Now empty nesters have become a common phenomenon in rural areas. These elderly people usually live a very lonely life, and for the financial support of their children, they prefer to get the company of their children. Now many elderly people benefit from national policies, even in rural areas, many elderly people have pensions, so economically, they can basically be self-sufficient.
In the city elderly, they live frugally, do not have any big expenses, and sometimes subsidize children. Although they are old when they are chewed up by children, they do not feel anything wrong. After all, their own money will also be left to their children in the future, and their children can accompany themselves. When you have limited mobility, you can take care of yourself. Such a life is already very satisfying. And there is also a kind of "filial piety" is rising, the nature is worse than the old, but the young people do not know how to be satisfied.
One of the common characteristics of such young people is that they are all only children. From childhood to adulthood, there was a child in the family, from grandparents to parents who regarded him as a baby. A child naturally wants to give him the best. In terms of food, clothing, shelter and transportation, basically enjoy the best resources.
These children have been wearing brand names since childhood, and all kinds of imported food have long been tired of eating, and they have to take the car when they go out, and they have no habit of walking at all. It is precisely this kind of life that makes children become children who are soaked in a honeypot, completely unaware of human suffering, and do not eat human fireworks. Living habits can be said to be spoiled by adults, and such children cannot suffer a little setback.
Children grow up in a spoiled environment, and if their parents disobey their own will, they will sprinkle it on their parents, no matter what the occasion. Children rolling on the floor can often be seen in supermarkets simply because parents are reluctant to buy expensive toys for their children. In their subconscious, they believe that parents are unconditionally paying for themselves and cannot complain. Of course, parents are also cold to their children's behavior, after all, they are good to their children, although they do not pray for returns, but the children are only used as machines to fulfill their wishes, without any feelings.
Occasionally, when the parents are uncomfortable, the child also expresses indifference. Even when the parents are sick, the children are still asking for new toys, or new electronic products, such children, naturally make the parents feel uncomfortable. For educating such children, parents should also realize that their own education is also a problem. If the child is still young, it is necessary to correct the child's personality. Otherwise, it will be difficult for you to feel yourself in the future.
Many parents feel that their children have no filial piety, but they never review their behavior towards their parents. In front of the child, he often shows his face to his parents, and he has not cared about his parents. When the parents are sick, they do not care, these behaviors, the child will see in the eyes, when they grow up, naturally they are not filial to their parents.
When we educate our children, we must first make ourselves people worth learning. Parents are the role models of children, parents are respectful to the elderly, and children naturally care for the elderly. Act to care for the elderly, but also to tell children that respecting the elderly and loving children is a traditional Chinese virtue, so as to give children theoretical knowledge. Children are more understanding of what to do with their parents in terms of behavior and theory.
Children understand the meaning of honoring their parents, and in the same way, parents should give their children a chance. I remember a public service advertisement, after the parents washed the feet of their grandparents, their children also trembled with a tray of water and told their mothers that they wanted to help their mother wash their feet. At such times, parents should not refuse their children's filial piety.
Many parents feel that their children's wishes are enough, and actions are not important. Such an idea is very wrong. If parents reject their children's filial piety for a long time, children will feel that their parents do not need it. Or even if they do it themselves, the parents will refuse, so the child will no longer use actions to express filial piety.
In the process of children's growth, parents should let children do some housework within their capabilities, so as to cultivate their children's independent ability. At the same time, you can also educate your children in this process, and these things can be done by yourself in the future, which is also shared by parents and is also a manifestation of filial piety.
When parents are unwell, they can let their children help themselves, such as cooking for themselves, bringing water, taking medicine, etc. In the long run, children also know how to care for their parents and express filial piety.
Educating a child is not an overnight thing, his growth process is like a seed sprouting and growing leaves, and finally growing into a towering tree. If you want the tree to grow as you want it to, you need to prune the branches of the tree in time. This process, parents are like gardeners, it takes time, patience. This process can not be lazy, and the role is irreplaceable.
There used to be many left-behind children who had fewer opportunities to spend time with their parents and were therefore not close to their parents. Therefore, no matter how difficult life is, parents must take their children with them, which is the best companion for each other.