According to Gu Ailing's mother Gu Yan, the child went to the house from an early age to uncover the tiles.
As you can see from the documentary.
Otani Ailing climbed the tall trunks and swung happily on the swing.
In the ice and snow, nibbling on the ice edges, it is not enough.
Reached out to break the big ice edge under the eaves, only to "bury" myself.
Come to the favorite Nanjing Road in Shanghai, stand upside down without a word, and scare away passers-by.
Every year, I am very excited to return to my mother's hometown of Beijing, climbing the Great Wall like walking flat, not to mention, but also jumping and singing on the Great Wall.
She jumped into her mother's arms happily, and if this mother was not physically fit, she would have to be thrown down by her daughter.
You will feel that this child is full of endless energy, as if he will never get tired.
Beijing Winter Olympics.
Gu Ailing, an 18-year-old talented ski girl, became "someone else's child" a night ago.
At this time, if Gu Yan publishes a parenting book, it is estimated that she will be robbed madly.
Still, it doesn't matter if you don't have a parenting book.
There are also growth documentaries that have been ridiculed by netizens as "more effective than any cram class"——
"Gu Ailing: I, 18" 2022.2.8
For the success of this talented girl, people have gradually formed this understanding:
The situation + opportunity + family + education + talent + hard work, indispensable, to create a Gu Ailing.
Recently I often hear voices like this:
"People are piled up with money", "Three generations of efforts to produce such a person."
This sentiment can be understood.
Most people of our generation have been busy with exams and life since childhood.
If possible, everyone wants to chase what they love and don't have to worry about what to eat at the next meal.
In fact, this kind of thinking is also a trap.
A sentence of "good genes" and "good reincarnation" can obscure the power and value she brings to people?
Talking about Gu Ailing, not talking about family conditions, only talking about talent and hard work, is simple.
Talking only about innate factors, not talking about human factors, is also evasive.
She has some qualities that can break through the prejudices and stereotypes of the past.
For example, does a child who grows up in a single-parent household mean that he is not sound?
>>>> don't be prejudiced against single-parent families
Gu Ailing grew up in a single-parent family, and her American father was not involved in her upbringing.
She followed her mother's surname and called her grandmother Grandma.
Grandma was cute and always said, "We love Ling is the best.".
Ai Ling said that when she was a child, she only played the piano to the third level, and Grandma said that you played as well as the tenth level.
When running, Ailing was second, and Grandma said we were Ailing first.
Grandma was still standing in a place where there were so many people, shouting in English, it was so powerful, Ai Ling, it was amazing!
Ai Ling said: "So at that time I felt that I wanted to be the best, and I had such a spirit since I was a child." ”
Every summer vacation, Ailing will return to Beijing with her mother, which is her mother's hometown and her hometown.
When passing through Tiananmen, Ai Ling was reading the words on it, and every word was pronounced correctly.
Mom asked who was in the picture in the middle of her?
Ai Ling looked at her mother and replied, "Mao Zedong", and her mother immediately nodded her head in affirmation, "Eh, yes!" ”
Ai Ling was obviously encouraged and laughed with her mother.
The details of these getting along are very small, and the words are also very daily and trivial, but you can intuitively feel the harmony of the atmosphere.
I feel that Gu Ailing lives in a family full of love, companionship, encouragement and trust.
The encouragement of her family did not make her conceited, but gave her mental strength and made her want to become better, although the family did not ask her for anything.
At the age of 18, when she bumped into everyone's sight, it was such a sunny, confident and energetic image.
Gu Ailing's excellence can break people's prejudices against single-parent families.
Children who grow up in single-parent families are not necessarily unsound, and the environment that lacks love and security is not sound.
>>>> is talent, but also hard work
After Gu Ailing became popular, there was a cute interview with her when she was a child circulating on the Internet:
"I'm sorry for other moms, but my mom is better than all moms."
If your parents use Gu Ailing to "roll" you, you can be back, first of all, you have to be Gu Yan.
Ms. Gu Yan undoubtedly played a great role in helping and guiding Gu Ailing's growth.
Gu Yan said:
"When Ai Ling first went to school, the teacher said not to correct the child's typos and not to hit the child's creativity; praise them less for their intelligence and more praise for their efforts. I did just that. ”
More praise for effort, less praise for intelligence, there is a psychological basis.
Studies have shown that focusing solely on praise for a child's innate endowments and abilities can lead to unhealthy thought patterns.
It is necessary to guide and tell children to improve their talents and abilities through hard work and perseverance, and cultivate children's "growth mindset".
Gu Ailing is indeed talented in skiing.
Her free-spirited nature, extremely high physical fitness, and love of adventure and challenge match her to this extreme sport.
She published an article in The New York Times called "I Confess, I Fell in Love with Fear."
The article said: "No matter how long time passes, I will be an incurable romantic in the face of fear." ”
"A pair of snowboards on my feet, a 22-foot U-shaped pool and a variety of stunt moves are my main source of adrenaline and are also a core element of real addiction in extreme sports."
But in the interview, Gu Ailing never got complacent about his talents and abilities.
"Genius may be a part, but I think most of it is more of an effort, a balance of time, and self-discipline," she said. ”
"The things that life force is most happy about are because of hard work."
Like every skier, falling is commonplace.
The film records a serious injury to Gu Ailing, which is also the first time I have seen her emotional breakdown.
It was an important competition in 2018, and if you want to represent the Chinese team, you must have good results.
During pre-match training, 15-year-old Gu Ailing fell heavily and suffered a slight concussion, resulting in transient amnesia.
This is already The third time Gu Ailing has fallen, there is a transient amnesia.
Concussion has a cumulative problem, and after a concussion, it will become more and more prone to concussion in the future.
In order to avoid more serious consequences, the mother and team doctor finally decided to abandon the game.
Yes, injuries are part of skiing, and 15-year-old Gu Ailing has long recognized.
After the injury, she was more worried and afraid, but how to avoid injury in the future.
In order to land safely, there is no other way but to practice, break through, and improve again and again.
Don't deny Gu Ailing's persistence and hard work just because she comes from a wealthy family and has a talent for skiing.
In the face of competitive sports, no one's success depends on luck and origin alone, without paying unimaginable sweat and pain.
Seeing the picture of Gu Ailing's injury, many bullet screens were saying:
"Mom is still so calm at this time", "Gu Yan is really a master of emotional control".
After Gu Ailing fell, she could see that Gu Yan slid to her daughter's side very quickly and in a hurry.
Concerned and calmly asked the daughter which pain, memory status, to determine whether it was a concussion.
Seeing that her daughter was a little broken, I approached and stroked her head, answered her daughter's question softly and patiently, and comforted her.
When the daughter is angry with the photographer, she can correct the daughter in time: "You don't care if people record it or not, you take care of your head." ”
Mama Gu is indeed a master of emotional control.
When encountering problems, stay calm and calm, always watch around, care for her daughter, give her enough sense of security, but maintain an appropriate distance, but do not interfere with her daughter too much.
After the fall, Gu Ailing could only explain the game.
Watching others jump, I couldn't jump, I was sad at first, and I made a tearful grimace.
But he quickly adjusted his mentality, saying "I still have a lot of World Cups, regret is useless, it has happened, I can only think about what to do next."
I have to say the role of mother's words and deeds.
On the field, Gu Ailing always staged a mistake in the last jump, and the last jump of the earth-shattering reversal of the drama, and can quickly adjust the mentality has a lot to do.
On the 17th, the day of Gu Ailing's competition.
She made 10 phone calls to her mom, but none of them answered.
"But I knew she should be watching me play. I talked to her and it felt like I was talking to myself, and she especially understood my thoughts."
"She would give me advice but respected my decision very much".
In the freestyle skiing women's big jump final, before the third jump.
Mom suggested she do 1440 and compete for silver. She said no, I'm going to do 1620.
Mom told her, "Ok, this is your game, then enjoy it".
In the film, you can feel her getting along with Gu Yan, like a partner, like a friend.
Regarding the training of her daughter to ski, Gu Yan said: "I think I found a companion to play with. ”
"I love skiing, and this one can skate better than me and can skate with me."
I was lucky to have a daughter who was able to play with me. ”
Gu Yan said to her daughter:
"You don't have to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me, I should thank you."
>>>> Gu Ai Ling Power
In popular culture, the desire for worship and denigration go hand in hand.
The issue of origin and nationality is likely to be overhauled.
The American media called her a "traitor" and "ungrateful."
On the Chinese side, in a state of appreciation, you can still hear harsh voices, "Why doesn't she wear the national flag" and "Why doesn't she sing the national anthem?" ”
She participated in three sports alone, one of which was zero breakthrough in China, and won two gold and one silver to promote the development of China's ski industry, and her contribution to national sports can be denigrated by a keyboard man with "love or not patriotism"?
Gu Ailing expressed it very clearly——
She became a Chinese citizen and represented China at the 2022 Winter Olympics, in addition to her family education, which made her identify herself as a Chinese.
She also wants to promote the development of ice and snow sports in China through her personal influence, which can affect more people, which is something she attaches great importance to.
If someone doesn't believe that this is my intention, then it just means that they don't have enough empathy to understand the kindness of others.
In fact, her influence has already begun, not just in sports.
The most immediate sensory impact she brings to us is that health is a kind of beauty.
Beauty is not a pale face, chopsticks like a broken leg, beauty is not pretentious, sick and delicate.
"Beauty is strength, confidence and health," Gu said.
Since last year's Tokyo Olympics, sports stars have gradually replaced entertainment stars, becoming the focus of public opinion and becoming teen idols.
The resilience, energy and vitality of athletes can bring strength to adults, and the collapse rate is extremely low.
May we all end up with the energy to cheer for the breakthrough of victory and to shout for the unfortunate who have suffered bad luck.