#每日一省day105要沟通不要争吵和评判. Mom always said that my dad didn't like to do housework, she did it alone, so hard. Seriously, it's always visible with mom

#每日一省 day105

Communicate without arguing and judging.

Mom always said that my dad didn't like to do housework, she did it alone, so hard. Seriously, with my mother, I can always see violent communication and judge people at every turn.

To cook fish at night, my mother said that my father made it more delicious, but he was very lazy and unwilling to help, he knew to watch, he knew to play with his mobile phone, and he kept nagging there. Don't say my dad is annoyed, I'm annoyed when I listen.

Come to think of it, is my dad really lazy? How to define laziness? Lazy without housework? Dad is at work 360 days a year, 365 days a year, and I am called up by my mother at 6 o'clock every day, and the work is also more difficult, so I want to rest when I go home at night, and I hardly do housework. Of course, my mother is also very diligent, but the housework is all done by her, I know she wants her father to help a little, but she did not communicate well, always said that you are so lazy, do not help me or the like, never praise or give positive feedback. So much so that she has been in this cycle.

Tonight, Mom told Dad a little bit, Dad is still very willing to help, so communication is a bridge, but also to understand each other. No matter what kind of relationship, we must understand and tolerate each other, and say more observations and feelings, rather than judgment and accusation.

Although the parents are noisy, but they are all small mouths, no big problems, at most two days of cold war. From my parents, I also learned how to get along as husband and wife, even if they are negative teaching materials. There is a saying that listening to other people's stories and feeling your own life makes sense.