Here, I want to ask you a question,
Do you think marriage is a matter for two people?
Or is it a one-man thing?
Two people? A person's?
Let's explore it together!
1. What is marriage?
Mr. Qian Zhongshu's classic famous sentences are always spread by the world, marriage is the terminator of love,
Marriage is a besieged city, and people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out.
Those who want to go into the city and those who want to go out of the city can only explain from beginning to end,
The problem is not the marriage, but the person in the marriage!
I was also the one who went out of the city, and I deeply realized that I thought it was marriage.
Can shelter us from the wind and rain, can enrich our spiritual home,
Unexpectedly, I did not expect to bring me wind and rain;
I realized that marriage is the graveyard of love, marriage is broken, and love has no place to die.
Understand that having a marriage is not a great thing, and a marriage with love is a great thing!
Understand that a good marriage will make people more powerful, and a bad marriage will make people worse than the freezing cold!
2. The key to marriage is not the contradiction, but how to deal with the contradiction together!
Aren't we women marrying for divorce, right?
How to achieve happiness in a relationship is also a common pursuit of all men and women, right?
Over and over again, I thought and thought, why did we get married in the first place?
Is it the need for sex, the need for emotion?
Is it the need for attachment, this need for attachment that accompanies each other and is considerate?
Is it the need for love, the result of intimacy, passion and commitment?
What to do when the passion subsides?
Increase physical contact and value the diversification of sexual life?
After all, we are all partial to traditional women, ashamed to talk about sex, and even think dirty and hooligan...
And the way couples get along happily and romantically is inseparable from this special topic!
A lot of the sex knowledge of girls comes from the other half,
And the other half of the sexual culture mostly comes from tertiary films,
I have to admit that this can be said to be the core source of many family unhappiness!
If the body and mind of the husband and wife are one, romance and excitement are one,
Love and thoughtfulness are one, so what is the situation?
Do these simple but joyful things,
It would be better to achieve the firm responsibility and belief of marriage, right?
I am like every woman who pursues physical, mental, and spiritual happiness.
Full of heart, patience, confidence, love...
But the premise of all handling contradictions is that two people are willing to be honest,
Respect objective facts, land on the way to face, not
In the name of love, marriage is bound, but so...
I reflect, I study, I learn all aspects of the marriage relationship,
The epiphany, like lightning piercing my body.
3. Finally understand that marriage is a one-person affair!
However, I didn't understand this sentence at all.
I just found that I completely understood in this world,
There's nothing out there, just yourself.
For the first time, I felt the feeling of oneness with my own soul,
For the first time, I felt,
If I don't think other people in this world love me enough,
It's because I don't love myself enough.
It's because I don't love others enough, I'm asking for it,
It's because, it's because I'm not worthy.
For the first time, I felt that there was only one subject in my life, and that was to love myself!
From that moment on, I stopped deliberately managing gender relations, male and female relations, all kinds of relationships.
I no longer manage all my relationship with everything.
I'm really starting to understand,
It turns out that marriage is not a matter of two people! It's a one-man affair!
To love yourself, you must let yourself continue to grow, exercise well, and be energetic!
Let yourself live as a beam of light! Melt love into life with the temperature of light!
4. Originally, the triple realm of love,
From the demand you will get this is the love of the request!
Entering into the pay will be rewarded, this is the exchange of love!
And another level of life, called unconditional love for myself,
No matter what kind of person he is,
It is called paying without asking for returns, and only then will you get real rewards!
May these three points also make you happier and live yourself!
First, if you love others, others will love you.
You will feel like you are loving yourself,
Then someone else will love you!
Second, you will know how to love yourself in the way you love yourself, how to love others correctly.
Third, you will also know that you do not love yourself, nor do you love others, you are love itself!
Fourth, you are the root of everything! You are the spirit of the universe!