How do I face a frustrated, bleak life? 34 years old, male, single, located in a first-tier city, I feel that my life is very frustrated, very frustrated, this time thinking about my own life

How do I face a frustrated, bleak life?

34 years old, male, single, located in a first-tier city, I feel that my life is very frustrated, very frustrated, this time thinking about my life, very desperate.

In many things, it is very tossed and turned (if you want to find a job in a year, you go to 100 previous companies for interviews within that year, but you still don't find the job you want to work, and finally you can only reluctantly go to work in some unsatisfactory small companies, and several of them are the kind that went a few months in the work, and the company went out of business for some reasons), it can be said that the results of many things are not satisfactory. Whether it is in courtship, work career, interpersonal relationships, it is a mess, and it can even be said to be a very failure. Now facing marriage, economic career two mountains, and I still hide the family debt 200,000 stocks, no formal job, with my brother to do e-commerce, take a few thousand yuan of living expenses every month, and the relationship with my parents is not very good, I dare not expect my parents to help me, I do not dare to think about the future, often it is easy to feel panic, helplessness, helplessness, anxiety, despair, I seem to be unable to accept the life and myself that I am living so much now, everyone said, Is there really a need for my life to continue? 【Readers' Questions】

@Learning is the treasure of the body's answer:

Hello!

From your description, I feel the despair, helplessness, panic, anxiety, pain, and overwhelm in your heart.

The troubles caused by your unsatisfactory life will not be repeated here, and I give you three suggestions for your reference:

First of all, I suggest you try to accept your state.

Because doing so will make your heart a little lighter, it will help you think about what to do next.

You said that you are 34 years old, single, boys, in first-tier cities, but work, marriage is very frustrated, now with his brother to do e-commerce, every month to earn thousands of dollars, which makes you feel that life is a failure, in fact, your state is normal, it is understandable, because everyone wants to live, work, and marriage Everything is smooth, and they are also eager to get the approval of others, so you have to try to accept your own state, "see" that is very desperate, but temporarily powerless to change the status quo, painful self, This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your brain will always be surrounded by all kinds of negative emotions.

More importantly, it may sound contradictory to have the ability to try to accept your state of affairs in order to promote a change in the status quo, but that's the way it is, because change is based on allowing not to change.

Second, I suggest you look at your current situation rationally.

Because looking at it rationally can make you better understand yourself and reality.

To look at it rationally, you need to do the following two things:

The first is to see your own advantages.

You said in the description that you feel that you are very frustrated and frustrated in life, maybe you feel that you are useless, but in fact, it is not like this, because everyone has advantages, you are no exception, I see your self-motivation from your description, you "admit" that you are very unsuccessful, indicating that you have courage, so you see, you have advantages.

The second is to learn to look at yourself with the perspective of development.

Maybe let you see your own shining point, you also feel that you are very failed, there is no confidence in yourself, then you have to learn to look at yourself with the perspective of development, because you still have a lot of time and energy to improve yourself and improve yourself, even if you are 34 years old, make yourself better, from now on, it is too late, so you have to see the power of time.

When you look at your state in such a rational way, the various negative emotions in your heart may dissolve a little.

Again, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to make yourself better.

When you look at your state rationally, you may also know what to do, then you focus on yourself and try to do a good job.

For example, you can think about the reasons why you are not satisfactory in finding a job, whether your positioning is not accurate enough, which requires you to objectively analyze the advantages and disadvantages, do not overestimate yourself, give yourself a relatively reasonable positioning, which may allow you to find a relatively better job;

You should also understand that debt stock trading is an extremely inappropriate thing and should be stopped immediately, because stock trading has great risks and needs to be cautious, not to mention that you are still in debt;

If you do not have a clear positioning of yourself, or have not yet found a better paid job, you can try to do some part-time work to make money to pay off debts, for example, as a delivery man, and so on, this kind of work that can be started at any time, although it is hard, but you can repay the money through your own efforts, it is likely to make you have some confidence in yourself;

You can also consciously improve and improve your own shortcomings, such as reading some related books, or learning from others, or trying to find ways to improve your current job, etc., so that you can find a better job, when you make yourself better, your income will increase, your marital problems, it is very likely to be solved; etc., in short, you must know that you can pay for action to make yourself better.

When you start to act, the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally slowly dissolve, because sometimes the enemy of various negative emotions is action.

You asked, how to face the setbacks in life, my answer is, face the painful life, in order to get out of the pain, you use action to make yourself better, is to face the bleak and frustrated life, and this is the way out of the difficulties of life.

In addition, I hope that you can have some patience with yourself and understand the principle of delayed gratification, because good work needs to be done step by step, good relationships, and good interpersonal relationships, and you also need to learn a little in practice.

Hope my answer helps you. #Emotional Review Awards # #解忧生活馆 #