Introduction: Many mothers have children at home full-time with their babies. The reason why I chose to be a full-time mother is because the elderly in the family can't help with the baby, and can only take the children at home. Some may be that the elderly are not in good health, or have a general relationship with their mother-in-law, have no conditions to ask for a nanny, and can only choose to take their own children.
Zuckerberg said that the critical period of childhood is only a few short years, and it may be regrettable to miss it.
Infant and toddler is the fastest growing stage for babies. For babies under the age of six months, the best source of nutrition is breast milk, if the mother can accompany the child wholeheartedly, it is also of great benefit to the growth of bao dad.
Some children are more than two years old and do not call mom and dad, probably because of the lack of parental companionship and too little language stimulation. 0-3 years old is a sensitive period for children's language development, and if the mother is full-time with the baby, she can effectively accompany the child. The baby's language has been fully developed, which can improve the child's language expression ability and promote intellectual development.
At this stage, if the mother can accompany the child, it can also increase the baby's sense of security. Cultivate your baby's stable mood and smoothly pass the attachment period. When the baby is young, whether it is physiological or cognitive, thinking, etc., it is looking forward to the mother's careful care and companionship.
One mother said she would bring her own child, and she wanted to be able to accompany her baby for the first few years of her life. After Bao Dad goes to school, he will return to the workplace. Many stay-at-home moms go out to work after their children go to kindergarten.
Stay-at-home mothers have not been in contact with the outside world for a long time because they are at home with their babies. It is likely to be disconnected from society, busy with children and family chores every day. Accompanying the growth of children is naturally a happy thing. But in real life, there are often too many unsatisfactory.
01, the face is no longer
Although the years are a pig killing knife, full-time mothers must also know how to dress themselves and pay attention to the maintenance of body and appearance. Don't surround yourself with your children and family all day long, and leave yourself a little time and space. No one will discover your beautiful soul through your sloppy exterior. Women who know how to maintain will hold the right to beauty in their own hands and slowly become more beautiful.
Japanese actress Shizuka Kudo chose to return to her family after getting married and having children. She used to be young and beautiful, and after returning to the family, she rarely appeared in the eyes of everyone, gradually changing from a first-line actress to a housewife, and when Kudo Shizuka reappeared, others laughed at her and became ugly.
Indeed, After becoming a stay-at-home mom, Shizuka Kudo single-mindedly took care of the family. Daily life is simple, not only to take care of the children, but also to take care of the daily life of the whole family, paying all their energy. This kind of heartache can only be understood by stay-at-home mothers. Suddenly looking back, the goddess's former appearance is gone, only the dull yellow skin and loose face remain.
02, lost yourself in the family and children
Every day, I put my mind on taking care of my children, no longer seriously dressing myself up, and not connecting with the outside world. Hiding in his own small world all day, he gradually lost himself and did not have his own independent life.
Women love beauty, but because they don't go out to work, they don't have to face the public eye, and they gradually don't like to dress themselves, because taking care of children and families requires a lot of time and energy. Every day is a busy state, which makes stay-at-home mothers have no heart to pursue beauty. Hard days filled with time.
Stay-at-home moms cut off contact with the outside world and have no career or friends. In the past, when I was working, I would talk to my colleagues about the unit, and wait until I became a mother full-time. In life, there is only unfinished housework, unfinished heart, and colleagues have no common topics, no career, there is no personal value in the workplace, and full-time mothers have gradually become confused and no longer contact with friends and colleagues.
04, to learn to be independent
Women must have their own independent ability, although temporarily full-time at home to take care of the baby, but to have the pursuit of career, constantly learn to recharge, at any time can return to the workplace, in the family and career wandering, and constantly improve themselves.
A good marriage makes a woman more complete, and a stay-at-home mother must continue to learn to keep up with the pace of the world, so that she also has a sense of security, and strives to protect her own family with her father.
Once went to the supermarket, saw a mother with a baby to buy good food, when paying, embarrassed to say that there is no money in weChat, so I called my father, this mother is hands-free. Her husband picked up the phone and said, you know every day to spend money, don't know how much pressure I have, this salary can not support the expenses of the family, the tone is irritable and ruthless. Bao Mom was going to cry at that time, and such a scene made people feel sad and helpless.
The hardship and helplessness of a full-time mother with a baby, only she knows. Although you are at home full-time, you also have to work hard to create your own value, and you can use your free time to do some part-time work. When working, you can also improve yourself, and making more money is the right choice. Only when they are financially independent can they have status in the family. Those who have created wealth are also entitled to stand up and speak.
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As a father, you should also understand the hardships of full-time mothers with babies, who are not willing to stay at home all day, full-time with babies, lose their jobs, have no self, and silently pay for the family. Of course, to be respected by your husband.
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