As the saying goes, "no fight can not be a tool", often said "stick out of filial piety", it can be said that in the traditional education culture, beating children seems to be a necessary means of educating children.
In some of the current educational concepts, they scorn the beating of children, and more advocate respect, love, encouragement and guidance of children. So, when educating children, is it better to hit children, or is it better not to beat children?
Children under "stick education" may not be incomplete
Dun'er is a child living in the "deep water", Dun'er's parents are very strict and "violent" for Dun'er's education, because when Dun'er does something wrong, parents will hit Dun'er, Dun'er's learning is not good, or when it is not good to eat, parents will also beat Dun'er, in short, Dun'er has not been beaten since childhood.
The stick education of parents, in the eyes of many people, is very incorrect, and teachers also believe that such an education method will bring indelible psychological shadows to children.
However, what everyone did not expect was that Dun'er had long been accustomed to this way of education, and under this way of education, Dun'er began to become strong in heart and tenacious in character.
After Dun'er grew up, he went to a company as a salesman, and once, Dun'er and his customers did not know what a contradiction was, and the customer directly poured a cup of water on Dun'er's head, but Dun'er did not fight back, but silently endured this insulting behavior in the eyes of others.
Afterwards, many colleagues were complaining about Dun'er, thinking that even if they lost this customer, they would have to beat him up and get their face back, but Dun'er did not do so.
As a result, the next day, this customer signed a big order, and personally came to Dun'er's company, apologized to Dun'er, and even wanted to recruit Dun'er to his own company behind his back, because he was very appreciative of Dun'er's perseverance and the character of understanding the overall situation, and felt that Dun'er was a person who could achieve great things.
In fact, the harm of hitting children is very great, but we cannot deny that the educational behavior of hitting children will also bring many benefits to children.
◎ Let the child's reverse quotient be improved
If the child is often "roughly treated" by the parents, then the reverse quotient itself may be improved.
Contrarian quotient, that is, the threshold of the child in the face of adversity, is often beaten by parents is actually an adversity, if the child is often in this state, then his mind will gradually be tempered, so that the child's contrarian quotient will be improved, become more determined, become patient, become perseverance, become aware of patience and take care of the overall situation.
◎Make children more principled
When the child is beaten, he is educated physically and mentally, so the child will have a very strong impression of the cause of the beating, which is what we call "long memory".
After stick education, the child can clearly know what is right, what is wrong, what is completely unbreakable, and so on.
As a result, they become very principled, and children with principles will be more efficient and have a higher success rate when they behave and do things.
◎ Effectively break children's bad habits and wrong thoughts
In addition to the effect of correcting mistakes, scolding children also has a psychological deterrent effect, so that children can directly give up the psychology of continuing to use wrong behavior to correct emotions and test the bottom line of parents.
Therefore, stick education can efficiently and directly help children establish correct thinking and habits, so that children can grow rapidly.
Seeing this, many people may not agree with this statement, after all, in the eyes of most people, the baby who is often beaten is still more successful than the baby who has never been beaten, but is this really the case?
Children who are not beaten often may not be excellent in the future
Dongzi's parents can be said to be very caring for their children, never thought of educating their children with sticks, and even felt that parents who used stick education were rude people.
And When Dongzi's parents treatEdoko, they are simply meticulous, that is, the feeling that they are afraid of melting in their mouths and afraid of falling in their hands.
Therefore, in the process of Dongzi's growth, he did not get any scolding from his parents, and after Dongzi made a mistake, his parents rarely trained Dongzi, and even sometimes directly ignored Dongzi's mistakes. As a result, Dongzi gradually developed a wayward personality.
And this personality of Dongzi can make Dongzi suffer in school, because the classmates are not Dongzi's parents and will not be accustomed to Dongzi, so Dongzi often feels that he is bullied at school and always cries and cries.
And Dongzi's performance also made the classmates more disgusted, and even called Dongzi "Dongnelle", feeling that Dongzi was not like a man, always girly.
When Dongzi graduated from college, he repeatedly hit a wall to find a job, and Dongzi couldn't stand the blow of failed interviews, and every day he was humming and sobbing.
Later, Dongzi's father entrusted dongzi to find a job, and as a result, Dongzi did not go the next day of work, and the reason was only because "I feel that my colleagues don't like me."
Sometimes, if you don't beat your child, spoil your child too much, and spoil your child, your child may become neither courageous nor responsible. And this has a great impact on the future development of children.
As a result, the child's psychological endurance is extremely poor
Without being scolded by parents, the child is equivalent to little contact with adversity, when the child's learning or life has some setbacks, the child can not face alone, can not bear the pressure of setbacks, can not face the difficulties alone, thus becoming only to retreat, do not do anything well.
As a result, children are unable to integrate quickly into society
Children who are often pampered, the environmental adaptability is very poor, and the emotional intelligence is low, it is difficult to quickly integrate into the society after graduation, because the society is cold and cruel, and the family environment is warm and harmonious, and the opposite environmental changes make it difficult for children to adapt.
epilogue
Of course, it is not that it is not good not to beat children, nor to say that it is right to beat children, but to tell parents that there is no absolutely good way of education, for any way of education, parents must use flexibly, rationally use, timely use, so that stick education and encouragement education go hand in hand, so that the two complement each other, so that children can develop better.
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