I often hear the old man say a sentence: "Children are not filial piety, there is no blessing." ”
Filial piety has been one of the traditional Chinese virtues since ancient times, and for parents, having a filial piety child should be the greatest blessing. However, not everything in this world will go your way.
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The definition of "filial piety" in the new era
The so-called "filial piety" word has two interpretations:
One is to support the parents wholeheartedly and give back to the parents' nurturing grace; the other layer has some feudal ignorance, and those who are children need to obey their parents, which is often called "foolish filial piety".
In the past, everyone's understanding of "filial piety" was that most of the children did not know how to be grateful, did not support their parents, and this material level.
However, today's times are changing, people's economic level has improved a lot compared with before, basic food and clothing can be satisfied, and it is relatively easy to achieve old-age care for parents.
So the question is, in the context of the new era, how is "filial piety" defined?
A "new type of filial piety" began to catch on
That is, if you can get pension money, you can't leave time to spend with your parents!
Some people on the Internet say: Children are busy earning money, usually only care about giving money to their parents for the elderly, but forget to give their parents spiritual comfort, which is also considered "filial piety".
Indeed, today's young people are busy with their livelihoods, in order to retain the flesh and fill the soul, even if they encounter 996 and 007, they do not dare to say a word, or grit their teeth to move bricks.
For this situation, many children may also have words of suffering, perhaps their original intention is also to accompany their parents, but it is really forced by reality, one is family affection, the other is reality, and both suppress young children breathlessly.
This has led to less and less time left for parents, and more and more empty nesters. "A lock on the door, a light in the door", this is their daily portrayal.
I've seen an interview with a grandmother in her 80s before:
Grandma has two daughters, both of whom have a family in Shanghai, leaving her and her wife to live alone, and since her daughter got married, the number of times she has come home to meet is very small, basically only in the address book.
When the reporter asked the grandmother what she was most afraid of, she replied: "Afraid of getting sick." "Because I was worried about getting my daughter into trouble.
"There are mothers who don't want their children, but we can't be too selfish and can't cause trouble for our children."
Hearing the grandmother choke up and say this sentence to the reporter, it immediately made people's noses sour.
Around us, there are countless such parents, they know too well the difficulty of their children, so they choose to suffer silently, dare not tell their children when they are sick, say that everything is fine at home every time, and will also ask their children to take care of themselves outside.
But like the grandmother said, as a parent, how can you not miss your children? They may often receive gifts from their children and pension money for themselves, but no matter how much material they have, it is difficult to offset their emotional scarcity.
The most unaffordable thing in the world is filial piety to parents
As children, we should all have this experience:
Every year, when you leave home after the Spring Festival, you will receive "full of love" from your parents, bacon, sausages or melon seeds, tea leaves, full of a large box of things, parents are not enough.
But on the other hand, the shopping cart is filled with things bought for themselves, but they rarely think of buying something practical for their parents, even if they buy, their parents may often say, but they can spend money blindly, save for their own use, and their parents have everything at home.
Inside and outside the words, they are full of concern for their children, they have sacrificed most of their lives for their children, and when they are old, they are still thinking about their children, they understand that their children are busy at work, they can't go home to see themselves, even if they are lost and uncomfortable, but they can still say it on their lips, and they can understand it.
As children, we may sometimes really need to reflect on whether we care enough about our parents.
The writer Long Yingtai once said: "I slowly and slowly learned that the so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is gradually drifting away from his back in this life and this world." ”
People's life is actually very short, and the time we spend with our parents is even more so, and in this world, the most unaffordable thing to wait for may be filial piety to parents.
Therefore, no matter how busy you are at work, don't forget to care more about your parents, give them a video call, or take time to go home to see, talk with them, do things, instead of staring at the phone all day.
【Write at the end】
In fact, in addition to this kind of inability to accompany their parents often, some children also have a problem: treating their parents as "free labor" and morally kidnapping her to help them with their children.
In fact, the elderly help to take children is a sentiment, not a duty, we, as children, can not force. After all, they have been working hard for half a lifetime, and they want to take a rest and live a good old age in their old age, which is also a matter of reproach.
And the older generation of parenting concepts and young parents do have differences, if the two sides do not communicate well, but it is easy to have family conflicts, and finally end up with a thankless end.
【Today's Topic】
How many times a year do you see your parents? How long has it been since I went home to see my parents?