Dear parents,
Does your child enjoy playing with their phones?
On weekdays,
Have you ever had a conflict with your child because of your phone?
School has started,
Will you choose to take your child's phone back?
Nowadays, mobile phones are becoming more and more children
The closest "playmate",
These three problems are in everyday life
It has become a problem that plagues many parents.
Last year, the World Health Organization
Listing video game addiction as a mental illness,
It quickly sparked a heated discussion.
This has sparked concerns among many parents about restricting their children's use of mobile phones. But what parents can't imagine is that the original consideration for the health of the child will cause a huge reaction from the child:
During the summer vacation, a middle school student in Mianyang, Sichuan Province, because he played with his mobile phone at home every day during the holidays, was criticized and educated by his parents, and the student left a text message of "Parents, Farewell Forever" and committed suicide by jumping into the river. Fortunately, the traffic police and the masses by the river rescued in time to avoid a tragedy.
The occurrence of such an event stimulates the hearts of parents,
"Should children play mobile phones confiscated",
It has become the "big problem of the century" in the hearts of parents.
To solve this "big problem",
We must first find out the "truth" behind the child's addiction to mobile phones.
As a parent, are you addicted to mobile phones?
Nowadays, teenagers are getting younger and younger. For children, mobile phones are a novel world, they can take pictures, they can chat, they can play games, and they can learn about a more exciting world.
Some people say that behind every child who is addicted to mobile phones, there is a pair of parents who are addicted to mobile phones.
Although there must be a lot of self-disciplined parents in reality, we can indeed see some parents, while scolding their children not to play with mobile phones, while at the same time in front of their children are intoxicated with mobile phones can not extricate themselves.
Many times, it is the parents who hand the mobile phone to the child.
When the child is "noisy" and needs someone to accompany him, give him a mobile phone so that he can listen to stories, watch animations, and play games, and in an instant, the whole world is quiet, and parents are also worried.
As everyone knows, the child's "mobile phone addiction" is slowly infected in this way.
Finally, parents are distressed that their children are addicted to mobile phones and online games, worried about being hurt by bad information, worried about their children's plummeting vision, and more worried about the irreversible impact of mobile phones on their children's studies.
And children have also complained that their parents are always staring at their mobile phones all the time, always "no time" to chat and play with themselves, but they do not want to allow themselves to play with mobile phones.
Mobile phones seem to have become a wall between children and parents.
The report shows that mainland parents have the lowest frequency of communication with their children, the primary topic of communication is learning, they listen to their children talk about their troubles the least amount of time, nearly half of the parents have playing mobile phones while talking to their children.
The reason why the child relies on the phone
The existence of mobile phones has advantages and disadvantages, and parents who can do not play mobile phones in front of their children are very few.
Therefore, it is more hoped that parents can decisively put down the mobile phone in their hands when the child sends you a signal of "I want you to play with me" and "I am talking to you", and seriously accompany the child and listen carefully to what they say.
When children begin to become addicted to mobile phones, parents will ring the "alarm bell". There are different reasons why children rely on mobile phones.
1
Social dependencies
Mobile phone address book, WeChat circle of friends, QQ group, these platforms have so many friends, convenient communication methods, so that children are difficult to give up.
2
Game-based dependencies
There are many online games in mobile phones, and the merits and experience accumulated in long-term battles make children feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction.
3
Entertainment-based dependency
There are not many friends in the mobile phone, and there are not many games, but there are many movies, music, and photos, which make the child feel like an ape, and he does not want to write homework and always wants to touch the mobile phone.
If the child is particularly dependent on mobile phones, as a parent, it is best to analyze which category your child belongs to, and then prescribe the right medicine to find a way to deal with it.
6 tips on using a mobile phone
In fact, to prevent children from indulging in mobile phones, the key is not to decide how old to give children mobile phones, but to teach children how to prevent meaningless addiction.
Set up a "mobile zone" at home
Many parents themselves are heavy users of mobile phones. If you use your mobile phone frequently, it is difficult to teach your children not to play mobile phones.
Parents can consult with their children and supervise each other's use of mobile phones. After school or parents leave work, keep their phones in one place.
If you really have to use a mobile phone, you need to apply to the other party.
Parents play with their phones less in front of their children
For adults, mobile phones are already an essential work-life connection tool. However, it is still recommended that parents use mobile phones less in front of their children.
For example, while your child is sleeping or writing homework, you can send all the text messages and emails that should be sent.
When going out with children or family dinner time, it is best to put away the mobile phone, no child likes the parents to often be disturbed by the mobile phone when they are with themselves.
Don't use your phone as a tool to coax your child
Mobile phones are known by some parents as "coaxing artifacts", and a cartoon in the mobile phone can make children quiet for a long time.
The World Health Organization recommends that children under the age of one should not have any screen time, including television, videos, and computer games, while children between the ages of two and four should not have any screen time a day, and the less it is.
04
Help your child choose what to reach
The information on the Internet is mixed, and for children who have no ability to distinguish, parents should play a good role as "gatekeepers".
05
Spend more time with your child for outdoor activities
As long as parents have time, they must take their children out to play more, and they must go out. Participate in outdoor activities.
Visiting the park, running, jumping rope, playing basketball... While letting children have more time to breathe fresh air, it is also to fully release his energy.
Children's nature is to love to play, but the smart screen restricts the child's inherent liveliness and play.
The happiness that electronic products bring to children is temporary rather than lasting, and it is not the kind of happiness that comes from the heart.
When children get happiness in the real world, who has the heart to indulge in electronic products?
06
Do not touch electronic devices for 1 hour before bedtime
Using your phone every night before bed can interfere with the quality of your sleep. Using your phone before bedtime inhibits the body's secretion of melatonin, thereby reducing the amount of time spent on deep sleep.
I have to say that today's children are no longer the past of us, although the material life is rich, but there are fewer and fewer things to play, it seems that only mobile phones, iPads and TVs are left.
In this case, we should not completely deny electronic products, it is not a flood beast, it is not a drug, whether it is good or bad, but also depends on how we guide.
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