When it comes to door-to-door son-in-law, many people will have a feeling of being different in their hearts, it seems that in our traditional concept, if there is no way, almost no man is willing to take the initiative to be a door-to-door son-in-law, and the door-to-door son-in-law represents humility and helplessness in the eyes of men.
Even now, in real life, there is still a phenomenon of door-to-door son-in-law, they may have to choose to solve their personal marriage problems for many reasons, although the heart is full of resistance, but the reality makes them have to do so, especially on the day they "get married", sad not only for themselves, but also their close relatives.
On January 23, in Qiannan, Guizhou, when a young man who was "married" said goodbye to his mother, the scene made people cry, and their relatives also shed tears, which made people sigh.
It is reported that the 29-year-old Guizhou boy has an older brother and a younger sister in the family, the father died in the early years, the mother alone pulled the 3 children to grow up, the hardship is very experienceable, but because the family is poor, the brother is more than thirty years old, and he is still alone, becoming the mother's heart disease.
Only the young son who worked outside talked about a girlfriend in Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, and the two had a very strong feeling, but when they talked about marriage, because the woman's family was still well-off, plus she was an only child, the woman's parents put forward a door-to-door request, otherwise the marriage would not be discussed.
The man weighed and considered again, and finally reluctantly agreed to the woman's door-to-door request, on the day of the new marriage, the brother and sister may not be able to bear to personally send him "married", the scene did not see their figure, only the mother sat alone in the back room without a word, the look was dark.
Although he did not see his brothers and sisters, the young man also guessed seven seven eight eight in his heart, but the mother's nurturing grace could not be forgotten, before leaving, the young man went into the back room to prepare to resign to his mother, for a moment, he did not know what to say, all the words suddenly became incomparably silent at this moment.
Just when the atmosphere was awkward, the boy suddenly knelt down to his mother and prostrated his head three times in a row to thank his mother for his parenting grace for more than twenty years, but when the boy finished prostrating his head, he looked up to see his mother in tears, and he could not say a word in his choked throat.
After the guy prostrated his head, he told his mother's uncle and uncle, hoping that after he left, they could help take care of their mother, and also hoped that their mother could take good care of herself, so I don't know when I can see each other again.
Just as the boy turned around, the mother, who had been speechless for a long time, suddenly stood up and said with a choked breath:
Son, mother is sorry for you, but if I have a little ability to let you marry your brother, I will not be willing to let you go to the fence.
These words reveal a mother's helplessness, is the reluctance to personally send away her son, although all this is not her fault, but she still feels deeply remorseful, feeling that her son's failure to marry his daughter-in-law is her own incompetence, and more is also a worry about her son.
Because of being a door-to-door son-in-law, she is worried that her son will be angry, the man is far away from Jiangsu, the family will no longer be his backing, this parting, relatives may also become relatives, although the blood ties continue to give up, but the rest of his life will face the tests and twists and turns of life alone.
Marriage is a major event in life, but also an important node in life, it represents a person's true independence, separated from the original family that raised himself, he will complete the road of life, but also completely take away the mother's heart, so that the mother is heartbroken.
In fact, whether it is marrying a daughter or "marrying" a son, when sending off, we often see that the sending party is tearful, and the married party is smiling, the crying party is distressed for many years of cultivation at this moment, the sense of loss in the heart is eclipsed and sad, and the laughing party is happy to add new members to the family, and the two completely different feelings affect the different emotional expressions of the relatives of both sides.
In our traditional concept, the word "marry" is often used in women, and the word "marry" has become the exclusive of men, when this concept is deeply rooted in people's hearts, it has become a tacit tradition of natural righteousness, once the so-called natural righteousness is subverted, there must be a lot of helplessness and heartache.
Just as the mother who bid farewell to her son, she very much wants to have the ability to marry a daughter-in-law for her son, rather than sending her son who was raised by her own hand to someone else as a door-to-door son-in-law, and her heart is full of deep guilt, the mother believes that her incompetence has caused her son to "marry" far away, and at the same time, the mother's heart also has a certain humiliation, which is a manifestation of the weakness of a family.
Of course, the emotions in the mixed, we may be difficult to appreciate the mother's specific and comprehensive complex feelings, but we know that her heart must be full of pain, the son's heart is also full of helplessness, just in the face of this unchangeable reality, I hope that the boy's future marriage can be happy and happy, or let the mother worry, although life is full of some helplessness, but this blood thicker than water affection should not fade, it is the eternal home in a person's heart.
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