Filial piety under the stick, many parents follow this way to educate their children, when the child is disobedient, yelling at the child, some parents will start to beat the child, in the eyes of the parents, this is a good way to make the child remember, better than the child's reasoning effect, is this really the case?
It is not so, stick education is the worst way to educate children, stick education may also affect the child's future, if the child is beaten, with these two reactions, parents must not be in the hands, otherwise the consequences will only be more serious.
First, the child is obediently beaten
Xiaoming is a fifth-grade student, his father is carrying out stick education, often punching and kicking Xiaoming, at the beginning, his father beat Xiaoming, he will also dodge, sometimes he will talk back with his father, in exchange for his father beating him more and more heavy, Xiaoming often because of disobedience by his father.
Once, Xiaoming did not tell his parents that he was going to go out with his classmates, it was too late to come back, his father did not listen to his explanation and beat him, Xiaoming had become accustomed to his father's scolding, he did not dodge, obediently stood there waiting for his father to beat himself, Xiaoming's eyes, what he did was wrong, so his father would beat him.
This kind of cognition made him start to become inferior, he did not dare to play with other children, did not dare to speak loudly, for fear that he would do something wrong, other children bullied him, he did not dare to fight back, in his opinion, what he did was wrong, and then Xiaoming gradually suffered from depression, when his parents found out, he had severe depression, and the doctor was helpless.
When parents beat their children, if the child is obediently beaten, do not resist the mouth and do not avoid, parents should pay attention to it, the child may think that what he does from the heart is wrong, slowly, the child will become inferior, afraid of hands and feet, do not dare to do anything, a long time, the child may have psychological problems.
Second, children talk back to their parents, and even fight with their parents
The relationship between friends and his father is intolerable, now that his friend is 35 years old, he still rarely goes home to see his father, he once talked about his father's education model for him, stick education, often scolding, at first his father beat him, he just would resist, think that his father was unreasonable, indiscriminately beat him, he sometimes scolded his father, and then his father beat him, he felt that his father did not do right, he learned to fight with his father, when his father beat him, he also beat his father, and the arms of both of them were often a bruise.
He began to become rebellious, disobedient, his father asked him to do nothing he did, he even began to skip school, skip class to go out to the Internet café, fortunately, he was very smart, and later lost to know that the return was admitted to college, but his father had a great influence on his stick education, and now his relationship with his father is not much good, he does not have much good feelings for his father, and his father wants him to go home and he is not willing to go back.
When parents beat their children, if the child and the parents talk back, or even fight, the parents must stop, the child may be disgusted by this behavior from the heart, if it continues, the child may become abnormally rebellious, and it is easy to make the parent-child relationship crack.
What should a child do when he or she annoys his parents?
First, control your temper
Parents should communicate with their children with a good attitude, control their temper, have more patience and understanding for their children, do not yell at their children, sometimes their temper comes up, they may hit their children, children are resisting, parents will be more grumpy, parents should calm down, and then communicate with their children.
Second, communicate with your child
Parents and children should communicate more, ask the child's inner thoughts, why the child is not obedient, what the child's own ideas are, and make friends with the child, so as to better educate the child.
Parents are very important to the child's education, stick education is not the best way to educate, parents sometimes hope that Jackie Chan can understand, but taking the wrong way may ruin the child, parents can also read some books to learn how to educate children scientifically, with scientific methods to accompany children to grow up.
Parents' education will affect the child's life, parents must correctly educate their children, but also hope that every parent can find the right and appropriate way to educate their children and help their children grow.