If Dabao is over this age, parents are still fighting for the second child for the sake of having a companion in the future, which will be the biggest lie in life.
With the opening of the two-child and three-child policy, some families may have opened the road to fighting for two children and three children. The reason why many parents fight for two or three children may be for Dabao to have a companion in the future and do not want the child to grow up alone. There are not a few parents who believe in such a mentality, but this has become the biggest lie to comfort themselves.
Although the two-child and third-generation policies have been open for a long time, there may not be many young people who actively respond to the policy. On the contrary, many post-70s and post-80s people are very active and prepare for the second child and the third child.
Although many people choose the second child in order to find a companion for Dabao, so that Dabao will not feel so lonely, even if he will be old in the future, the child will be accompanied. But the real reason for more post-70s and post-80s births may not be all the same.
Because many of them grew up in a large family with many children, brothers and sisters supported each other to grow up together. In the future, when you grow up, you can take care of the elderly, and you can also share it with many children. Such benefits make the post-70s and post-80s more active in the second and third births.
It is true that there are several children in the family, and the children can take care of each other and play together, which will have many benefits. But if Dabao's age is more than 10 years old, and his parents still want to fight for a second child, think of giving their children a companion, such a reason has become a lie, why do you say so? Because in the future, Dabao and his parents will face these 4 very real problems.
Generation gap problem
If Dabao is more than 10 years old, and then there is a second treasure, the difference between Dabao and Erbao is 10 years old, and it is necessary to know that there is a generation gap of three years old, and the difference is 10 years, and the generation gap between two children is not generally large.
Dabao and Erbao can hardly play together, and it is difficult to have a common language, let alone support each other, but more importantly, Dabao supports Erbao, takes care of and helps Erbao.
Whether two children can be treated equally
Before giving birth to the second treasure, parents will think of a bowl of water to be flat and treat the two children equally, but with the birth of the second treasure, between the two children, the parents may inevitably have a preference for the small one.
In the eyes of parents, the little one is cute no matter what he does! Whatever mistakes are made, they are tolerable! Therefore, parents may unconsciously prefer the second treasure and prefer the second treasure. Due to the large age difference between the two treasures, parents will also wishfully believe that the big treasure should let the second treasure and take care of the second treasure in everything. But I forgot that Dabao may still be a child, just older!
After having the second treasure, the care, care, and privileges that originally belonged to the only great treasure all belong to the second treasure. This inevitably makes Dabao produce some dissatisfaction, which will affect the feelings between the brothers.
Originally, brothers should be harmonious and take care of each other, but it has become Dabao's unilateral care of the second treasure, which will inevitably make Dabao dissatisfied. Dabao and Erbao go out together, and may face the embarrassing situation of carrying an oil bottle at any time.
If Dabao is older and his parents still want to have a second child, then parents are best to consult Dabao's opinion and communicate with Dabao. Because Dabao is also a member of the whole family, only by obtaining the unity of Dabao can Dabao better accept the second treasure, and can also make the two brothers more harmonious.
The troubles of the second treasure
If Dabao's age is more than 10 years old, even if Baoma gave birth to Dabao in her 20s, then now that she has reborn two treasures, Baoma may also be nearly thirty or forty years old. With the growth of Erbao, when Bao's mother goes out with Erbao, she may be mistaken by others for Erbao's grandmother, and when she is young, she may feel that there is no problem. But as Erbao grows up, such embarrassment will become more and more obvious.
Maybe Erbao sometimes asks, "Why are other people's mothers so beautiful, but their own mothers are so old?" ”
If the age of Dabao is more than 10 years old, then in general, the age of pregnant mothers will not be small, and it is likely to be in the advanced maternal stage, although it is not impossible for advanced mothers to conceive and have children, but there are many risks.
First of all, it is the risk of the pregnant mother herself, and secondly, it may also affect the healthy development of the second treasure, resulting in some other problems in the second treasure, affecting the healthy growth of the second treasure.
The issue of economic pressures
Today's society is very difficult to raise a child, not only need to raise the child, in order to make the child more successful in the future, but also need to make a lot of investment in the child's education. And when the child grows up, he also needs to consider issues such as buying a house and a car for the child, which requires strong economic support.
If it is an ordinary family, the income of two people may only solve the problem of Dabao. Now there are more two treasures, then such economic pressure, will increase exponentially, if the parents have the ability to become a burden, it is fine, if you can not afford the future growth expenses of the second treasure, then such economic pressure may also be transferred to the big treasure, which is unfair to the big treasure.
Therefore, if Dabao is more than 10 years old and still wants to fight for the parents of the second child and the third child, then you must carefully consider the above problems.
Not only do we have to see whether we still have the conditions to have children and raise children; we also need to see whether we can afford the economic pressure of children's education and growth; but also need to be a bowl of water and treat two children equally.
Be impartial in everything, and don't favor Erbao because erbao is still young. You must know that the palms of your hands and the backs of your hands are all meat, if you favor the second treasure, then it is bound to make the big treasure complain, and it will also affect the emotions between the two children.
Thus allowing parents to find a companion for Dabao's good wishes has become a burden between Dabao and Dabao. I guess that's something no parent wants to see.
If you really want to fight for the second child and the third child, then parents and friends need to consider the family economic situation, their own situation, and consult the opinions of the big guys, so as to avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles, you say?