We can often hear the older generation say that the child is three years old to see the old age of seven years old, and some people will say that the age of three is set for life. This may sound unbelievable, but there's a good chance it is.
Professor Li Meijin said that 3 to 6 years old is a critical period for the formation of children's personality, and parents must pay special attention to them and not get used to their bad problems.
Linlin's baby is just three years old, I thought that the child was older and could be obedient, but I didn't expect that the child's temper was getting more and more grumpy, as long as there was a little dissatisfaction, she cried, and even directly lay on the floor to play with Lai, which made her headache.
Sometimes Linlin can't help but pull the baby to the corner penalty station, or criticize the baby fiercely. But every time at this time, the mother-in-law will stop it on the side, saying that the child is so old that he can understand something, and it is natural to wait for him to be older.
But is this really the case? Children have entered a critical period of character formation at the age of three, which is also the best time for parents to discipline them. Because at this time, if there is external interference, the child's personality is likely to change, and for the child, they are at most beaten and cry for a while.
But once the child enters puberty, if the parents want to discipline them at this time, it is likely to cause the child to become rebellious.
Therefore, in recent years, more and more teenagers will choose to rebel against their parents in extreme ways. Perhaps it is because parents are too kind to children during a period when they are supposed to be disciplined. Therefore, these 4 problems of children must not be used to!
Problem 1: Doing things is always "out of bounds"
As the saying goes, there are no rules and no circles, if children always do some out-of-the-ordinary behaviors in life, such as grabbing other people's things, beating people with their hands, or doing something contrary to social order in public, then they will inevitably be disliked by others, after all, this is not only the child's personal affairs, but also affects other people.
For example, some children like to take other children's toys as their own. Parents say nothing, do not return. This is not right, it is "crossing the line", parents should make it clear to their children, and they can't come over in a vacuum.
Problem two: throwing a tantrum and dropping something
Children begin to have self-awareness around the age of two, when they will no longer be as obedient to their parents as before, but will have their own emotions many times.
Once their mood fluctuates, it is likely to erupt like a small volcano, and the method they found is likely to be to drop toys, drop daily necessities, etc. When I was a child, I fell these things to vent, and when I grew up, I may fall more, and I don't necessarily have to bear it, so don't cultivate such a bad problem.
Problem three: deliberate lying
As children age, so do their careful thinking, and mistakes they make may only increase. At this time, in order to escape the punishment of parents, many children often use lying to shirk responsibility and evade responsibility.
Maybe they are simply afraid of their parents, but they don't know that lying is likely to become a habit, even after adulthood, it is difficult to change!
Problem four: threatening parents with "self-harm"
Children sometimes make unreasonable demands, which of course make parents unable to meet. But the child has formed the idea that everyone should respond to their own needs.
Therefore, once their request is rejected, the child will be particularly sad and sad, and naturally will take various ways to force parents to compromise, and even do not hesitate to do harm to themselves. Such problems can not be used to, we must deal with it seriously, and communicate with the child in depth to avoid such a situation next time.
Parenting Tips:
Children's sense of rules is weak, and they may not know what the bottom line of the principle of things is. At this time, parents need to patiently explain to their children, so that children know what can be done and what cannot be done. In this way, it can be binding on the child's behavior and avoid always having behavior that challenges the bottom line of the principle.
There is also the fact that parents must not respond to their children's needs, especially if their requests are obviously unreasonable, but also point them out to their children with a firm attitude.
In this way, children can understand that not all people must be centered on them, and not all their own requirements can be met, so that children can have correct cognition and prevent them from forming arrogant characters.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
Parents should play a good role model and grow up with their children. Because only after they can be the mirror of the child themselves can the child become better.
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