After my friend returned from the New Year, I was very troubled about whether I wanted a second child this year?
She had always felt that a child, well cultivated, and her own life, wasn't it very good?
But when I came home for the New Year, because my mother was not in good health, I was very touched by her.
She said, is the second child really necessary? Can a child really be lonely?
Around me, many people want to have a second child, they all hope to give two children a companion, give the child a blood relative, afraid that when they are old, the child will encounter difficulties, and there is no one to discuss.
My partner and I are both from families with many children, and we have this feeling:
We envy the only child, and the only child also envies us
When we were young, we were especially envious of our only children, because the only children were better than us in food, clothing, and play, and all the love of the family was placed on them.
In our eyes, they fell into the honeypot.
But they also have the joy that we don't have, which is having someone to play with.
For example, when I was a child, my cousin's family was a child of her own, and every time she came to our house to play, she didn't want to go home, and she lived for several days as soon as she lived, and she was willing to hang out with us.
She used to say, "It's boring to go home!" I'm going to play with my brothers and sisters. ”
And when people reach middle age and have their own families, they find that having brothers and sisters is really a kind of happiness
For example, in my family, a few of us go back to our hometown to get together every holiday, surrounded by our parents, just like going back to when we were young, it is really very happy.
Usually also often video, telephone contact, who has a good food, easy to use things, always do not forget to give brothers and sisters also come to a copy.
If anyone has a problem, the brothers and sisters are also paying for it, which is very lively.
And my cousin is one, she wants to go to Shanghai to develop, and dispelled the idea, because she is afraid that she is too far away from her parents, and she will not be able to take care of her in the future, so she simply found a job in her hometown.
When it comes to caring for the elderly, there is less pressure
My mother had eye surgery a few years ago, several people took turns, a month to take care of it, if only one, but also to work, but also to take care of children, but also to take care of the elderly, not to be tired ah!
My aunt had a herniated disc in her waist the year before, which made my cousin particularly dazed, she said that she really envied that we had brothers and sisters who could discuss, and that she was so stressed!
When you get old, you know that children are more of a blessing
My mother-in-law often said that when you are young, you have more children, and you are indeed more tired, but when you are old, you know that children are more than a blessing.
My mother-in-law has two daughters and a son, and without thinking about anything, a few of our children bought it back for her.
And the children also like to talk and chat with her, people are old, there are not many material requirements, but in terms of spirit, they need more companionship from relatives.
The children around her envied her and said that she was blessed.
With brothers and sisters, the affection will be stronger, and it will also make you have more worries and live a warmer life.
When we married my partner, we planned to have two children.
Therefore, the two-child policy has been liberalized, and we have not hesitated to ask for the second treasure.
In fact, whether to have a second child or not, there are advantages and disadvantages.
Do not have a second child, the family can give all the love and resources to the child, the family pressure will be much less, the quality of life will be very high.
If you have a second child, because of the two children, the economic pressure and energy are much greater, if the economic conditions are average, the quality of life will be much lower.
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So whether to have a second child or not depends on your own choice, but I personally feel that I am still willing to raise two children, because I can make my children happier and happier.
No matter how much material wealth there is, it is better to give the child a blood relative, let the child have a relative, let the child have a relative!
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