Intensive reading mother: The best education comes from the parents' intentions, and educating the child well is the foundation of the child's rich life.
Author:Xiao Xiaowei (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
The day before yesterday, a Weibo of "strength pet baby, dad homemade 70 square meters ice rink for his daughter to skate", caused netizens to discuss hotly.
Mr. Ai of Inner Mongolia, because his 8-year-old daughter learned figure skating before, made a 70-square-meter Xiaoice for his daughter to practice during the winter vacation.
Mr. Ai said that because the temperature is not very low, you have to water layer by layer, water it again, and water it again at night.
And you can't pour too much at once, wait until it's about a brick thick and you can go to ice.
The dad insisted on watering every night, and it took a week to finally make an ice rink, and now he has to water it once a night.
After my daughter finished skating every day, the ice rink had ice ballast carved by the knife, and Mr. Ai had to clean it up and lay a layer of ice.
And from the video, you can see that the floor of the ice rink has been polished flat, which is enough to prove that this father has spent a lot of effort.
In the video, the light movements of the child's skating reveal her happiness and satisfaction!
Netizens have praised this dad is a hearty dad dad.
Because I insisted on doing it for a week, every time my daughter finished skating, she had to clean the ice ballast and re-water the ice, which was really not easy.
Some netizens also said that this father spoiled the baby with strength, raised his daughter richly, and had a large yard of 70 square meters at home, and had economic conditions to be petted.
Netizens also envied this girl, saying that she had such a father, which was really happy.
Indeed, it is a happy thing to have a heart to pamper your parents.
The book "Girl Enrichment" mentions that "the so-called richness does not refer to the wealth of money, not the wealth of status, it is more of a spiritual wealth."
Health and abundance, personality abundance, ability abundance... They are all valuable assets given to their children by parents and need to be cultivated by parents with care.
Therefore, the abundance of love is not measured by money, but by the intentions of parents.
Only with the care of parents can we cultivate excellent children
The famous writer Mo Yan, when he was a child, his family had difficulties in life, and he often ate the last meal without eating.
Although his mother did not know words, she always supported him in writing.
She never criticized her son for delaying farm work because of reading books, tried her best to meet her son's requirements for books and stationery, and even sold the jewelry when he was married to help him buy the Compendium of General History of China.
With her love, this mother taught her son what learning and life are, and let him grow step by step, becoming a famous contemporary writer and the first Chinese Nobel Prize winner.
He Jiang, China's first Harvard graduation speech, was born in a peasant family, lived in an adobe house, and his parents, a farmer facing the loess, had no income other than growing rice and raising pigs.
However, his parents are very tightly grasping their son's learning.
The strict father, from a young age, cultivated his good habit of loving reading, no matter how hard and tired, he had to tell stories to his son before going to bed.
The illiterate mother accompanied her son to study together and asked her son to read the textbook knowledge to himself, which also allowed He Jiang to hone his knowledge reserves over and over again in repeated reading and learning.
Under the influence of his parents, he studied for a master's degree and a doctorate at the University of Science and Technology of China, became a doctorate at Harvard University, and then studied as a postdoctoral fellow at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
▲ He Jiang gave a speech at the Harvard graduation ceremony
Education has never gone with the flow, and the achievements made by children are the result of careful cultivation by parents.
Mr. Tao once said: "True education is an activity that imprints on each other's hearts, and only when it comes out of the heart can it touch the depths of the soul." ”
True education is never a one-time success, but a process of spring wind and rain, which requires parents to pay attention to raise excellent children.
Parents are attentive, and children can look forward to the future
Parents are the child's first teacher, and everything we do to the child will blossom and bear fruit, not only affecting his life, but also determining his life.
Parents will cultivate their children with their hearts, which will make their children's future roads smoother and more likely to succeed.
First, read the child's heart.
Jia Rongtao, the author of "Change Your Child First Change Yourself", is an entrepreneur with a successful career, but his son is a "deep Internet addicted teenager" with the lowest academic performance.
Jia Rongtao used all kinds of scolding methods to be ineffective, so he ruthlessly closed his business and went home to concentrate on accompanying his son.
After returning home, he made up for his education knowledge, learned to talk patiently with his son, and slowly learned that his child sought "comfort" on the Internet because of the lack of parental company.
After reading the child's heart, Jia Rongtao basically did not participate in business socializing, picked up his son to school every day, accompanied his son to write homework, went to outdoor sports, and became a close friend of the child step by step.
Finally, my son quit his Internet addiction, worked hard, and was admitted to a key university.
What children need is not a "perfect parent", but a parent with "mental strength", a parent who can really read himself.
As a parent, we can enter the child's heart with our hearts and understand the needs of the child's heart in order to maximize the role of education.
Second, be the "big mountain" that children rely on.
Twins Zhao Zhen and Zhao Di, whose parents only had their first Chinese, could not understand the progress of their high school studies.
However, in the third year of high school, my father went to school every week to visit his children, talk with his children for a long time, and understand his children's lives and emotions.
When the child says, "Dad, my grades are shaky and I've been under a lot of pressure lately. ”
The father resolutely told the child: "Hold on, child, you must stand up for these three years!" ”
Then pat the child's shoulder with strong hands: "Daddy will always support you." ”
Children do not feel alone, because fathers who cross mountain roads and wind and rain will always appear on time, and behind them, there is always the strength of their fathers.
▲ Zhao Su, Zhao Di and his parents
After they were admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, they said frankly: "As long as I see my father, I feel that I have my back to the mountains and have a dependence!" ”
This kind of spiritual dependence can make children thrive and easily become children with the power to change their destiny.
Then, do the child's "telescope".
Seeing a 6- or 7-year-old girl who had just learned to play the electronic keyboard and always mastered the rhythm, her mother thought that she had no musical cells and would not let her continue to learn.
The child is still so young, whether it has some kind of potential, parents should not jump to conclusions prematurely.
The child's excellence is a process, which requires a certain amount of accumulation, and his future cannot be judged by the performance of the child in the short time now.
Attentive parents know how to focus on their children's future.
Just because a child may not be good for the time being does not mean that he will not be good in the future; he may not be good in one aspect, but it does not mean that he is not good at all.
As a parent, learn to be a child's "telescope", look at the long term, look at the changing child with a developmental vision, "build on the strengths and avoid the weaknesses" to develop the child's excellent instincts, and let the child show his talents in excellent places.
Parental intentions are the foundation of a child's rich life
Parents are the light of children, and behind those excellent children, there are often warm parents like sunshine, who are devoted with their hearts.
Mr. Cai Xiaowan has written a book", "My Career is a Father", which describes his success as a father.
An ordinary family, out of three doctoral students, three college students, six children all became talented, known as the "doctor's home".
However, this is not a miracle, but the inevitable result of a father's careful education of his children for more than twenty years.
For 20 years, this father has been seriously specializing in educational concepts, creating educational methods in terms of ability development, character development, and situation management, and applying them to his 6 children, conscientiously doing a good job as a parent.
The American thinker Emerson said that what kind of person a child eventually becomes depends mainly on the love, companionship and example he receives from the first educator.
"People's Daily" published an article the day before yesterday, telling parents: Educating your children well is the most important cause in your life.
The best education comes from the intentions of parents, and educating children well is the confidence of children to be rich for a lifetime.
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