In the process of raising our children, it is naturally impossible for us to worry about it, and the more children there are, the more parents need to worry about it. But in fact, this is not the case, today, the family is a child, but now the child is more difficult to raise.
Because parents' attention is basically focused on one child. It is because of that that that, families without wisdom always like to use scolding or scolding to solve their children's problems.
It is true that this method seems to work, but it only temporarily curbs the child's practice. But in the end, it is a palliative rather than a cure, and the child is absolutely unconvinced from the heart. Learning is still the quiet of age, their wings are hardened, and naturally they will treat their parents in the same way as a sign of resistance. Of course, children with different personalities show different states.
When we are scolding the child, the child's reaction can reflect the child's personality state.
First, the child who resists
Such children generally have strong personalities and quick reactions, and they absolutely have their own opinions and ideas in the face of their parents' reprimands, in fact, they can also accurately find the loopholes in their parents' words and fight back. Don't come with me to determine that this child is too bad, too slippery, too skinny, but to identify this child from the perspective of the child who is very smart and clever.
Of course, we must also respect the true thoughts of the child's heart. If you can accept your child's protests and sit down with your child to discuss, how can you reach an agreement? Then such a child can definitely win more opportunities in the future society, rather than in your bag, let the child hide his heart and personality, forming a "time bomb" of repressed bad emotions.
2. Children who don't talk back
There is also a kind of child, no matter what the parents say? He didn't have any reaction, in the face of this kind of child, in fact, the parents are also very angry, it is like a punch on the bread.
In fact, this kind of child is really not suitable for home decoration to use the way of blame, itself this kind of child has no situation, there is no state of resistance, but if the parents blindly want to suppress the child's personality, it will lead to the inferiority of the child's personality, and even form the dark side of the child's personality.
Of course, there is also a type of child, parents say that they do not resist, does not mean that they do not have ideas in their hearts, afraid that children will suppress their emotions in their hearts, and now belong to the more paranoid type. In the process of being reprimanded by their parents in the early stage, they will form a behavior form that cannot communicate and have intimate contact with people.
This is also not beneficial to the healthy growth of children. Therefore, everyone should improve it in time, treat children or pay attention, teach according to their aptitudes, and simple reprimands or violence will not educate better children.
Parenting is not a simple thing, pay attention to the method is very important, recommend this set of good books, teach you not to fight or scold can also teach children, learn to express correctly, in order to let children feel the warmth of love.
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