I saw a boring, but real chat record, a couple who have been married for many years, and the chat content only involves three things: eating, picking up the baby and delivering the delivery.
When people reach middle age, it seems that all love is gone, leaving only housework and children.
is just like what netizens ridiculed: If it weren't for children and shredded meat noodles, it is estimated that your family would have been scattered a long time ago.
However, is marriage really that boring, boring, and no fun to speak of? I don't think so!
In fact, on the long road of marriage cultivation, as long as you don't mess up and manage carefully, everything else will continue to get better.
Do the following three things well, I believe you will have unexpected gains.
1. High-quality baby, will pay, and will appreciate.
Money can never be earned, you can make money at any time, but the golden growth period of children is so critical for a few years, and being a parent only has a validity period of more than ten years, and you will regret it for the rest of your life if you miss it.
Everyone knows that "children" are very important, otherwise they would not have children, but in the eyes of many adults, it seems that the latter is more important than "money".
I also admit that money is important, but in the world of children, "money" is far less important than the company of parents.
There is a children's song with the lyrics that read: "Mom and Dad, if you love me, spend more time with me; If you love me, kiss me abundantly; If you love me, praise me much, and if you love me, hug me much......"
Children have no concept and are not interested in how much money their parents make, but they are particularly sensitive to whether you are with him today.
There is a TV series "The Big Exam", in which Pan Xiaoxuan is a rich young master, and his family business is very big and rich, but because of this, his parents are very busy and have no time to accompany him.
No one can imagine how this poor child "survived" day by day, and in the end, Pan Xiaoxuan went to the doctor because of a suicide and was diagnosed with mild depression by a psychologist.
If parents spend more time with their children at this time, he can quickly recover like a normal child. But sadly, in the eyes of his parents, business is important, money is important, but the only son has to make way for these things outside of his body.
Every parent hopes that their children will be smart and clever, able to fulfill our unfulfilled hopes, and bring infinite glory to the family. But many parents are so stingy that they can't even give him a little time.
Every child has their own flowering period, all we have to do is be patient.
If you want your children to become talents, want you to feel relaxed, and want to make your marriage happy, we will start making friends with your children today, encouraging each other and accompanying each other on the road to growth.
2. Making money is the sobriety of the world, and you can turn the tables while you are alive.
On the other hand, after having children, parents should give their children high-quality companionship as much as possible, rather than devoting themselves to making money and ignoring the growth of their children.
But, isn't it important to make money? Of course it's important!
Children need high-quality companionship, but before having children, you have a lot of time to work hard and make money; After your children go to school, especially after they go to junior high school, you also have a lot of time to earn money.
We have been advising women to never listen to the nonsense of "I raise you", and never to be a woman with your palm up. If you have a job, you can go into the society and see the world; You can make money, and you can resist unknown risks.
In this economic society, the palm is downward, and only then can you have the confidence to speak; With the palm up, you can only listen at home.
Ariel Lin, who played the heroine in the hit drama "We Are Not Kind Enough", is a sober girl, she has known the importance of money since she was a child, and she has improved her acting skills step by step and accumulated capital little by little, so as to usher in the moment of Phoenix Nirvana.
Ariel Lin has experienced the divorce of her parents since she was a child, but she has not been defeated, but has become stronger and harder.
Ariel Lin not only has to take care of her frail mother, but also helps her younger brother, after seeing the cruelty of life, Ariel Lin studied more seriously every day.
Later, when she had the opportunity to act, she practiced hard and won the love and recognition of the audience with her hard work and talent. In the end, she finally lived the life she dreamed of through her own efforts.
Yishu said: "If a woman has no financial ability, she will never recover, remember, work hard and save hard." ”
I deeply believe that money is always your greatest confidence in the world, and there is no one.
With money, the distance you want to go is right in front of you, and without money, the distance is out of reach.
If you have money in your hands, you don't panic, in the adult world, you can make money when you should make money, and you should be less hypocritical. Only when you have money in your pocket can you have the control of your life.
3. Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Many times, we are busy with family and work, but we forget to stop, take care of our hearts, and love ourselves.
The drama "Hyena Survival" gives an example of "how to love yourself", so that in a complex society, we can keep our hearts, never forget our original intentions, and truly love ourselves.
Zheng Jinzi is a talented female lawyer from a low background, and in order to maintain her original intention and pursue fairness and justice, she will sometimes do whatever it takes, even to the toughness of a rich and powerful lawyer.
Kaneko, like most ordinary people, loves money and is desperate to change the status quo, but she has always stuck to her way of working and sticking to her moral bottom line.
Kaneko firmly believes that her insistence on justice and principles will make her feel at ease and comfortable, and she bravely pursues her goals, speaks up for the poor, dares to look directly into her heart, and has the courage to express her demands.
Through her own actions, Kaneko truly loves herself.
There are many people who don't want to love themselves, but they don't know how to love themselves. In fact, loving yourself is very simple, there may be many ways, but there is only one principle:
Follow your heart, don't compromise and seek perfection, no matter how hard and busy your days are, don't forget to take good care of yourself; No matter how tired and difficult life is, remember to give yourself a little sweetness. Don't say no to things you don't want to do, say no to things you don't want out loud, and don't live so screwed and anxious.
You must always believe that you are good, you deserve all the good, and you must know that people who do not know how to love themselves are destined not to be loved by others.
So, start today and love yourself well. Because loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Write at the end.
There is no perfect marriage in the world, and there will always be quarrels and contradictions between two people who love each other, but those who are happily married are often husband and wife who know how to manage themselves, manage the relationship between husband and wife, and manage the family.
If you say that you will regret it no matter who you marry, then instead of wasting time and struggling with a collapsed mentality, it is better to spend time on running in with each other and managing your marriage and family.
It will be very hard to grow up with the baby, but you will release all your troubles and inner warmth because of the child's love, and you will be full of a sense of accomplishment because of the child's growth; Being rich is your confidence in your marriage relationship, the sunshine you look up to, and your self-confidence in the future; Loving yourself is the driving force behind your love for others and the source of your inner joy.
You know, there are no two people who are completely compatible in this world, but there are couples who are suitable for each other.
As long as we tolerate and accommodate each other, we can have a happy marriage and a harmonious family, and we are the most suitable people for each other.