The daughter-in-law receives more than thirty couriers a day, and the mother-in-law thinks that she is a loser in online shopping and requires them to hand in their salary cards

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The economic foundation of different eras is different, and people's consumption concepts are of course different. If you impose your own consumption concept on others, it will not work. Only by respecting each other can people get along harmoniously. No one can force the other.

Every adult is responsible for his or her own actions. Without a reasonable concept of consumption, when there is money, it is wasted, it does not know how to save, and when there is no money, it will bear the pain of not having money. In fact, life needs a trickle, not ready, the days are getting better and better.

Today's generation of mothers-in-law has experienced many periods of economic difficulties when they were young, so they are particularly diligent and thrifty. The generation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a good economic situation, and the concept of consumption is of course different from that of mother-in-law. There is a generation gap between the two generations, and the concept of consumption is different, which is particularly prone to contradictions.

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The mother-in-law went to her son's house for two months, saw that the daughter-in-law liked to shop online, and received 35 express deliveries in one day alone. The mother-in-law felt that the daughter-in-law was too bad, and asked her son and daughter-in-law to give her a salary card, and the daughter-in-law had a big fight with her.

This happened at Aunt Hu's house, and now that Aunt Hu has returned to the countryside, the salary card of her son's daughter-in-law has not been given to her. As a result, she did not continue to help her son pay off the mortgage. Both she and the old man wanted to live for themselves.

Self-description: Aunt Hu

Age: 65 years old

Occupation: Cleaner

City: Deng County

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At that time, when I married the old man, I only got a marriage certificate. Parents and siblings on both sides sat together for dinner. Even if you get married, you can't have a decent wedding. Because I don't have any money. Because the conditions of the hometown and the in-laws are very poor, they do not dislike each other.

After getting married, we both stayed in two small rooms. This is the matrimonial house that Grandma bought for us. We worked hard to earn money and frugally, and it took a few years to build a two-story house.

My husband and I have only one son. My son studied well and stayed on the street to work after graduating from college. After a year of work, my son talked about an object. The girl also came out of the country, and the conditions of the home were the same as mine. My dad and I were happy. When our son got married, we both completed our task.

When my son got married, our old couple took out all their savings and took out a loan to buy a wedding house. In order to reduce the burden on the daughter-in-law, our elderly couple took out a mortgage. Anyway we're this one kid. Our money will be given to them in the future. So, we have no problem with paying off the mortgage.

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Our husband and wife are people who have suffered hardships and suffered poverty, so we have always been frugal and frugal. The money that should be spent is spent, and the money that should not be spent is not used. Saving a point is a point. After our son got married, we were still frugal because he would help us pay our mortgage. I just want my son's daughter-in-law to have a good time.

The daughter-in-law has been married for three years without children. Every time I urge my son, my son is always in no hurry. So I urged my daughter-in-law, and my daughter-in-law and I calculated the burden of raising children, and it costs money for children to eat, clothing to cost money, pulling money to spend money, they have pressure, they don't want children.

I didn't dare say anything to my daughter-in-law, so I said privately to the old man, no matter how difficult our conditions were at that time, didn't we all raise our children the same? They are now in good condition, without any burden couples to raise children, why do they feel that they can't afford to raise them?

My daughter-in-law was married for the fourth year, and I was in the hospital for a month because of a stomach problem. After I was discharged from the hospital, I had to go to the hospital for follow-up consultation, and for convenience, I stayed at my son's house. I realized why my son's wife kept saying she didn't have any money.

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The couple didn't cook because they thought it was a hassle to cook, so they either went to the restaurant or ordered takeout. The fridge was well stocked with lots of food, fruit, drinks, snacks etc. Some of the bags were not removed, and after a while they were found to be expired and thrown away.

The daughter-in-law's dresser is filled with bottles and jars, hundreds or even thousands of bottles each. Some things are completely useless. Because it was past the shelf life, I threw it away again. There were a lot of clothes in the couple's cabinet, all of which were very high-class, and any one of them would cost thousands.

Daughter-in-law also likes to shop online, there are many unopened couriers at home, do not know what to buy. Because I live in their house, someone gives them a courier, and my daughter-in-law buys more and buys more, and one day I received 35 couriers.

After the daughter-in-law returned, she only dismantled five or six couriers, and the rest were thrown on the balcony. Seeing this behavior, I was really angry. In this way of consumption, it is no wonder that they do not have money to raise children.

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I lived in my son's house for two months, and I really can't see it, so they can save a little money. Now they are young and can make money. When you are old, it is not easy to make money, if you don't have some savings on hand, what to do? They retorted to me that they would have a retirement salary when the time came, and they didn't have to care about it.

When I mentioned raising children again, my son hated me for being nosy, and my daughter-in-law came to settle accounts with me. I was really angry, so I asked my sons and daughters-in-law to pay their pay cards, and I came to keep them safe and make sure they had the money to raise the children.

As soon as my daughter-in-law heard that I wanted them to pay their pay cards, she immediately quarreled with me, saying that I managed too much, and why should they keep the money they earned? Anger burned, and I said harsh words, saying that they were selfish and losers. I was sick and hospitalized this time, and they didn't pay me a penny for medical treatment, but they had money to spend.

The son protected his daughter-in-law, saying that I was old-fashioned and scolded me for not taking care of them. To say they have their way of life, I don't have to care. Say if I were in charge, they'd do dink's. I was so angry that I couldn't speak, I really couldn't help myself!

The old man and I were frugal and wanted to spend a dollar in half, but they were so profligate that I couldn't watch it, so I took the bus back to the country. I told my wife what had happened, and he was angry, so the couple decided not to help them pay their mortgage and let them do whatever they wanted.

epilogue:

It is said that parents have enough ability to make seven points and leave three points to their children and grandchildren. Parents do everything, the child does not have to work hard, and new problems will naturally arise.

Aunt Hu and her wife hurt her son and daughter-in-law, did everything for her, and helped her pay off the mortgage. The daughter-in-law has no sense of responsibility, they neither pay Aunt Hu for medical expenses, nor do they have children, they are not responsible for the top and bottom, they are only responsible for themselves.

In different eras, people's ideas are different, Aunt Hu is not used to the way of life of her daughter-in-law, so she cares about them, which leads to family conflicts.

Also, please don't do too much for the sake of your child. Parents do too much for their children, and sometimes it's not a good thing. Those children have to bear, or let the children bear. The ideas of the two generations are different, and it is easy to produce contradictions, so it is best to live separately, and it is better to go through each other.