In our daily life, going out to work hard, in order to save costs, we often choose to share the way to reduce their cost of living, but when it comes to sharing, most of what we can think of is that people of the same sex live together, and although the opposite sex of the shared house exists, there will be some trouble and hidden dangers.
Because people are the most complex animals, complex is complex in people have erratic emotions, the opposite sex gets along together, we have both the word love at first sight to describe the rapid call feeling of both sides, and there is also a word of long-term love to describe the slow heating process of the establishment of feelings between the two sides, no matter what, as long as the opposite sex lives together, once the restrictions of time and space are lifted, then the trend of the relationship between the two parties can not be predicted.
Just so-called: love does not know the beginning of the past and deep affection, but the feeling is a development mode of interaction between the two sides, unrequited love or wishful thinking will not promote any substantial development of feelings, but will drive backwards, and may even worsen the original relationship between the two sides, therefore, how to treat and deal with the relationship between the opposite sex is also our daily compulsory course.
Xiao Yan (pseudonym) is a good-looking young girl, she came to the city to work hard in order to live, and rented a two-bedroom house alone, but the income is tight, the expenses have not decreased, after paying a one-time rent of 3600 yuan to the landlord, her life suddenly fell into a difficult situation.
In order to alleviate her financial pressure, Xiaoyan plans to rent out a smaller room, in order to find a suitable tenant as soon as possible, she also contacted her male friend Liu Gang (pseudonym) at the first time, hoping that he can help find a suitable tenant.
Xiao Yan said that her current economy is very difficult, after paying the rent, there are only more than a hundred yuan left on her body, and eating has become a problem, so she hopes to find tenants as soon as possible, requiring each other to be unlimited men and women, good character, and other special requirements, not to mention that because of professional reasons, she has to leave work at two or three o'clock in the morning, and some people can also take care of each other, killing two birds with one stone.
Hearing this, Liu Gang, who originally had a good feeling for Xiao Yan, said with him half-jokingly that he could not share a room with her, Xiao Yan agreed without thinking much, clearly stating that he was very short of money, so that Liu Gang moved over as soon as possible, at the same time, Xiao Yan and Liu Gang also agreed that she had no intention of falling in love, and the two sides were purely shared.
However, when Liu Gang happily moved in with Xiao Yan for half a month, he claimed that he was kicked out of the door, which made him feel very angry, thinking that Xiao Yan was playing with him, of course, since the matter had happened, Liu Gang said that he could not care, but hoped that Xiao Yan could open the door and return the two pet cats he shared with him, because these two cats he had kept for several years, very emotional, but when he moved away, the two cats did not know where to hide at that time, so they could not be taken away in time.
However, for the appeal of going to the door to find the cat, Xiao Yan refused to open the door, which made Liu Gang fall into embarrassment, in order to understand the situation, the reporter called Xiao Yan, and the result was that Liu Gang was very perverted, his purpose was not to find a cat at all, that is, to constantly harass her in the name of finding a cat, she in order to avoid harassment, liu Gang was driven out of the door after she also moved to another place to hide.
The reason why this happened, Xiao Yan explained that she planned to become the second landlord at that time, because of the lack of money and Liu Gang's male friend, she agreed to let him move over to the house, but gradually, she found that Liu Gang's attitude towards her had exceeded the boundaries between landlords and tenants.
Xiao Yan said that she felt that Liu Gang liked her, but she had no intention of falling in love with him, during the shared period, when she chatted normally with outsiders, Liu Gang had to ask "who are you chatting with", especially when Xiao Yan and other members of the opposite sex chatted, Liu Gang would show strong dissatisfaction.
Liu Gang's signs made Xiao Yan feel wrong, she said that the two are just a shared relationship, not a couple relationship, Liu Gang is not qualified to check and order her in the tone of her boyfriend, but Liu Gang is not moved, and even more and more deeply, which in Xiao Yan's view, Liu Gang has fallen into a paranoid situation, and his psychology has also been distorted.
Even if the reporter interviewed Xiao Yan on the phone, her tone was full of excitement and fear, she bluntly said that Liu Gang wanted to have a relationship with her, but she did not want to, and as a result, Liu Gang became more and more annoyed and angry, in this background, she asked Liu Gang to move out quickly, because Liu Gang's words and deeds had completely exceeded the prior agreement between the two at that time, in order to avoid Liu Gang hurting himself, Xiao Yan said that she did not dare to show up.
And Liu Gang after moving out, often in the vicinity of Xiao Yan's residence, but also to find a cat as a reason to go to the door to find, which can frighten Xiao Yan, for this statement, Xiao Yan's girlfriend also confirmed, but also claimed that Liu Gang was thrown out of the door after the mood is very angry, he threatened Xiao Yan to find a few strong men to cooperate with her, which is the root cause of Xiao Yan's hasty move.
As for the pet cat that Liu Gang said he wanted to find, Xiao Yan and his friends said that when Liu Gang moved away, he may be very angry, beating and maiming a cat, resulting in the death of a pet cat, while another pet cat snatched the door and disappeared when he saw this horrific picture, so the two pet cats were not in the original shared room at all, Liu Gang was looking for a cat is fake, looking for something is true.
However, for Xiao Yan's explanation, Liu Gang said that he did not approve of it at all, he said that since Xiao Yan was looking for him to share a house, what would happen if the opposite sex shared a room together, what purpose existed in their hearts, everyone was an adult, and they all knew it, since Xiao Yan promised to share a room with him in the past, it meant that Xiao Yan should have a little meaning for him, otherwise he would not agree to share a room with himself.
At the same time, Liu Gang stressed that he did not know the whereabouts of the pet cat, and it was even more impossible to beat his beloved pet cat, since the other party had moved away from here, he did not want to investigate the matter deeply, in order to his own doubts, Liu Gang hoped to read the monitoring at the door to see if he could see the traces of the pet cat.
Unfortunately, there is no pet cat in the monitoring, in this regard, Liu Gang helplessly said that this matter ends here, anyway, Xiao Yan has also blacked him, the two will not have any intersection in the future, finally, Liu Gang told reporters that there are many girls in the world, like and recognize him is also a lot, he will not stare at a tree, he will start a new life with spirits.
Although heterosexual co-living will appear from time to time in daily life, it is still a sensitive taboo, after all, two unrelated men and women live together, even if they have no intention, they cannot guarantee that the other party is equally unintentional, heterosexual co-living is easy to produce some emotional disputes, and some words and deeds will indeed inadvertently exceed the boundaries of prior agreement.
Xiao Yan chose to share a house out of economic embarrassment, and there was almost no conditional restriction on the object of the shared house, although her original idea was only to alleviate economic pressure, but she ignored what kind of trouble this decision would bring to her in the future, to know that the agreement is only a verbal agreement, not fixed, and people's emotions are difficult to be constrained by the framework of the agreement.
Because of this, Liu, who originally had a good feeling for Xiao Yan, just fell in love with xiao Yan during the shared period, but since people's feelings are difficult to control, then we should deal with the problem of feelings according to the principle of handling things in the emotional world, and the reason why Liu Gang was kicked out of the house was that he overstepped his bounds and gave orders to him as Xiao Yan's boyfriend, which caused Xiao Yan's strong dissatisfaction.
As far as Liu Gang himself is concerned, even if he has a good feeling for Xiao Yan, before the two parties have not determined the relationship, he cannot pretend to be the so-called boyfriend, and self-identify with the quasi-romantic relationship between the two sides, once even he is addicted to the role of the boyfriend, then he can't help but restrain and reprimand some of Xiao Yan's practices, which is bound to break through the shared relationship between the two sides.
Liu Gang's self-identity is actually an emotional cognitive disorder, when this emotional cognitive disorder destroys the balance of the ordinary friend relationship between the two sides, the contradiction will inevitably erupt, if Liu Gang can realize that the cultivation of feelings needs to be a gradual process, need to be in daily running-in for a long time, I believe it is difficult to attract Xiao Yan's disgust, because even if you really like each other, you should also respect each other's inner thoughts, and gradually infiltrate in the relationship, rather than being hasty.
Unfortunately, Liu Gang did not grasp the measure and principle, even if the relationship between the two sides can not be repaired, then a good gathering is the best destination for both sides, Liu Gang as a man, should be generous to say goodbye to it, repeatedly excused to find a pet cat to harass Xiao Yan, and even threatened to find a few so-called strong men to infringe on each other, these harassment and threats not only further worsened the relationship between the two sides, but also suspected of touching the bottom line of the law.
This emotional dispute caused by the sharing of housing was originally a mutually beneficial cooperation, the result of the two sides turning against each other, even the friendship relationship no longer exists, which also brings us some feelings and inspiration, as the saying goes: it is difficult to have a pure friendship between men and women, this word does have a certain truth, if one or both parties have no willingness to further develop, each step back or do not disturb each other may also be able to retain each other's so-called friendship, wishful thinking will only bring disaster to friendship, both embarrassing others, but also humble themselves.
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