When the child goes to kindergarten, the most worrying thing for parents is: Will the child be wronged? What should I do if I am wronged?
Colleagues encountered such a thing: the daughter who is more than 5 years old and is in the middle class, one day suddenly cried and cried and did not go to kindergarten.
Colleagues are very puzzled by this: my daughter did not cry when she was in the small class, how did she go to the senior class but cry?
The strangest thing is that the children who used to twitter and say anything to their parents suddenly became silent, allowing the family to threaten and induce, and the methods were exhausted, and the children refused to say the reason for refusing to go to kindergarten.
Looking at such an abnormal child, colleagues feel that something must have happened to this child?
However, the child refuses to say, and he can't be hard! Colleagues are both distressed by the child and can't help but blame themselves: even the parents do not say, proving that the child's sense of security is insufficient, and feel that the parents cannot protect her; another possibility is that the child's cognitive ability is a little lacking; there is also a possibility that the colleague has no bottom in his heart.
Because there is no reason to find, the child will not stay at home. The next day, a colleague and the child discussed sending her to the kindergarten, and by the way, they also wanted to see the child's reaction. Who knows, the child actually cried, and pitifully begged his father. When passing by the kindergarten door and seeing the teacher, the child cried even more.
The colleague found that as long as he was close to a teacher, the child seemed very uneasy, and he thought about it, gave up the idea of sending him to the kindergarten, and decided to take the child with him to observe.
On this day, the child is normal except for some resistance to the kindergarten.
Transfer schools, it is not realistic, children can not stay at home every day. On the third day, the colleague decided to do several things to help the child out of the predicament:
First, look at your child's life in kindergarten
Although the child's kindergarten is in a small mountain village, every week parent representatives are invited to experience the child's kindergarten life, and colleagues volunteer to sign up.
On this day, he took a leave of absence to accompany his children to kindergarten, study, and eat.
Because I gave the child psychological counseling in advance, I repeatedly promised that my father would not go anywhere today, and would guard you and accompany you to spend a day in kindergarten.
He deliberately emphasized: Daddy accompanies you and protects you!
The child did not cry or make trouble, obediently followed the teacher into the classroom, at the end of the day, the child was very smooth throughout the whole process, there was no crying, there was no resistance, and even recovered a little angry.
Second, find the director to understand the situation
The colleague specially asked the head of the kindergarten to understand the situation, including the change in the number of children in each class and the adjustment of the teacher's work.
The most witty thing is that he specifically asked the teacher how to deal with the child's emotional changes too much, and said the child's abnormal behavior lightly. At the same time, he expressed his gratitude to the director and teachers.
Third, communicate with parents
Colleagues did not care much about the situation of their children's kindergarten friends before, but this time, he took a special look and found that there were actually several acquaintances.
He contacted several of them, asked for communication skills with his children, and agreed to keep in touch.
After his unremitting efforts, he finally pieced together the children's affairs: at the beginning of the new semester, the children were a little excited and did not cooperate with the teacher's work. And their own children because of the highest, most lively, the voice is also the largest, the result of the teacher as a typical criticism, before have been praised that, never been criticized, just think that the teacher does not like her, frightened themselves.
Colleagues are glad that they are not preconceived, but also have some self-blame: as a parent, he did not cultivate the child's high self-esteem level, nor did he do anti-business education for the child, and he will pay special attention to these two points in the future.
After this day, the child returned to the previous happiness and liveliness, colleagues often communicated with the child, the child never cried again, nor did he go to kindergarten.
Some people say that the colleague's approach is not good, too weak, the teacher is not right, it should be scared back; others say that the colleague's approach is very clever.
I am in favor of the latter: when objective reasons determine that the child cannot leave the existing environment, instead of impulsively asking questions and possibly causing greater contradictions, it is better to knock on the mountain and shock the tiger, so that the management and the practical level have a good idea.
So, as a parent, how to understand the child's situation in the kindergarten?
1. Observation
It is said that children do not hide things, and everything they think in their hearts is written on their faces. This is because they are simple-minded, laughing when they are happy, crying when they are unhappy, and there is no adult bending.
Therefore, timely observation of the child's performance, pay attention to the child's behavior, combined with the child's own temperament, most of the time can distinguish the child's mood changes.
2. Inquire
Pay attention to the way you communicate with your child, sometimes, the child is not unwilling to say, may not be able to say.
For example, instead of seriously asking your child, "Did you get beaten up today?" It is better to say in a mocking tone: "The most mischievous xx child in your class, have you been criticized today?"
3. Communicate with parents in the same class
Sometimes, different children's ability to accept and understand the same thing is not the same, and they cannot only look at one aspect. Most of the children's good friends in kindergarten have similar temperaments, so you can communicate with the parents of these children to see how other children see the same thing.
In this way, you can not only further understand the situation of your child, but also find out the shortcomings of your own child.
Every child is a treasure in the palm of the family's hand, and I hope that they will be free from harm and grow up happily and happily.