Introduction: Every parent wants to hope that the child will become a dragon and the girl will become a phoenix, such a mood can be understood, but many parents have such an emotion, educating their children will inevitably have a kind of impatience. Presumably, many children are raised under the education of sticks, because their parents always want him to become better, so they do not tolerate him making any mistakes in life, and every time they make mistakes, they will directly criticize and accuse, and even scold.
But contrary to this kind of stick education, there is another mode of education, very fond of the child, because there is only this only child in the family, so the requirements for the child are fully satisfied, let alone beat the child. They take care of their children as if they were pearls in their hands, and there are still some problems with children who grow up in such an educational environment.
So many people have such a kind of thinking, in the child's education should not hit the child? The model of educating children that has always been implemented in a friend's family is stick education, because the environment he grew up in is like this. Friends' children are very noisy in school, often have all kinds of things, will fight with others and be naughty in class. And every time a friend is invited to school by the class teacher, he will become a nightmare for the friend's child, because the friend will always beat him with the feather duster at home.
Once a friend came back late because he was out to work outside. Before going out, he also reminded the child not to make too much trouble at home, but he did not expect to see the child make all the water stains in the house after the friend came home. It also attracted complaints from the neighbors downstairs. When he saw this look, his friend was angry and directly beat the child. But a friend's wife was very distressed when she saw him beating the child. Why don't you just hold the child and don't let him beat him, and scold your friends, why do you always have to solve the problem in such a violent way? Such a situation is bound to be encountered by many families, and there will be various debates on the choice of mode for educating children. So what kind of differences in personality would such a child who is beaten so often compare to a child who is barely beaten?
1. The gap in psychological endurance.
In fact, this problem is very easy to understand, the reason why we implement stick education, is because parents think that they can not let the child's life is too arrogant, so that they encounter difficulties and setbacks in the future life, it is easy to sleep for a long time, so stick education is very helpful for the training of children's psychological endurance and resistance.
However, the children who have barely been beaten and are protected to grow up will have a much weaker ability to withstand pressure than the children who have grown up under these sticks. Especially for many children who grow up under stick education, parents who criticize education will not praise their progress, and usually the most said to them is to pick and pick their faults. Therefore, growing up in such an environment, their psychological adjustment ability is very strong when they are scolded by others in the future university life and after entering the society. But those who grew up being praised by their parents from a young age, and children who have never been wronged will be very aggrieved after entering the society and being scolded by others once, and it is difficult to find the rhythm of their work for a while.
2. Differences in personality.
We often say that most of the children's personalities are cultivated in the day after tomorrow, and the environment of the day after tomorrow is generally family education, school education and social education. Among them, family education plays a leading role, in general, what is the environment in which the original family is grown, then the child's personality will generally develop towards what kind of trend.
We divide the model of family education into democratic education, authoritative education, authoritarian education and doting education, and the children who grow up under different education models will have very different personalities. For example, if a child grows up in a democratic family, then his personality will be more lively, more cheerful and confident, but if he is a child who grows up under the education of authoritarian and authoritative parents, he will become more inferior and prone to self-doubt.
Therefore, if parents often carry out violent education for their children, then the child will have such a psychological hint that any problem encountered must be solved by violence. However, if the child's parents are more gentle and calm in the face of things, their family atmosphere will be more harmonious, the child will also be influenced by the parents, and they will be more rational when dealing with problems.
Regarding whether stick education should be implemented for children, in fact, with the continuous development of the economy, the continuous progress of the concept of parenting is not advocated. However, there are also many people who think that children suffer hardships and are superior, so it is also advisable to give children some scolding stick education in a timely manner. After all, if children are not taught some lessons in many things, they will never understand what is wrong with them.
So is this kind of stick education desirable? In fact, the existence of stick education has a certain value, and there have been many children who have grown up under strict stick education throughout the ages, and they have very outstanding achievements. For example, the famous host Dong Qing, the environment in which she grew up, her parents' requirements for her are very strict, and they will list books for her every day, asking her to memorize idioms and copy good words and sentences. Although such strict requirements made Dong Qing at that time also feel that there was some depression that could not be adapted, but with the day after day, year after year, Dong Qing slowly developed a good habit of reading.
The formation of such a reading habit also paved the way for her to become a famous host later. In addition, there are still many people in life under the education of sticks, and they have developed a more resolute personality and a stronger ability to resist pressure.
Because they are separated from their families at a very young age and independently face setbacks to solve problems independently, they can also solve them better and have more experience when they encounter setbacks in their later social life.
Therefore, it is advisable to give children proper stick education when they are young. But it must also be remembered that this kind of stick education cannot be regarded as a norm and leave a psychological shadow on children. Especially at this stage of the child's puberty, their self-awareness has reached its peak, and at this time, parents should try to solve the problem by communicating with the child on an equal footing, rather than using violent means, which will only make the child have a rebellious psychology.
In fact, the child's education model, the educational concept is always just a big concept, the specific implementation or to be applied to each child's personality characteristics. Just as a thousand people have a thousand Hamlets, each person's standing point is different, then the understanding of things will be different.
Therefore, the same is true in the education of children, there are many precedents for the success of education for stick education, and there are also many cases of unsuccessful failures in education. As for whether it should be taken or not, it depends on how parents implement stick education in their children's education. So what do you think about whether children should be beaten or not?