Stick education is a feature of traditional education in China, and after the test of time, it has been proved that stick education is not an educational method that conforms to the law of children's growth.
But even so, there are many parents who promote this kind of education for various reasons, that is, because this kind of education has great results in a short period of time, but in the long run, a child who is often beaten will be very different from his peers when he grows up.
What are the problems in the psychological development of children who have been beaten since childhood?
1, children will become more and more like abusive parents
In the process of children's growth, the initial way of learning is imitation, the first is to imitate their parents, what kind of words and deeds parents have, children are generally the same.
From a young age, taking a stick-style education method to educate children will let their children learn the parents' scolding methods, scolding content, learning the parents' way of beating people, and then when the children become parents, they will also take such a way to treat their children.
In the movie "Angry Bull", the protagonist is irritable and irritable, always attacking others, even his own wife, will also beat her up, the reason is that his childhood lived under the violence of his father, his body is full of scars, and when he grows up, he will also inflict violence on people who are weaker than him.
Violence cannot solve violence, it will only breed violence, beat and scold the parents of children, maybe their childhood is also like this, their parents' childhood is also like this.
It is the seeds of violence planted by previous generations that make generations of children receive stick education, and if they are not corrected in time, future children will also experience such a tragic childhood, and if this idea is not eradicated, future generations will also be insensitive.
2, the child's personality will become darker and darker
The reason why many parents choose to use beatings to physically punish their children is not for no reason, but sometimes, the children's behavior does not meet the expectations of parents, parents have no patience, and feel angry, so they will take excessive words and deeds.
Such behavior in the eyes of parents is for the good of the child, let the child remember a little longer, do not make it again next time, the parents' hearts are hoping that the child will correct, the idea is not wrong, but the practice is a big mistake.
Children from an early age are obedient to the words of their parents, in the heart of the parents of the status is very high, in the parents of the scolding, will feel aggrieved, in the parents of the strong, and finally will recognize the way of the parents.
In the long run, children will become more and more afraid of their parents, will become more and more introverted, more and more inferior, and even when they grow up, they will not have the courage to get rid of the shadow of their parents. There are also personality extremes that they will resent their parents more and more, and they will want to retaliate against their parents more and more. Such personalities are negative and dark, which is not conducive to the future growth of children.
Childhood has a great influence on the growth of a child, Adler once said: "Lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured of childhood all their lives." ”
Children who have been in a violent environment since childhood, childhood is unfortunate, even if they grow up, their lives will live in the shadow of childhood, and children who have lived happily in childhood, even if they will encounter other setbacks in their future lives, will also be able to actively face difficulties and setbacks and finally overcome them because of the good mentality and optimistic and cheerful personality they have developed.
For parents, children are not the destination of your unfortunate life, if there is such a thought, you will only bring your misfortune to the child, the child should be a continuation of the parents' life, since it is a continuation, it should be extended to the sun, let the sunshine of the child's life to heal the misfortune of their childhood.
Do not ask too much how good the child is, even if the parents themselves, sometimes can not meet their own requirements, why go to the wronged children, violence will only show the failure of parental education, failed education is not conducive to the growth of children, therefore, parents need To Beijing may bring joy and sunshine to their children's childhood.
Scientific education methods and appropriate educational concepts can avoid parents from falling into the trap of only using violence, so parents need to read more and learn more.
Parents are the child's first teacher, and your words and deeds will affect the child's life.