First, parents should take the initiative to contact teachers.
As a class teacher, I am well aware of the importance of contact between parents and teachers, and taking the initiative to contact teachers to communicate with them is conducive to the cooperation between schools and families to better educate their children. However, due to the fact that teachers and parents are usually busy, under what circumstances do parents need to communicate with teachers in person in a timely manner?
1. If the child's mood is abnormal, parents should contact the teacher.
Children's emotional abnormalities, such as sudden temper is very grumpy, inexplicable crying primary school stage, children are young, shallow experience, poor self-control, often because of a small thing will cause emotional abnormalities, but many times the child's abnormal emotions will last for a long time, will affect their thinking and learning, and even do some very outrageous things, so once the child is found to be emotionally abnormal, parents should communicate with the teacher in time to help the child eliminate interference in time.
2. When parents want to go far away, or when parents are not at home for a long time, they should contact the teacher more.
Parents are often not at home, often unable to show their children's learning, and even reduce the requirements for children, which will prompt children to decline in self-control and indulge their bad behaviors and bad habits. If the parents who are often out or the parents who go out can contact the teacher once before going out or after they come back, even if the parents are not often at home, the child will have such a thought: Mom and Dad are concerned about me, I must behave well! This actually inadvertently increases the child's demands on themselves and increases their self-control.
Second, don't be prejudiced against teachers.
If parents have prejudices against teachers, children will also have bad feelings about teachers because of parental stereotypes, a vicious circle, can children still learn well?
In the hearts of parents, their children are always the best, even if the opinions are put forward by the teacher, as long as the parents feel that they are not useful, they may also take it as a side wind, but they have to recognize one point: as a growing child, it is normal to have such a problem, and every teacher is mostly in the spirit of being responsible for the child, reflecting the problems of the child to the parents, if the parents turn a deaf ear to the teacher's opinions because of the teacher's prejudices, the ultimate victim will be the child.
1. Calmly look at the teacher's criticism of the child.
Most teachers are serious and responsible for each child, the reason why they will criticize the child, is because the child has some problems, made some mistakes, if the parents blindly listen to the child, they will listen to the bias, do not recognize the problems existing in the child, and then can not help the child correct in time, so long-term development is unfavorable. Therefore, after parents learn that the teacher criticizes the child, they need to calmly analyze whether the child has the problems that the teacher said. In the face of children's education problems, only parents are calm enough not to let prejudice blind their eyes, so as to help children grow better!
2. Trust the teacher and actively listen to the teacher's suggestions.
Teachers let parents go to school, or call parents, sometimes not necessarily the child has a problem, there may be some aspects of the child is outstanding, the teacher wants to discuss with the parents, how to focus on the cultivation, if the parents can not face the teacher with a normal mentality, then the communication between the two sides will be deadlocked, it is difficult to make the home and school form a synergy, to promote the child to grow faster.
Third, communicate with the teacher purposefully.
If there is no direction, the efficiency of doing things for the purpose will be greatly reduced, and the communication between parents and teachers is the same. If parents do not have an accurate grasp of what the teacher wants to talk about, and completely act as an audience, it is difficult to put forward valuable opinions on their children's education in the process of communication. Parents should actively participate in the interaction with the teacher, put forward your views and opinions, and communicate with the teacher in a targeted and purposeful manner.
1. Ask one question at a time.
Parents talk with teachers, it is best to come with a purpose, want to talk about what to solve what problems, put forward a problem at a time, do not cast a net, on the facts to go straight to the subject, so that it is conducive to the teacher to understand the parents' intentions, more in-depth help parents to analyze the problem to solve the problem.
2. It is necessary to say the child's progress and point out the child's shortcomings.
If parents always count the child's no in front of the teacher, the teacher will gradually develop a bad impression of the child. Therefore, when communicating with teachers, parents must not only say the child's progress, but also point out the child's shortcomings.
3.Discuss with the teacher how to be more conducive to the child's future development.
In the process of communicating with the teacher, always grasp the state of the child in school, do a good job of what parents should do, and ask the teacher more: What do I need to do in family education? I believe that every teacher will give the most pertinent advice to such responsible parents, and work with parents to make children develop in a better direction.
Fourth, grasp the timing of communication with the teacher.
Teachers are very busy in school time, so parents must look at the timing, so as not to pounce, generally speaking, parents can grasp these three opportunities to communicate with the teacher to understand the information they want to get.
1. Take advantage of the timing of the parent-teacher conference.
Usually parents and teachers are very busy, it is rare to sit together to promote a long talk, and the parents' meeting undoubtedly provides such an opportunity for both sides, because the teacher will make full preparations before the parent-teacher meeting, make a full summary of the situation of each child, and fully consider the problems that parents may involve, so parents can actively interact and speak freely at this time.
2. Take advantage of the timing of holidays.
A teacher will educate children to become talents, we always put in mind, but as long as parents can take the initiative to find teachers, they will not mind that you disturb them on the rest day, on the contrary, they will be happy to discuss the child's education with you.
3. Look at your child's class schedule and find the teacher's free time.
Sometimes for the temporary visit of parents, parents and teachers are very embarrassed and very embarrassed, and talking to parents more will delay the time of giving children lessons, talking to parents less, parents feel that they are perfunctory. This time between classes is not the best time for parents to communicate with teachers, it is recommended that parents take a look at their children's class schedule, find the teacher's free time, I believe that at this time the teacher will be happy to communicate with you.
Fifth, communicate with the teacher to pay attention to the matters.
1. Regardless of whether the child is excellent or not, keep in communication with the teacher.
If your child is a good student, you can talk to the teacher to see what aspects can help the child speed up, so as not to waste the child's precious time; if your child has such and such problems, you can ask the teacher, whether the child's recent mood is wrong, which places are not good enough, clearly grasp the child's situation, parents can do a good job of home education traders, to ensure that the child develops in the direction of sunshine and health.
2. Communicate with the teacher with the right mindset.
When parents communicate at school, there will be two manifestations, one is that when the teacher points out the child's problems, parents not only cannot face it squarely, but blindly deny it and constantly talk about the child's advantages. Once they hear the teacher say that the child is not good, they rush to defend the child, afraid that the teacher will leave a bad impression on his child. The other is to be respectful to the teacher and nod nod no matter what the teacher says. Sometimes the teacher is wrong and they won't point it out. These two ways are not conducive to parents to understand the child's problems, can not really help the child to solve the problem, parents should be correct and objective mentality to formalize the child's problem.
3. Parents communicate with teachers and do not let children know.
Although children are small, they already have a certain degree of self-esteem and self-awareness, and they are very afraid of being sued by the teacher when their parents learn about the situation from the teacher, and their hearts will always be up and down, and they will be uneasy. They will think that the parents are standing with the children, but once they know that the parents go to talk to the teacher, they will feel betrayed by the parents, so they will have a pimple in their hearts. Such a knot will affect their trust in their parents.
Sixth, be a good intermediary between teachers and children.
1. Don't count the teacher's no in front of the child.
When parents comment on their children's teachers in front of their children without scruples, what kind of impact will children be affected? The child will produce the same cognition as you in your criticism, and then distrust the teacher, unconvinced, and no longer willingly cooperate with the teacher's work, affecting the quality of the lecture, then the last victim is the child. Wise parents never convey negative information about their teachers like their children, but rather consciously convey positive messages like children.
2. Ask the teacher to encourage the child more and ask the teacher to ask the child more questions
Most of the children in the primary school stage still have a kind of reverence for the teacher, and in their eyes the teacher is synonymous with authority, and being able to get the teacher's affirmation and praise is an honor and a motivation for them. This kind of honor and motivation will make children consciously ask themselves to do better and work in a better direction.
Also ask the teacher to give the child the opportunity to answer the question as much as possible to help the child improve self-confidence. Children raise their hands to answer the question, if ignored by the teacher, the heart will be hit, but people have limited classroom time, the teacher should take into account all students, the teacher can not provide every child with the opportunity to answer the question, so parents should also explain to the child clearly, not deliberately do not ask him to answer, lift the child's heart.