The best home-school relationship is: parents support the teacher, teachers support the child

Truly wonderful relationships

are mutually supportive

The most beautiful home-school relationship is

Parents support teachers

Teachers support the child

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Parents' attitudes

Affects the growth of children

Many people have been touched and influenced by a short film on the Internet.

The little girl usually accompanied her mother to sell vegetables in the wet market, and because the bean sprouts in the shop next door sold well, the little girl asked her mother: "Can we grow them and sell them?" ”

Mom's answer was, "Let's try." ”

Due to the lack of planting experience, after the first test of water, all the bean sprouts died, but even so, my mother still said with a smile: "It's okay, let's try again." ”

So, the mother found a book to grow bean sprouts, and tried again with her daughter according to the method in the book, only to find that it still failed.

When they actively studied the problem and tried again, the little girl asked worriedly, "Will it succeed?" Mom still says, "Let's try!" ”

The sprouts finally grew, and the mother and daughter were excited. What's more, the little girl grew up with a scholarship and is currently doing research work in Sweden.

When we watch this video, we will all sigh how important it is for children to teach their parents' words and deeds.

If this mother has any impatience, or if she often feels hopeless about her life, she may not have even fulfilled her daughter's proposal to plant sprouts from the beginning.

If the mother had simply left her daughter to explore on her own, perhaps such a young child might have given up the experiment early because she could not afford to fail.

"Let's try." What an ordinary sentence, but full of magic. These four words tell the child: we must keep hope in the unknown and dare to try for it.

Everyone has been affected by their parents' attitudes since they were born.

Each of us actually knows ourselves by knowing the world, and our parents are the people who helped us to know the world in the first place.

What we get from our parents' words is permission, and we dare to take another step forward;

What we see in the eyes of our parents is fear, and we hide behind them forever;

What we see in the behavior of our parents is dissatisfaction, and we learn not to look at the whole world.

So, the same is true for school education, if parents do not respect the teacher, will the child still respect the teacher, respect the rules and regulations of the school, and grow up together?

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It's about supporting your own children

Educator Duo Huhui shared a story:

The son of a botanist took an unknown grass and asked the teacher for advice, but the teacher did not know him.

So the teacher and Yan Yue said to him, "Your father is a famous botanist, you may wish to consult him, and the teacher also wants to know the secret of the grass." ”

The next day, the child came to the teacher again: "Dad said it, and he didn't know the name of the grass." He also said, teacher, you must know, but you forgot it for a while. ”

After speaking, the child also handed over a letter written by his father to the teacher.

The teacher opened the letter, which detailed the name and characteristics of the grass, and finally attached a sentence: I hope that this question will be answered by the teacher, presumably more appropriate.

This parent's approach is very clever, he lowers his identity, supports the teacher, helps the teacher to shape the image in the child's mind, in fact, this is also to support his own child!

Zhu Yu, the principal of Shanghai, shared a similar experience.

When her daughter was in the fourth grade, she was very naughty and always broke into trouble, and as a result, at the end of the semester, the teacher gave a five-line comment without a word of affirmation for the child.

The daughter was very sad, and when she came home, she didn't eat food, and cried and asked her, "Mom, am I really bad?"

That night, Zhu Mom lost sleep, and the teacher's comments were unforgettable even for her to watch after 14 years as a class teacher.

She knew that the daughter who had been criticized had taken a blow to her confidence and had even begun to doubt herself!

But she also thought of herself as a middle school principal, who had shared on the podium countless times: "Parents must support the teacher!" School is a place for children to go every day, and it is impossible for parents to replace teachers no matter how big they are. ”

This time it comes to me, what should I do?

She wrote a letter overnight, not to her teacher, but to her daughter:

Boy, have you ever seen a sharpened knife?

Putting the knife on the whetstone and sharpening it, the knife must have hurt, but he didn't make a sound, because he knew that only after such a sharpening could he become a good knife, a fast knife.

Do you want to become such a good knife? That's going to be a grind!

After you went to bed, your mother had already talked to the teacher on the phone, and the teacher said that today's comment was a whetstone, that is, to let you accept repeated grinding.

When you correct the shortcomings in the review, you will be a sword that is unique in the world.

Later, she talked a lot with her daughter and helped her reshape her understanding of herself, and her daughter also wrote herself a lot of "comments" about Zhongyun.

Zhu Mom said that this matter is still very afraid to this day, the child will not learn anything from the teacher she does not like, if it is not handled in this way at that time, what will be the result?

She often uses this story to encourage teachers to measure their children's rulers and make them feel successful.

She will also use this story to remind parents that teachers will not deliberately criticize children, parents who encounter problems can communicate with teachers privately, but they must support the teacher in front of their children, which is the best policy!

That's how a kind, tolerant child is taught. Teachers are also ordinary people, and for the imperfection of teachers, parents choose tolerance and support in front of their children.

This approach is the best education: parents support the teacher, and the teacher supports the child from the heart, so that the child can grow healthier.

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Parents should give

How supportive the teachers and children are

Treat your child:

We can re-see the world through the child's eyes, so that he himself has more curiosity to explore the view of a thing, the usefulness of a thing, and even the appearance of a flower.

● In ordinary life, carefully care for children's curiosity.

Only when the child has hope, will he have the goal of growth, and can he learn the lessons in his life experience, rather than always thinking that his future is impossible.

● When talking to your child, ask a few more questions: "Why?" "Maybe you'll get a completely different answer than you expected.

The child's world is simple, don't use our adult ideas to "empathize".

● If you can, it is recommended that you can personally accompany your child to see the world.

In this process of looking at the world, we allow the child to see it from his own eyes without rushing to say his own thoughts, and perhaps his perspective will bring you infinite surprises.

We can accompany the child far enough, the child has the strength to go further.

● Teach children to respect teachers and participate in the world of children's learning.

The relationship between teachers and parents is complementary, parents are the first step for children to understand the world, and teachers play an indispensable role in the educational process of children's learning and growth. Both parents and teachers should actively participate in the learning world with their children and grow up together.

To treat teachers, you need to understand:

● Teachers are educators, not nannies.

"I've handed it over to you, child, you should talk about it, you should scold, we've all handed it over to you." This sentence is the favorite of parents to say, but teachers often do not like to hear it. This sentence seems to be polite, but the words are more of a sense of shirking responsibility. Teachers' concern for students is not the same as "maternal love", and it is a misunderstanding of education to expect teachers to treat students as their own children.

● Deal with problems to be reasonable.

If something happens to the child at school, let the parents care. The parents' mood can be understood, but they must also understand the truth of the matter clearly, and they cannot "see the wind is the rain." Think about it from another angle, your emotions will be much better. If you are still not satisfied with how things are handled, you can ask the school for doubts, but the most important point in all things is:

Never say in front of your child that the teacher is not. If the child knows that the parents do not respect the teacher, they will not respect it either, which will not do any good for the child's growth.

Source | Teachers' Camp, Hai'an Middle School

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