There is a joke that a childhood that has not been beaten by parents is an incomplete childhood.
In a society where fathers can whip their children with their belts at will, "filial piety under the stick" seems to be the consensus of everyone.
But I still have to say "great rebellion": there is no filial piety under the stick, only rebellious sons and fools.
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Why don't I approve of stick education? Because my brother was a victim of stick education. Adhering to the parenting concept of "treating male babies harshly", my mother often beat my brother without saying a word. Once, when his brother stole money from his teacher at school, his mother forced him to kneel on the living room floor and hit him hard on the back with a broomstick until the broomstick was broken.
According to the theory of "filial piety under the stick", my brother should grow up to be a good child who is honest and filial piety. But the reality is just the opposite, from childhood to adulthood, he only learned to fight violence with violence, and when he became an adult at the age of eighteen, he couldn't wait to leave my mother to live alone. Once he cried when he was drunk and asked my mother why she always hit him, and I thought he had psychological problems.
So when I saw the video of the father beating the little boy with a belt, I felt very sad and very worried about the little boy's mental illness. But I didn't expect that netizens did not take it seriously, always saying that "who has not been beaten when they were young", "children who make mistakes should give a lesson", "do not fight can not be a tool", it can be seen that stick education is still very popular among young people.
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Moderate lessons are desirable, such as in "Where Daddy Goes In the First Season", in the face of Kimi, who is crying incessantly, Lin Zhiying will let him stand. But the education method that can cause damage to the child's body is not good.
There is a "violent mother" in the documentary "Hello, Pediatrician". She enrolled her three-year-old son in four extracurricular classes, and his son wanted to take time off because he was too tired, but she felt that his son wanted to be lazy and not go to school. In anger, she actually raised her foot and kicked at the child's lower body, directly causing the inferior system band to break, and the doctor said that it was likely to affect the future reproductive function.
Her violent education was exchanged not for a well-behaved filial piety, but for a sick child lying in the hospital.
How about playing harder? There was a teenager in his hometown who was not intellectually high, and he often shouted indiscriminately at the mouth of the village. I thought he was born with cerebral palsy, but then my parents told me that he was beaten in the head by his father when he was a child, and he even memorized Tang poems before he was beaten. The funny thing is that my mother knows that violent education is harmful, but she still believes in the "no fight, no instrument" set.
Is a child who becomes a non-committal child under the threat of a stick really a child that parents want?
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Before the revision, Douban had a famous group called "Parents Are Scourge Group", in which many team members grew up under the education of sticks, they did not experience the so-called "good intentions" of their parents, but their hearts were full of hatred.
Some people are curious: the same is beaten and scolded, why did the child have no psychological problems before, and now the child is depressed at every turn? In fact, it is not that the children were resistant to resistance and resistance, but when they have problems, no one will think that it is related to parental education. Just like now seeing children jumping off buildings and jumping into the river, there are always onlookers who sigh: this year's children are really fragile psychologically.
My brother is a contrarian son, and the teenager with low intelligence in his hometown is also a fool for life, which is the result of the stick.
Sometimes it is felt that parents who can only stick education are lazy and stupid parents.
They are reluctant to read parenting books, have no time to attend parenting lectures, and lack the patience to listen to their children's feelings. After all, hitting people is so simple that there is no need to learn at all.
Stop being superstitious about "filial piety under the stick" unless you don't love your children at all.