Your heart, my story, you say, I listen! I'm Tingting, the psychotherapist around you!
01.
When Xiao Zhang was 23 years old, he met a 28-year-old boy, and the two fell in love at first sight and soon fell in love.
The Small Zhang family is a demolition household, the family has been divided into four houses, and there are some other deposits, which can be called a particularly wealthy family.
Xiao Zhang's object is very general, the family is a city hukou, his parents are working in the factory, Xiao Zhang's object does not go to work outside, so Xiao Zhang's parents do not approve of this love.
But after a woman fell in love, she could not extricate herself, and the daughter did not listen to her parents and secretly got a marriage license with the other party.
So the parents did not have a problem, and could only let the two of them live together.
02.
In the blink of an eye, three years have passed, Xiao Zhang's lover still does not go to work, does not do housework at home, sometimes goes out to do a few days of work in the supermarket, and then returns home to rest for a few days.
Xiao Zhang's husband's mother-in-law is also unreasonable, not long ago, the two people also quarreled, and these days they are making trouble again.
So Xiao Zhang was angry and went back to his mother's house, after Xiao Zhang returned to his mother's house, he originally thought that his lover would come to find him, but he did not expect the other party to say:
"Your whole family must apologize to my mother, or she will stay at her mother's house for the rest of her life."
Xiao Zhang felt very confused, obviously it was his own and his mother-in-law's affairs, why her husband had to pull a big family.
Xiao Zhang's lover said that if it were not for the support of Xiao Zhang's family, Xiao Zhang would not be able to return to her mother's house because of these things, and since it was the people in Xiao Zhang's family who supported her, then the people in Xiao Zhang's family, including Xiao Zhang, should apologize to their mothers, because this is the whole people in the Xiao Zhang family to deal with their mothers.
Bacon said:
"The man who has no regrets about boiling eggs for himself and burning a house is an extreme egoist."
This man is for his mother, so he will not hesitate to offend his father-in-law and mother-in-law and his big son, and burn down the whole house for one person.
03.
Girls, don't be too kind, don't be too naïve.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"A person's greatest flaw is not selfishness, sentimentality, barbarism, willfulness, but paranoia about loving someone who does not love himself."
You were very paranoid about loving this person before you got married, and secretly got a marriage license behind your parents' back, which is a kind of betrayal of your parents, how sad your parents were at that time, maybe you can't understand it, but now this man's attitude towards you makes you feel cold.
After marriage, the things this man did, one by one, must be enough to make you aggrieved for half a year, and when you were in your mother's house, you never suffered this kind of grievance.
In the face of such a man, if you are a smart woman, you should leave this early, because this person does not love you at all, and when he was with you, that is, he looked at the property in your family, and the other party did not go outside to work, which clearly showed that he wanted to find a wife with a better family situation.
If we think about it from a dark perspective, when this man first looked for a wife, it was not because he was looking for you, but because he was looking for your money, and this person was looking for a wife for money.
After revealing this truth, perhaps women will be particularly sad in their hearts, and some people will tremble, but sometimes the truth is like this, which is sad, so girls must keep their eyes open when looking for a partner, don't be deceived, and then know how to regret it.
Nowadays, this man wants you to apologize, and he also wants you to apologize to his mother, which is obviously a fuss, such a man is a small belly chicken intestine, if you continue to walk with such a person, then your future children are also small belly chicken intestines.
Because the influence in the family is particularly powerful, the thinking of adults can also be inherited by the children, and in the future, your children will be like your husband, and they will do things so tastelessly and gracefully.
04.
When women are looking for a partner, they must listen to their parents, do not listen to the old man, and suffer losses in front of them.
Parents are our elders, parents read countless people, walked more bridges than we have walked, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with listening to parents.
Although we are better than our parents in a certain area of specialization, because our modern people are better educated than previous people, their parents are far better than us in dealing with people.
Parents read countless people, in the face of your boyfriend, parents originally disagree, which shows that your parents have seen through this person, and you insist on marrying this person, and secretly with the other party to get a license, this behavior is enough to make your parents sad.
But in life, there are many people like this, perhaps the current TV series have seen too much, everyone thinks that people should chase beautiful love like in the TV series, secretly get a marriage license, but such a practice is irrational and undesirable, and one day you will regret it.
Baby Anne said:
"If you don't want to hurt others, the premise is not to expect from others, and at the same time not to let others have expectations of you, and it is more difficult to do the latter, which means that at some point, you must show your true position without a trace of selfish concealment or pretense." 」
Don't hurt others, don't hurt your parents, and don't have too much hope for anyone when you do things, especially for the person you marry.