Writer Zhou Guoping said: The sense of proportion is a sign of mature love, which knows how to abide by the necessary distance between people. This distance implies respect for the other person as an independent personality.
A sense of proportion is a kind of cultivation.
In the TV series "The World of Man", because of the matter of staying in the house, from Zhou Rong and Wu Qian, people can see the importance of a sense of proportion.
Mind will always be 18 years old Zhou Rong
Zhou Rong (played by Song Jia) is 38 years old, but there lives an 18-year-old girl's heart. This is Cai Xiaoguang's (played by Wang Yang) true evaluation of her.
Zhou Rong's psychological level has always stayed at the age of 18. In that year, she chased Feng Huacheng for thousands of miles and went to Guizhou to support teaching. The hardest thing she ever did was to cross the mountains and get the people in the mountains of Guizhou to support her daughter to come out and study.
In those years of volunteer teaching in Guizhou, she lived in a cave, and when she gave birth to her daughter Feng Yue, she was alone in the cave and cut the umbilical cord herself with scissors.
This was the greatest suffering she had suffered in 38 years. However, this period of time was sweet in her mind. Although the body is bitter, the spiritual world is very sweet.
Feng Huacheng never let Zhou Rong eat overnight meals, and would go to the cliff to pick flowers to send his wife on the way to work. She and her husband Feng Huacheng have a huge disparity in status, and she is highly respected as a teacher, but her husband is highly criticized.
After leaving Guizhou, Zhou Rong was admitted to Peking University. Over the years, her psychological age has not increased.
Her daughter Feng Yue has been living in the home of her younger brother Zhou Bingkun (played by Lei Jiayin), and is taken care of by Zheng Juan (played by Yin Tao). The mother's family of 4 squeezed a room, and Feng Yue lived alone. The younger brother's family still manages to eat and live, and Zhou Rong does not produce a penny.
12 years have passed since this care. At this time, Feng Yue was already 15 years old.
Feng Hua became able to be assigned to the house, gave up poetry and far away, and chose to enter the library to work. Unexpectedly, Zhou Rong couldn't look at Feng Huacheng, who had such a pyrotechnic gas.
The three views of the two mouths began to be inconsistent, and they often quarreled and mixed their mouths.
The house of the younger brother Zhou Bingkun was to be taken back by the original landlord, and Feng Yue's accommodation problem became the biggest problem. As a mother, Zhou Rong's first consideration is not her brother's difficulties, but her fear that her daughter has nowhere to live.
When her younger brother Zhou Bingkun wanted to go to Cai Xiaoguang for help, she actually hesitated. Such a sister is too chilling.
Is it impossible to pull a curtain in your own one-bedroom room and build a bed? No matter how bad it is, can't the two of them rent a house?
Only born and not raised, Zhou Rong's mother is unqualified. Over the years, Zhou Rong never felt indebted to her brother and daughter-in-law, and when she saw Zheng Juan say that she did not understand Feng Yue, her eyes were very intriguing.
As an older sister and eldest sister-in-law, she should have thought that her daughter's presence in her mother's house would affect the life of her brother's family. The reason why I want my daughter to move away is because I see that my daughter is very indifferent to me. She wanted to make amends. Zhou Rong This is a typical selfish behavior.
Seeing that Zhou Bingkun was powerless, Zhou Rong wanted to let her daughter have better living conditions. She cheekily went to find her eldest brother and sister-in-law Hao Dongmei (played by Sui Junbo).
Zhou Rong is very smart, and she says that she is very sensible, in fact, she hopes that her sister-in-law will take the initiative to let Feng Yue live in their home. Hao Dongmei is a very simple and kind woman, she is naturally as Zhou Rong wishes.
Awkwardness is more terrible than loneliness, and it is the best mockery of Zhou Rong
Zhou Rong, as a sister-in-law, if she let her daughter live in her uncle's house. This is also justified. As long as Zhou Bingyi and Dongmei are willing.
However, Zhou Bingyi currently lives in the house of his parents-in-law. Then he has no right to let his niece live.
This matter is bound to go through Dongmei's mother, Mrs. Jin.
Mrs. Jin was reluctant to let Feng Yue come to live at home. She was awake in the world and said 2 words: Please God is easy to send God, awkward is more terrible than loneliness.
These two sentences are the best mockery of Zhou Rong. Compared with Zhou Bingkun, he gave the house to his brothers for free to live in on National Day, which made the best reference.
Let's start with Zhou Bingkun. After he bought a house, he saw that life was difficult for National Day, so he lent the old house to the National Day family for free. In addition, he also arranged a bookstore job for Wu Qian, the wife of Guoqing. Zhou Bingkun is very righteous to his good friend.
Old Lady Jin's words: Please God is easy to send God is difficult. Got the best proof in Wu Qian. Zhou Bingkun was kind enough to let the Guoqing family live, but when he wanted to take back the house, Wu Qian actually dropped something and became angry, and even proposed that Zhou Bingkun arrange work for Guoqing as the premise before he could move out.
Fortunately, Guoqing is a person with three views, and he also thinks that his wife Wu Qian does not understand gratitude and has to make progress.
The two sons of Guoqing fulfilled this sentence of Old Lady Jin.
Awkwardness is more terrible than loneliness. This is again the golden sentence of old lady Jin. As a family, Mrs. Jin is indeed not obliged to let the children of her daughter's sister-in-law come to live in the house.
In case she doesn't get along with the child, or something happens to the child, she is responsible. When the time comes, it will definitely be very difficult for Dongmei to be sandwiched in the middle. That's what she thinks is awkward.
Mrs. Kim, did you do something wrong?
Mrs. Kim is a sober and thoughtful person, and the responsibility of raising a child is not only to eat well and dress warmly. The risks behind it are also what she has to consider.
She also knew that Zhou Rong was a human being. She was a person who had put her daughter in her mother's house for more than ten years. Such a selfish person, how could Mrs. Jin not understand?
If there is no brother of her own, Zhou Rong is forced to take her daughter with her, right? It is impossible for people to always rely on others to solve their own problems.
Zhou Rong is a woman who is good at turning her own troubles into other people's troubles. The friends and relatives around her are honest people and are all tolerant of her. Only Mrs. Jin is sober in the world and will not eat her set.
Mrs. Kim, did you do something wrong? She did nothing wrong, her purpose was to protect her daughter.
After all, Wu Qian is already the best example. Zhou Bingkun was kind enough to help, and finally he was not grateful, in exchange for that sentence: Is it to force our family to a dead end?
Zheng Juan silently paid to take care of Feng Yue for more than ten years, and did not see Zhou Rong grateful and grateful.
Mrs. Jin is worried that her daughter's sister-in-law relationship will be suspicious in the future. In case of a fallout after that, the daughter and the in-laws will not get along well, so she must prevent future troubles.
After all, with Zhou Rong's selfishness, if her house has not been allocated. She could really do the thing of letting the eldest brother and sister-in-law's family raise Feng Yue to adulthood and finally help her start a family.
After all, the younger daughter-in-law Zheng Juan has been paying for more than ten years, and it is also the turn of the eldest brother and sister-in-law to dedicate themselves to her. When the time comes, it will be very passive. Do you help or not?
Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Bingkun actually met a selfish sister like Zhou Rong, and they were helpless. After all, blood relations cannot be broken.
When she reaches a cadre of mrs. Jin's level, her vision will not be much worse. She didn't do anything wrong, but she had a sense of proportion. Stay away from selfish people like Zhou Rong, and don't have any involvement in anyone's good.
Suppose, Zhou Rong is really desperate, mrs. Jin will also help. As the saying goes, saving the emergency does not save the poor.
Helping is human affection, and not helping is the duty. The sense of proportion is the highest state of a person.
Mrs. Kim is definitely not a class concept. Today, this is the sentence: the circle is different, there is no need to be strong.
People who say that old ladies are wrong and selfish are very happy people.
Relatives and friends like Zhou Rong and Wu Qian came to live in the house, and then they did not leave and took the house for themselves. There are still some such strange people. It's just that you haven't encountered it.
Friends around me have a real case. After her sister-in-law got married, the two of them lived in her mother's house for 4 years, during which they became pregnant. Later, my brother got married, and the two of them did not leave. In the end, both sides had children, and the sister-in-law was "forced" to leave her mother's house.
In the end, the sister-in-law and her brother's family broke up. Kindly helped his sister to let her go back to her mother's house, and finally fell out of the vengeance. Typical Sheng Mien, Dou Mi Vengeance.
Exactly the same as Wu Qian in the play.
Therefore, Mrs. Kim is definitely a prescient and thorough elder.
People who understand naturally understand, and people who don't understand are very happy.
Excessive obedience is a sacrificial obedience, and excessive obedience can burden oneself with too much responsibility. Although he is obedient on the outside, he is full of resentment on the inside.