Looking at her parents who often quarreled, her daughter Rosie felt that she was the culprit. In order to reconcile her parents, she silently endured tremendous pressure.
It wasn't until an accident that the family learned from the doctor's diagnosis that the child had suffered from depression and was no longer willing to speak.
The family is the main place for children's growth, parents are the child's closest contact object, and the family environment is an important factor affecting children's growth.
Mr. Lu Xun said: We must hold the floodgates of darkness and put the children into the light.
The quarrels of parents, the inconsistency of each other's opinions, and the inconsistency of concepts are the dark floodgates, which will make children lose their sense of security and bring many adverse effects to the healthy growth of children.
Children who have lived in discordant families for a long time will gradually fear life, fear family, fear of interacting with others, lack of security, and lose confidence in the future in the process of growing up.
Therefore, for the sake of children's health and happiness, for the sake of children's happy childhood, it is crucial to create a harmonious family environment.
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Harmonious family environment, how to create
Psychologist Professor Li Meijin said: "No matter how good a substance is given to a child, it is better to give him the companionship of the heart." ”
The company of parents plays a vital role in creating a harmonious family environment.
This reminds me of the model couple and model parents of the entertainment industry, Deng Chao and Sun Li.
Flipping through their Weibo, a lot of the sharing is their daily happy interaction with the child.
As an excellent actor, Sun Li is willing to fade out of the screen for her children and spend more time with her children growing up happily.
Traveling with children is both education and companionship. In order to broaden the child's vision and increase insight, Sun Li has been to the United States, France, Thailand and other places with him when he will just leave, so that the child understands that the world is very big and beautiful, and parents will accompany you to enjoy the scenery along the road.
In order not to miss the growth of his children, Deng Chao pushed off a lot of work and set aside more time to witness the child's transformation a little bit.
Accompanying children to do "stupid things" is Deng Chao's usual darling way.
The son and so on like to go out without an umbrella on a rainy day, Deng Chao quietly waited aside, looking at the children dancing in the rain and smiling.
When the excitement came, he also rushed into the rain like a son and played with his son. In the heavy rain, you step on me in the water, I splash you in the mud, and then look at each other and laugh.
Father and son in the rain, although drenched like chicken in the soup, are the happiest people in the world.
Companionship is the longest confession of affection.
Deng Chao and Sun Li are willing to accompany the children to make a good meal, play a ball game together, laugh together, and toss together... Create a harmonious family atmosphere for the children.
The mother's patience is nurturing, the father's humor and wisdom, in the day-to-day companionship with the child, the parents teach the child's attitude towards life, and know how to enjoy the joy of life feedback.
Children who grow up in such a family can better understand the best way to get along with each other and understand what is the most beautiful vitality!
Because the companionship of the family will make the child more secure and brave, and will also promote a deep understanding of each other and create a more harmonious parent-child relationship.
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Harmonious family environment, many benefits
The president of Tsinghua University appealed: If parents want to shape their children's sound personality, creating a harmonious family environment is the foundation.
There is an issue of the variety show "After School", which invites Xu Zheng and Tao Hong's family.
At that time, Xu Zheng, Tao Hong, and their daughter Xu Xiaobao were holding family meetings, regardless of respect or inferiority, and pointed out each other's shortcomings.
Xu Zheng first gave praise to his daughter Xu Xiaobao's performance, and then seriously pointed out her mistakes: "It is not good to shrink back when encountering problems" and "it is very impolite to like to talk back."
Then, Xu Xiaobao also bravely pointed out the mistakes of his father Xu Zheng: "Blindly accusing others of their mistakes, never facing up to their own problems, this is a double standard" "The food is not delicious, and it needs intensive training..."
Then Xiao Bao pointed out the problem of her mother Tao Hong: "My mother loves to take care of other people's affairs too much, and she is always unwilling to leave enough space for me and my father" "My mother is the worst person in the family to manage emotions"...
Face-to-face communication with children, giving enough space for children to express their views, Xu Xiaobao, who grew up in such an equal and harmonious family, naturally fell generous and physically and mentally healthy.
On Mother's Day, Tao Hong posted a Mother's Day gift carefully prepared by her daughter - a greeting card, and the words were full of love and gratitude for her mother.
Xiao Bao's filial piety, kindness, and gratitude are inseparable from the influence of a harmonious family environment.
It is said that a harmonious family environment is the cradle of children's growth, and parents are the best teachers for children.
If parents are willing to give their children more room for patience, tolerance and trust, equal and gentle dialogue with their children as friends, spend more time with their children, and grope with their children, the children will become healthier and sunnier.
Because for children, a harmonious family environment is much more precious than giving children anything material.
Because, a harmonious family environment is conducive to the child's physical and mental health, sound personality, and establishing correct values.
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summary
Song Qingling said: "In the final analysis, the child's personality and talent are most deeply influenced by the family, parents, and especially the mother. ”
The mother's example, imperceptible, the father's companionship along the way, the power of the role model, so that children in the process of gradual growth, gradually learn to love and be strong.
Because the growth process of children is a process of absorbing various energy information and nutrients from the environment.
When their energy field is turned on, the family atmosphere created by their parents determines whether they can thrive or not.
The harmonious family atmosphere invisibly creates a fertile spiritual soil for the growth of children.
Unconditional love and support give children a sense of security, optimism and the courage to fight.
Being respected and understood gives children self-esteem, resilience, self-expression, and self-regulation.
These multifaceted educations give children faith, careers, ways of dealing with the world, creativity and curiosity.
Create a harmonious family environment, let the family have a temperature, so that children are healthier.
Author: Shanshan, a busy elementary school teacher, I want to calm the impetuous heart through the pen, through the text.
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Shanbo Education Guidance ┃ Liang Shanbo
Liang Shanbo, a first-class teacher, an advanced educator in Shenzhen, the first batch of family education instructors in Bao'an District, the first learning star in Bao'an District, and the editor-in-chief of Shanbo Education Public Account. Engaged in education for 38 years, focusing on the comprehensive quality education of parenting.