Nowadays, parents are more concerned about the quality of their children's growth, and parents always hope that they can provide a more powerful support for their children's growth. Therefore, many parents spare no effort to compete for excellent educational resources for their children, while at the same time, the family education that has the most profound impact on the growth of children is selectively ignored by some parents.
In family life, every family member has an emotional need to be "seen", and if this emotional need can be faced and seen, then I believe that this is very fortunate for both adults and children.
The Incredibles is an animated film about the daily life of a family with superpowers. In the cartoon, Mom is a stretchy superwoman with the superpower of "super deformation". In the first cartoon, she was a stay-at-home mom, and after her husband's promotion, she was a bit "suffering from gains and losses". In the second cartoon, the super mom has the opportunity to go out to work, while the super dad has to return to the family and is responsible for the daily life of the baby.
The eldest son, Ba Xiaofei, has the super ability of "running fast", and he especially hopes to show his superpower in front of everyone, but because his parents require him to be "low-key", the rebellious Ba Xiaofei turned his strength to teasing the teacher. For this reason, super-powerful parents have been invited to school by teachers.
By chance, the super-powerful father sabotaged his daughter's date, which made her daughter Ba Xiaoqian very dissatisfied, and the father-daughter relationship became tense. The super-powered father who is devoted to taking care of his children is very frustrated by this, even if he has superpowers, but he also has the problem of not being able to do anything about it when facing his daughter.
Although Ba Xiaojie is still a small baby, but taking care of him consumes a lot of time and energy of the super-powerful father, just as the so-called baby is not easy, and it is not easy to have super-powerful parents. However, the super dad was not "defeated", and under his unremitting efforts, he finally opened the hearts of the children and gave the children common protection with the super mother.
Ba Xiaofei participated in the running race as he wished, and during the race, his super-energetic parents shouted and cheered all the way, although "Don't run too fast, just run to the second place!" The slogan sounds a bit "special." Ba Xiaoqian also released her former suspicions with her father, and when her super powerful parents were trapped, she led everyone to rescue them. The youngest baby, Ba Xiaojie, was found to have 17 super powers, which is truly the strongest superpower.
"Respect" and "affirmation" are more able to maintain family harmony and love
In family life, the needs of each family member are seen by others. In most families, the identity of a stay-at-home mom is easily overlooked, and it seems that a stay-at-home mom is never more able to contribute to the family than a "working outside" dad.
But in fact, the efforts of stay-at-home mothers should be seen and respected, and the respect and affirmation from the family can make them feel relieved and happy.
Among family members, children are also easily overlooked. In the face of strong parents, the child is undoubtedly the weaker party. Parents look at their children's actions with the eyes of adults and easily label them as "childish."
But in fact, the strength of the child is far more powerful than the parents think that it is "insignificant", and the respect and affirmation from the parents are more enough to stimulate their natural potential.
How can parents truly "see" in family life?
In the eyes of children, parents are the most reliable people, so when there is something "special" about children, the best way for parents to respond is to accept and respect.
Parents with tolerance and empathy are the most able to give their children a sense of security, which is the cornerstone of their children's future growth. If parents are not able to tolerate these "differences", then the child's growth is bound to be isolated.
In the eyes of adults, the child's troubles are not worth mentioning, but for the children themselves, the obstacles in front of them cannot be easily broken. Therefore, when children encounter the confusion of growing up, parents should be touched by their children's outpouring.
Try to look at the seriousness of the problem from the child's point of view, and help them find a rational way to deal with it from the perspective of an adult, believing that this will be more conducive to the child's growth. Parental contempt and neglect are sometimes more unacceptable to children than growing up confused.
Chinese parents often behave "insincerely" on the issue of their children's education, and they rarely express praise in front of their children without burden, for fear that their encouragement and will definitely make their children proud and backward. But in fact, the affirmation and encouragement of parents is more likely to form a positive incentive for children, and it is easier to help them establish a positive self-evaluation and self-worth cognition.
In the family, every family member should not be easily ignored in the value of existence and daily emotional feelings. Whether it is a stay-at-home mother who pays silently or a child with little strength, their needs should be taken seriously. For children, the love of parents is the driving force for their growth, and it is incomparable to any other aspect of satisfaction.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Sitting down with your children in your free time and watching a cartoon quietly can not only bring a warm feeling, but also help parents to explore family education and deal with family relationships. "Being seen" is the most basic psychological need among family members, respected and certainly the fundamental source of family strength.
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