In the TV series "The Marriage of the Two of Us", there is a classic line: "Love and marriage are different, there are only two people in love, but there are many people behind marriage." ”
It is not easy to run a marriage, not to mention that there are many people standing behind Chinese-style marriage.
These people are all trying to get a foot in your marriage under the banner of "for your own good", and if you are not strong enough in your relationship with each other, not financially independent enough, and not unified in your goals, then your relationship will be damaged and your marriage will be in jeopardy.
In fact, it is not difficult to grow old and work together for a lifetime, and it is enough to do the following three points.
1. Solid feelings are the foundation.
I have always been more envious of the love from school uniforms to wedding dresses, from the campus to the marriage room, such a couple has been together for a long time and has experienced a lot, so they have a full understanding and a solid relationship.
Such feelings, for the most part, even if they experience setbacks and tribulations in the middle, they can be reunited and reconciled in the future.
There is an American movie "The Notebook", which tells the love story between Noah and Ellie.
They have gone through various hardships such as separation, reunion, illness, etc., but their love for each other has always been unwavering. Eventually, they finally got together, and their love for each other remained the same.
The story is set in the 40s of the 20th century, when young Noah and Ellie meet, meet, and fall in love in a seaside town in North Carolina.
This pair of young men are talented and beautiful, and they are in love with each other, a match made in heaven, but the social status and family background of the two are very different, which has become a barrier between them.
Later, they were forced to separate for this reason, but the increase in distance did not stop the two hearts from loving each other.
Noah tells him how much he misses Ellie through letters every day, but Ellie doesn't receive them and doesn't reply to him.
However, everything has its own arrangement.
A few years later, on the eve of her wedding, Ellie sees a white house that Noah has built for her, which makes her realize that she is still deeply in love with Noah.
In the end, Ellie does not marry Lang, a wealthy officer, and reunites with Noah in front of the house. The flame of love is rekindled, and the god of fate binds them together once again.
There is a saying: "The love is separated by mountains and seas, and mountains and seas can be flat." ”
Life is very tiring and boring, if you meet a "pig teammate" in the chicken feathers all over the ground, then your life will be extremely difficult, and your life will be even worse.
If the couple has a solid emotional foundation and you have strong shoulders to lean on, then the two of you can work together to get through the difficulties.
Love is not a necessity of life, but it is the cornerstone of marriage.
Second, economic independence is the guarantee.
There is a line in the movie "Parasite": "Money is an iron that irons your folds." ”
No one can guarantee that their life will be smooth sailing? However, money can always give us more possibilities and more confidence.
Yesterday I watched a short video, and I was distressed and helpless at the beginning of the video, and then I was very happy.
At the beginning of the video, a young girl is dressed in loungewear and her hair is tied back haphazardly, busily preparing a meal in the kitchen.
After a while, the boy returned, and the girl ran over with joy.
However, the boy's eyes did not glance at the girl, and his eyes were full of another girl behind him who was delicately makeup and well-dressed.
The girl asked the boy "Who is she?" ”
The boy handed the clothes to the girl and said, "XX is out of love, I don't worry about her being home alone, you go and fry a few more dishes." ”
The girl's tears could no longer be controlled, and the scenes that had appeared in front of the girls like a movie. It's not that she didn't notice that the boy had changed his mind, but every now and then, the girl found a reason to lie to herself.
In the end, the girl chose to give up and left with what little self-esteem she had left.
At this point, the girl's "love brain" is good, and her consciousness has begun to awaken, without the drag of men, without trivial housework, the girl with her excellent professional skills and strong family background, soon parachuted into the boy's company, and became his top boss.
The once commanding man began to shake the pot and cry and cry for a reunion.
Because he has money, he has a say in this relationship; Because you have money, you can gain dignity in this relationship.
Everyone should remember that a lover may leave you and leave you grief-stricken, but money will not. Never be palm-up, you can not work, but maintain the ability to make money.
Only by making money can we resist unknown risks; If you have savings, you will have a say in a relationship.
Third, the goal is the same to achieve success.
A hundred years of repair can be crossed by the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can be slept together. It is not easy to be a husband and wife. Therefore, we must cherish and manage it even more, so that this relationship can withstand the years and stand the test.
"Xiaoman Life" is a family drama directed by Wang Jun.
At the beginning of the TV, it was about Ye Yifan and He Jiaru who decided to buy a school district house in order to give their children a better educational environment. However, in the process of changing houses, they encountered many difficulties and challenges.
They quickly calm themselves down, then adjust their plans, and the husband and wife are on the same page, and finally reach a happy ending.
After learning that Ye Yifan's father needed high medical expenses, the two agreed that the needs of the family should take precedence over the home purchase plan. Therefore, they decided to use the funds to pay for medical expenses first, and to ensure the health and safety of their father first.
Then, they lowered their standards and opted for more affordable and cost-effective listings. And actively understand various loan policies and preferential measures, and try to apply for loan products that are suitable for you. At the same time, they also pay attention to the housing subsidies or preferential policies provided by the government and relevant institutions in order to reduce the cost of buying a house.
Finally, they also increase their income by working overtime, part-time jobs, or investing in order to accumulate funds for a home purchase faster.
Only when the hearts of the husband and wife think together and work together can they make their lives happy and their families happy.
The consistent end point is like a lighthouse on the sea, illuminating the path for the two to move forward; A common goal, like an invisible soft rope, turns the two into one.
Write at the end.
Mo Yan said: "Marriage is originally a cooperation, in fact, you don't need to make it look like love, remember, love will disappear." The low-level men want to renew the incense, the middle-level men want to find helpers, the upper-level men want to find strong teammates, and the scumbag wants you to help the poor. ”
Marriage is not as beautiful as we imagined, but after we see the truth of marriage, we still love marriage.
It is not difficult at all to make marriage a "win-win", as long as you are emotionally harmonious, financially independent, and have the same goals, you will be happy and happy. Marriage is a win-win cooperation.
At the end of the article, I hope that each of us can find that partner who is evenly matched and has equal strength, and then walk hand in hand and accompany each other for a lifetime.