Puberty is a critical period for children's growth, this period of children have their own thoughts, their bodies gradually mature, the three views gradually formed, is an important step towards adulthood.
Adolescence is also a headache for many parents, at this time the children have their own ideas, a step away from the parents, they are not willing to tell their parents about their own things.
Parental guidance is very important for adolescent children, parental guidance is good, the child will pass through puberty smoothly, if the parents do not guide well, the child may become particularly rebellious.
The book "Mother's Book to Adolescent Daughter" says that adolescence is a "dangerous period" in the growth process of girls.
Girls' minds are delicate, it is easy to be affected by some things, and the most likely thing they encounter should be these two hurdles, and parents must pay attention to them.
First, appearance anxiety
Xiao Jing is reading the second year of junior high school, her mother usually has to go to work, at noon Xiao Jing is buying food to eat home, this day at noon home, she secretly took out her mother's foundation and lipstick, painted herself some, she has never made up, the amount of makeup for herself is very large, like coming out of the flour tank, at this time, the mother came back to take a document, looking at the white ghost-like Xiao Jing, the mother was shocked, reprimanded Xiao Jing for not learning some bad things, Xiao Jing cried and told her mother: The classmates laughed at me black, and said that I was African.
Adolescent girls are very beautiful, their appearance and dress are very important, they may compare their appearance, dress up, if the child is not beautiful or where there are some defects, it is likely to be ridiculed by others, such as boys often give girls with bad teeth nickname: tooth sister.
Adolescent girls are very sensitive, perhaps because of this nickname, they will be inferior, can not lift their heads, some children will also put their own bad looks on their parents, go home and give their parents a tantrum.
Second, the phenomenon of early love
Momo who is reading the first year of junior high school and the male table Xiaohui have a very good relationship, the two often eat together, go home together after school, over time, Momo who has just opened his heart feels that he likes Xiaohui, she plucked up the courage to confess to Xiaohui, Xiaohui also likes Momo, the two are together.
Rumors spread into the ears of the class teacher, the class teacher told Momo's parents about the love affair, the parents forced the two children to separate, Momo had a big fight with the parents for this, the mother found the teaching director to change the class for Momo, Momo began to have a cold war with her mother, her academic performance fell sharply, from the middle level to the bottom few.
Puberty is the age when children's emotional sinuses first open, many children may encounter the phenomenon of early love, some children can cope well, and some children are affected by grades.
Appearance anxiety and early love phenomenon is the most likely obstacle for girls to encounter in adolescence, these have a great impact on children, will make children unable to concentrate on learning, affect children's achievements, parents must pay attention to it, help their daughters through puberty.
What should parents do to help their children avoid these two hurdles?
Psychologist Spencer once pointed out that the father is the daughter's guide to the outside world.
Fathers should set an example for their daughters, accompany their daughters more, let their daughters feel the love of their fathers, many girls who fall in love early are because of the lack of parental love, others give a little love and fall into it, desperate to be with others.
Studies have shown that 70% of daughters look for objects to find people like their fathers, fathers should set a good example, care for their daughters, be good to their wives and daughters, be a qualified husband, let their daughters improve their inner mate selection standards, and do not follow others because of the little benefits given by others.
Mothers should communicate with their daughters more, become children's friends, do not blame their daughters and teach their children because of their early love, and do not suspect ghosts all day long when the children are adolescence, peek at the privacy of the children, this is not right, empathize with it, understand the child more, the best way is to become a friend of the daughter, communicate with the daughter, tell the child about the harm of early love, and accompany the child through puberty.
Little C recommends the two books "Mother's Book to Adolescent Daughter" and "Adolescent Girl's Private Room Book" to all mothers, many mothers do not know the idea of adolescent daughters, too worried about their daughters on the emergency to go to the doctor, and finally got the opposite effect.
Mothers should know their daughter's ideas, the right medicine, these two books, there are girls in adolescence psychology, mothers can understand it, to the child to guide and help.
In these two books, there are some growth and development problems that children will encounter during adolescence, and some parents feel embarrassed and difficult to tell their children, this book can help mothers tell children that some physiological phenomena are normal, so that children should not be shy.
At the same time, there are some early love problems encountered by children, and the book also mentions that the use of stories to let children understand the disadvantages of early love, the problems that girls may encounter in adolescence, almost all of which are mentioned in this book, and parents in need can prepare these two books for their children.
Puberty is the obstacle for girls, parents must pay attention to it, correctly guide children through puberty, communicate with children more, and let children better enter the adult stage.