On February 9, the genius girl Gu Ailing instantly became a hot topic of discussion on the Internet after winning the championship, and this 18-year-old girl brought too many surprises to people.
Marvel at the winter Olympics freestyle skiing women's big jumping competition, she won the championship with a high difficult move, achieving a historic breakthrough for Chinese athletes in this event!
Marvel at this kind of talented athlete, not because of the sports expertise to enter the elite school, but himself is a proper academic bully, in 2020 with a SAT score of 1580 (out of 1600 points) to be admitted to Stanford University!
And the kind of hard-working, independent, confident, and assertive spirit in her body is even more enviable, and it makes people want to explore what kind of family can raise such an excellent girl!
After taking care of the environment in which Ai Ling grew up, I found that her family education was related to these factors.
Respect your child's choices
Some people think that Gu Ailing has a talent in skiing, which must be inseparable from having a mother who is a ski instructor, but in fact, Gu's mother has never forced her daughter to learn to ski, let alone ask her to achieve any success in skiing. Instead, let her experiment with possibilities and find what she loves.
Therefore, Gu Ailing plays piano, ballet, football, basketball, horse riding, volleyball, tennis... He has a wide range of interests in all aspects. In the end, through countless attempts and experiences, she chose to ski and showed a strong talent for skiing.
When the 8-year-old daughter proposed to join a professional ski team and receive professional ski training, as a professional ski instructor, Gu Mama knew that the sport was dangerous, but still respected and supported the child's decision, and gave the support of quality resources.
In the big jumping competition of the Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing once called her mother, and Gu's mother suggested that she do 1440 moves to ensure the silver medal. But in order to overcome herself, Gu Ailing chose to challenge the 1620 action that broke through the limits of herself, and Gu's mother also fully respected the child's choice, telling the child that "the choice is yours, this is your game, I hope you can enjoy it." ”
Looking at most parents, many times in the choice of children, often with the experience of the people who have come to think of themselves, help the children decide the path, and even force the children to obey.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, less utilitarianism, respect and support for children's interests and hobbies, he will go further than you think, and the enjoyment of doing what you like can't be bought at any cost.
Embrace "encouraging" education
Many parents are very anxious, urging their children to go to school every day, write homework, sleep, make up lessons, and educate their children to either rely on yelling, or use blows and negation methods to spur children to learn and move forward. Mother Gu is more committed to "encouraging" education.
Imagine when an 8-year-old child, shortly after starting professional ski training, proudly tells you, "I'm going to participate in the Olympic Games in the future", are you sneering, or is it a joke? But Gu's mother is sincerely supporting her child's dream, and in her failures and setbacks, accompany her, train her, and carefully protect her self-confidence.
I once watched a Thai public service short film, "Bean Sprouts", which tells the story of a mother who starts from planting bean sprouts and teaches her children to realize their dreams.
The little girl suddenly wanted to plant bean sprouts one day to buy, and the mother did not deny it, but chose to try it with the child.
In the process of trying to grow bean sprouts, the first time it failed, the mother said to the child, "Let's try again." "Then accompany the child to find the reason, read the instructions, and study the growth of bean sprouts." The second time failed, the mother continued to encourage her daughter, they reformulated the method of growing bean sprouts, and this time it finally succeeded. When the mother asks the child if she wants to plant something else? The daughter learned her mother's tone and said firmly, Let's try.
Most of the Chinese-style education is to put the purpose in front, to strive for the result, but rarely pay attention to the needs and experiences of children in this process, so often the results are achieved, and the children are actually only mechanically executed, and there is not much sense of acquisition and growth.
Lead by example and don't give up learning
Gu Ailing's academic bully attribute is related to the concept that her mother must insist on learning no matter what the situation, Gu Ailing herself is a person who has always insisted on learning, and she is the same principle for Gu Ailing. Every day, no matter how late and how hard the training is, her mother asks Gu Ailing to complete her homework well, so after Gu Ailing wins the championship, the first thing to do when she returns to the hotel is to write her homework.
The benefits of learning are known to everyone, but there are very few parents who can insist on learning and lead by example, and most parents will only force their children to study well and forget their exemplary role. Therefore, if you want your child to learn, parents must first love to learn and create a strong learning environment for their children.
The Most Holy Confucius once said: "His body is upright, and he does not follow orders; his body is not right, although he does not obey orders." "I want to reflect more as a parent is myself, parents are the first teachers of children, and the influence of parents on children is like a never-ending force that will last a child's life."