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Although it is very hard to take the baby, if you are patient enough, you will gain a lot of happiness from the process of taking the baby, and in the process of the baby's growth, you will also get a lot of new insights.
The process of parent-child companionship is for adults and children to grow up together.
My baby is exactly 3 years old, when the baby is 3 months old, he has been working outside for a few months, until the baby is 10 months old, quit his job, became a full-time mother, these two years have been inseparable from the baby, for the baby and companionship has a new understanding.
Babies enter their first rebellious period after the age of 2
Every child grows up going through three rebellious periods, the difference is that some children are particularly strong, and some children are not obvious.
No matter what type the child belongs to, these three stages must exist, even if the child is well-behaved and sensible beyond the age group, the inner waves must exist.
Parents must pay attention to it, use scientific methods to face their children's rebellion, and guide their children to grow in the right direction.
Before the baby is 2 years old, we often look forward to the child growing up quickly, and when the child is 2 years old, we think that it is much more comfortable to bring a baby.
In fact, by the time the child really enters the stage of 2 years old, new problems come again.
After the age of 2, the baby's behavioral ability has improved significantly, and the language expression ability has improved by leaps and bounds.
At this time, the baby has a lot of ideas, but the language expression ability is limited, the behavior ability is limited, so it is easy to be anxious because of a little thing, and even some babies will use crying to express emotions.
What makes parents even more headache is that when the baby is around the age of 3, he always likes to work with his parents.
As long as it is what the parents let the baby do, the baby will say "no", there is no reason to do it, in short, it is to oppose the parents.
If the parents are a little tougher, the baby will cry again to protest.
The 3-year-old is working against his mother everywhere
The baby of a good friend's family just goes through such a stage, which makes the friend feel very headache.
When a mother asks her baby to wash her hands, she will say "No, I don't want to wash her hands" and look serious.
Her mother let her sleep, and even if she was so sleepy that she couldn't open her eyes, she would instantly beat her spirit and say she wouldn't sleep.
In short, the mother and other family members emphasize that the child always says no.
This made her very angry, because in a few days the baby will go to school, she is really worried that the child will not be able to adapt in school, worried that the teacher will not be as patient as she is, and the child will be wronged at school.
In fact, this kind of performance of the baby is a manifestation of the rebellious period and the sensitive period, it is a normal performance, if your baby also has such a performance, there is no need to worry at all, the child's performance shows that the child's brain development is very good, the child's self-awareness is very good, and parents should be happy, not anxious about it.
How to properly guide children in the rebellious period?
Is the child in a rebellious period, working against the parents, and allowing the child to develop?
Of course not, 2 to 3 years old, is a very critical stage, the correct guidance of children, to lay a good foundation for children's values, is good for the child's growth and character development are good.
What should be done, what should not be done, or passed on to the child, to lay the foundation for the child's values is on the one hand, on the other hand, it will also be related to safety.
Parents do a good job of guidance, it is beneficial and harmless to the child, parents indulge their children, and there is no harm to the child.
But it's critical to have the boot method correct.
Children enter the rebellious period, there are three aspects of change, on the one hand, "I" in their hearts infinitely magnified, on the one hand, they do not want to be bound by their parents, on the other hand, their self-esteem is gradually developing, it is precisely because of the existence of self-esteem, they do not want to be controlled by parents everywhere.
Again, this is a good thing, only when the brain develops to a certain stage, the child will have these inner changes and behavioral changes.
At this time, parents should follow three principles when educating their babies:
1. The principle of patient communication
The more rebellious the child, the more patient the parent should be.
Unfortunately, when children are slightly disobedient, many parents become restless, anxious, and emotionally irritable.
Children are rebellious, parents are irritable, and the generation gap between the two has slowly formed from this time, and finally becomes insurmountable.
It is precisely because the child is rebellious that parents should be more patient.
Put down the posture, communicate patiently with the child with a parallel attitude and vision, when the parents do this, they will be pleasantly surprised to find that the child will slowly change his attitude and will be more willing to accept the parents.
2. The principle of respecting children
Children are small, do not understand things, what principles are not principled, then small children, listen to adults, is the last word.
If parents really think like this, they must not really understand their children, and it must be difficult to achieve true harmony in parent-child relationships.
The relationship between people and people is mutual, so are relatives and friends, and so are parents and children.
Although the child is dependent on the parents for survival, the child is an independent individual, which is the premise that we must admit.
Only when we accept this reality and then respect the child's wishes can we truly communicate with the child.
And this state is to start from the child's early childhood to lay a good foundation.
After the child enters the rebellious period after the age of 2, it is better to listen to the baby's thoughts, and respect the child's personal wishes without any harm, things become much simpler.
3. Change "can't" into "do it"
Daily communication with the little ones is also exquisite, more positive communication with the child, more "do this", reduce the chance of denying the child, until the verbal "can not" disappear, you will find that the child has become more sensible.
Children enter a rebellious period, their self-awareness increases, do not want to be controlled by parents, when parents reduce the commanding tone, increase the number of positive communication with children, children will really follow the right approach to restrain their behavior.
It is not easy to take a baby, to ensure the safety of the child is the most basic, but with the baby is not so difficult, when we can really put the child in a parallel position with us, communicate patiently with the child, treat the child as an independent individual, all problems are solved.