The most hypocritical thing about adults is that they whitewash all their actions as "education."
This is more harmful than the violence against the child itself.
"Stick education", "punishment education", "confinement education", "criticism education", "electric shock education"...
Change to adults, call violence, cold violence, abuse, crime, pua, insults, insults, hurt... Every minute to be called to the police or even jailed, strangely, to the child, it has become "education". Abusers don't have to go to jail, and they are sympathetically praised for their heartbreaking moral hats.
In the minds of a considerable number of adults in China, children are not human at all.
In their eyes, only those who have the ability to resist are people, and children like children who have no ability to resist from the body to the mind are not worthy of their slightest respect. "What's the use of respect? Anyway, they can't resist, why don't they let Lao Tzu abuse him? "It's the dark subconscious of a lot of people.
There are more people in society who don't listen to them, do you see who they dare to put half a fart on?
Only in the case of children, "disobedience" becomes a sin.
"Lao Tzu's only (n) slave in this life dared to disobey? Reversed ~"
Even if you bully the child, the child is also grumpy, and the parent-child relationship is not good. The most heinous thing is that bullying is also described as "education" and "for the sake of children", which is bad to the bone.
Children are very simple, unconditionally believe in their parents, unconditionally believe in everything their parents say. To describe hurt as love and giving is the most complete destruction of a person's life. Because this person will "ghost hit the wall" all his life.
Because he lacks love since he was a child, he will desperately desire love, but no matter how much he seeks love, what he asks for will be hurt. Because he does not know what true love is, he thinks that all kinds of aggression and hurt are love, but this "love" can only make him lack love even more.
Why not choose true love? Because his parents will stigmatize true love while giving him false love, saying that "habitual children have no good results", saying "this is all coddling, it is harmful to children", saying "Loving mothers are more defeated children", "Hitting is kissing and scolding is love, being too good to you is harming you"... Otherwise, how can they explain why someone else's child can be respected? So even if this person encounters real love, he does not dare to choose and try at all, and even rejects it.
This is an endless cycle that cannot be circumvented. Unless he realizes that hurt is not love.
However, often at this time, this person has passed half his life, and his good years have been wasted in the ghost wall, and when he realizes that he has been deceived, he has missed a lot of real love.
This is still good, more people, have been deceived all their lives, only know that they live a miserable life, but do not know why, but also a strong thank their parents, thinking that "only parents in this world are really the best for themselves." Then continue to apply that set of "education" to your own children...
Parents do not love their children, but please leave your children with a trace of the possibility of being loved.
So the question, you ask "Is it okay?" "Objectively, of course, the child has no power to resist at all, doesn't he?" You hit the kids, and in the country, no one will take care of it. (Abroad, maybe you'll go to jail.) ）
But as long as you still have a little love for your children, and a little bit of conscience as a human being, don't do this kind of lack of morality and smoke. Even if you really hit, admit it with dignity "I was wrong, I can't control my emotions, I shouldn't have hit you, this is not love, please forgive me." Then when you are old, you can calmly accept the child's "feedback".
And don't make up this as an "educational" lie in order to cover up your mistakes.
So it's still a person.
