Half a month ago, I suddenly had unbearable stomach pain, and after a hospital examination, I found that I had stomach cancer. Yesterday I was resting in a hospital bed, and my eldest daughter-in-law called Xiaoli, and Xiaoli thought I was asleep and bowed down at the door

Half a month ago, I suddenly had unbearable stomach pain, and after a hospital examination, I found that I had stomach cancer. Yesterday I was lying on the hospital bed resting, my eldest daughter-in-law called Xiaoli, Xiaoli thought I was asleep, so she whispered at the door, after listening to her call, I was surprised in my heart, I did not expect Xiaoli to make such a decision, I have mixed feelings.

I am sixty-six years old and now live with my eldest daughter-in-law. My wife and I are both rural people, the family used to plant a pear garden, every year to sell pears can also earn some money, is to rely on this pear garden, I put the eldest son to college, the eldest son also competed, after graduating from college successfully found a job outside, but also became a family.

When the eldest son got married, we gave my son 400,000 yuan, which is almost all the savings we have saved from selling pears over the years, so that my son can buy a house with a down payment. The eldest daughter-in-law is a city person, her parents are both workers, and the conditions in the city should be considered average, but compared to our family, it is much better.

Two years after the eldest son got married, when his wife was picking pears at home, she accidentally fell from the tree, and when she was older, she fell and never woke up again. This incident hit me so hard that I fell ill all at once.

After almost half a year, I recovered, I no longer had the energy and confidence to manage my pear orchard, I transferred the pear orchard to my young son. The eldest son took me to the city to get me out of this sad place and live with them all the time.

When I got to the city, I was not idle, I have been helping the eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law to wash and cook, but I have no salary, I only have 100,000 yuan of pension money in my hand now, I don't want to take it out, I think I have to keep this money for emergencies.

Although Xiaoli and I get along politely, we still have many irreconcilable contradictions. For example, I came from the countryside and I was used to frugality. I used to watch TV without turning on the lights and save electricity. The water for washing clothes, which I like to follow, is used to flush the toilet.

But Xiaoli is different from me, she told me that watching TV must be turned on, especially when there are children, it will affect the child's vision. And, the water for washing clothes, she told me not to keep it for a long time, this water has been left for a few days, it will be very smelly, making the air in the toilet too smelly.

Xiaoli Taobao to buy things that is really a good hand, every day there is a courier to our home, I don't know, she has something to buy, I feel that she likes to buy everything, they also have a mortgage car loan, I don't know to save a little. But she told me that she bought all the bargains, just to save money. But I thought, isn't it more economical not to buy?

Also, I don't like to use dish soap when I wash dishes, because I think there are chemical drugs, and I use boiling water to boil the dishes every time, but Xiaoli said that this is too unhygienic. She insisted that I use dish soap, but I didn't follow hers. So she and I often had a cold war, didn't talk, and when I washed it once, she took it and washed it again. I felt like I was punching me in the face, and I felt very uncomfortable.

I think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be like this, and it cannot be so coordinated, but I think that there is not much quarrel between us, and I think other families should also live like this, after all, the habits and concepts of the two generations are different, what can be done?

A week ago, I suddenly had a terrible stomach pain, and after a hospital examination, I found that I had stomach cancer. I was very sad and scared in my heart, fortunately this time the eldest son and Xiaoli were involved in the whole process, the eldest son wanted to go to work, Xiaoli specially asked for leave to accompany me to the hospital for a preliminary examination, a review, and there was no pull down.

Xiaoli has been afraid that I am not happy, has been with me, until the re-examination of my stomach cancer is early, the doctor said that it is not too serious, as soon as possible to arrange surgery, you can recover as soon as possible. My mood is only a little better, and my heart will be less nervous and sad.

At night I lay in the hospital bed to rest, Xiaoli thought I was asleep, so she whispered a phone call at the door, I heard her calling her parents, I thought she must be complaining about me, saying that I was dragging her down, making her work unsuccessful, and taking leave to take care of me. I didn't think of a call that Xiaoli said, I was really touched in my heart, I didn't think she was such a person.

Xiaoli was whispering to her mother to borrow money, saying that she would let her mother borrow 150,000 yuan for her first, and Xiaoli said that they were a little tight on hand and not enough. I was afraid that my surgery money would not be enough to pay, which would affect my later treatment and chemotherapy. It should be Xiaoli's mother asking, our relationship is not very good, why Xiaoli is so dedicated.

Xiao Li is saying that although we usually bump and bump into each other for a year, but what she said is that I have a good heart, am very kind, and have always been very good to her. It's just that the usual living habits are different, and there is no big contradiction. She said she should borrow this money, but also to share my son's worries, so that he can go to work with peace of mind.

I listened to this call, my tears slowly flowed down, I think I still did not understand my eldest daughter-in-law, did not expect her to be such a kind-hearted person. I thought I still had 100,000 yuan in my hand. I never said it, just in case. Thinking about it this way, I don't think my thoughts can reach the height of Xiaoli.

I also decided not to let Xiaoli borrow money from her mother. I took out this hundred thousand yuan myself, originally in case of emergency, and now it is time to use this money, not to mention for myself. What do you say?

@Zaizai is very motivated Your daughter-in-law is a reasonable person, and you are not bad! No matter who in life there will be some contradictions, there will be different concepts, there will be unpleasant times, but suffering sees the truth, and when you have difficulties, you can see the good and the bad.

  Although the daughter-in-law said that many of your concepts are different, she will do her best to lend it to you, indicating that she is a child who understands things and is filial and kind-hearted, and I think it is okay for you to take it out, one is to get through the difficulties, and the other is to be harmonious. The eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law are not so stressed. I think she will also see all of this in her eyes, and you have such a filial daughter-in-law in your later years