Do you get better before you fall in love, or do you love each other first?

Hello, everyone, I'm Li Shugen.

Today I want to let everyone figure out one thing - self-improvement and falling in love are not in conflict at all.

Self-improvement, this word is not unfamiliar to everyone, it is our core competitiveness in mate selection.

Every one more skill we have, every step up, means more opportunities to meet better, more compatible girls.

But everyone seems to have a certain misunderstanding of it, always thinking that personal promotion must be ranked before falling in love, and must be completely promoted to a certain extent before you can have love.

Friends, it is very clear that this is not the case, personal promotion and love can be carried out at the same time.

Personal improvement is a process of increasing attractiveness, which is to increase to full marks little by little on the basis of the original.

In the process of increasing, we will definitely attract different opposite sexes more or less, at this time, we can completely bring enough confidence to fall in love.

There is no need to wait until you stand at the top of the pyramid to start.

Perhaps, some friends will complain and complain that they are determined to improve, but after hard work, they do not see that the opposite sex is attracted to them.

At this time, we must think hard about whether we are running the wrong path.

Otherwise, I ran with all my strength for a long time, but the result was getting farther and farther away from the end.

The following tells you in detail what kind of mentality we should have when facing self-improvement and love.

Let me give you an example.

Some time ago, a friend told me that he was reunited with the goddess of high school for a long time, and it happened that the goddess was single, and he wanted to chase it, so he asked me for help.

I learned about this friend, who was tall enough, not ugly, had a house, a car, and a job with a decent salary.

This can be pursued.

When I told him to be brave enough to pursue, his reaction was, I'm a little fat, or wait until my fitness is fruitful and then pursue?

He is certainly not the only one in a similar situation.

When you do anything that you are slightly unsure of, you want to set yourself a goal and wait until you reach that goal to do it.

In fact, the essence is that you are escaping.

Friends, have you ever felt that the scene is very familiar. Just like many times we decide not to stay up late, and as a result, from the moment we lie in bed, we have already thought of an excuse to continue to stay up.

You know, "get better and then chase" and "stay up today and go to bed early" is a truth.

We negotiate peace with ourselves temporarily on a condition, and give ourselves a deadline, and the end of this period is ambiguous.

How to define excellence? How many are there today?

Many times, we have less courage, the courage to face it directly.

How do you know that people will definitely dislike you for being fat, in case they don't care about the outside at all, only about the economic conditions.

You didn't even try it, so you directly pronounced the judgment on yourself, so that even if it was originally the dish in your bowl, you gave it to others.

At this time, there may be friends who want to start barding.

"When I'm good enough, like having money and power, I'm not just picking."

Yes, this logic holds true if there is no time limit.

But life is only so long, in a limited time, are you really sure that you can be rich enough and powerful enough?

I think everyone knows that this is more uncertain than the pursuit of the goddess.

Maximizing happiness is to seek the right other half while effectively improving yourself, and then be surrounded by a happy atmosphere and get better together.

Be brave and don't be afraid of rejection. In a sense, rejection is not a bad thing.

It allows us to recognize our own shortcomings, and even recognize the gap between our own expectations and those of the other party.

The next thing we have to do is make sense of rejection – make a plan for promotion.

Find out what you lack, personality, hobbies, knowledge, thoughts, appearance, economy, etc., and make a clear and specific list of plans for yourself.

Like what:

In terms of personality, you can ask yourself not to lose your temper for a week.

In terms of hobbies, you can choose one of several ways to try.

In terms of knowledge, it is possible to stipulate a time to read a book.

In terms of thoughts, you can write your feelings after watching movies and books.

In terms of appearance, you can try to make yourself neat and tidy.

Economically, you can set a savings goal in the short term and so on.

These clear and concrete, landable improvement plans, in the process of our slow accumulation of one by one, we must be changing.

Perhaps, each change is not obvious enough to be observed, but under the accumulation of our quantitative changes, qualitative changes will definitely occur.

We will also find that in this process, the desire for love we seek becomes less urgent, but girls from all directions flock to you.

So, friends, this is a sure-no-lose action.

Stop dragging your feet, start now and let yourself act.

I wish everyone an early rise to become the excellent you want.