The young man died tragically at home, and the family stinked
These days are the New Year, a man did not enjoy the beautiful festive atmosphere with his family at home, but silently prepared a newly sewn quilt, took a few new clothes and went out alone, it turned out that he was going to his cousin's house, and his cousin's parents died one after another in the year when his cousin first became an adult.
After his parents died, there was no one to take care of his food, clothing, and shelter, and the young cousin lay at home every day. My cousin dropped out of school very early, so he had no skills, and grew up in the countryside, but he couldn't do even the most basic farm work, and he had no way to support himself.
The cousin is also an adult, others have no obligation to him, should have allowed him to fend for himself, but as a cousin, seeing that the cousin was so depressed, he could not bear it, thinking that during the New Year, the cousin must be alone at home, he took the New Year gift to give him some warmth.
He shouted a few times outside the courtyard door, but he didn't hear anyone in the house agree, he thought that this might be his lazy cousin who didn't even want to open his mouth, after all, this was normal for his cousin, who didn't know how to be polite since he was a child.
He pushed the door straight in, the yard was a mess, pushed open the door, and the whole house stinked. A strong smell of huts came over me, and everywhere on the ground, there was the excrement of people who had dried up. Such a stink attracted a lot of flies, flying around the room, and the man wanted to turn his head and leave on the spot.
This turned out to be an environment where a large living person lived, and they didn't know how their cousin lived every day, and the person in the bed lay quietly in the quilt. It didn't seem to smell all of this at all, and there was no reaction to the sudden appearance of visitors.
Only those who are seriously ill and unable to take care of themselves will choose to defecate in the house, and often at that time, human beings have to lay down their dignity in order to survive, but his young cousin is healthy, even taller than the average person.
Just because I was too lazy to go out to the toilet, I directly dug a pit in my home to solve physiological problems at home. Taking 10,000 steps back, even if you dig a pit at home, you must clean it up often, otherwise, the smell of the pit will affect normal life over time.
He was furious, how could an adult live his life like a beast. He was about to have a seizure, but found that his cousin did not even react to his arrival, and his cousin had always been so rude that he had to go forward and open his cousin's quilt.
Unexpectedly, at this time, the cousin's eyes were open without concentration, and his pupils were already dilated, and he didn't know how long he had been dead. His limbs had stiffened, his mouth was slightly open, and the expression on his face seemed to tell him that he had too many regrets about this world.
He was also frightened for a while, he didn't know what to say, his cousin was young, only 23 years old, and he died at home. There are also kind villagers around my cousin who don't know when to send meals, but there is no trace of chopsticks moving. Looking at his cousin's dilapidated earthen walls and leaking eaves, he didn't know if the young cousin had frozen to death or starved to death.
The age of 23 is the age of prosperity, but this young man has locked himself in this house alive, just like his name, his name is Yang Suo.
He was a child that his elderly parents were fortunate to get in his old age, and as soon as he was born, his parents called him Yang Suo, hoping that he would live like a long life lock. However, fate was thus created, and within a few years of their parents giving up, the young Wang Suo also followed them.
With hands and feet, no illness and no disaster, why can this young man live to this point? This is something that normal people cannot understand. But if we know how Wang Suo spent his childhood, we may be able to understand his tragedy today.
Childhood soaked in a honeypot
Since Wang Suo was born, his body was somewhat weak, because it was a fetus born when his mother was old, so his congenital conditions were not good.
His parents regard him as a treasure in the palm of their hands, preferring to lack clothes and food, and never let him eat a full meal, and his three meals a day can no longer be described as full, it is simply hearty, and there are big fish and big meat.
Even if parents eat pickle nests, they must try to feed this child white and fat.
In this way, Wang Suo also lived up to expectations, grew tall and strong, much larger than other children of the same age, in that era when everyone's life was very difficult, children's lack of nutrition was a common situation, so they would grow a little thin, but The lock grew like a child in the city.
Yang Suo's family conditions are not rich, but his parents are willing to give him the best everything. Parents all over the world want to give the best to their children, but Yang Suo's parents have gone a little too far. They are obedient to their children, and every day the child opens his eyes and just sits on the bed, and does not have to do anything, and there will be exquisite meals delivered to his mouth.
When Yang Suo was 8 years old, his father still carried a school bag on one end and carried him to school.
It can be seen how exaggerated Yang Suo's parents are about his degree of doting, and such doting has made Yang Suo develop an arrogant personality and provoke trouble many times in school.
I don't know how to be humble with my classmates, and I don't even know how to be polite to my elders such as teachers. In this way, no school was willing to let Yang Suo enroll.
Unexpectedly, his parents were very happy, which just conformed to their ideas, and they hoped that their son would be at home every day and do nothing, as long as he was at ease.
Even during Yang Suo's short school period, as long as any teacher criticized him and educated him, he would go home and add fuel to his parents, saying that on the 2nd day, his parents rushed to the school in a menacing manner, and scolded the teacher who had taught Yang Suo with a split head and a face.
They never think about why teachers would criticize Yang Suo. All normal guidance is also regarded as bad for the child, and Yang Suo's parents once again successfully distort the child's values with their own actions.
Parents only angry at Yang Suo when they want to take the initiative to help share the housework. This is no longer love, this can only be the harm of the cloak of love, fresh fruit, soaked in honey for a long time will be corrupt, not to mention a child who does not understand anything.
His parents were the best mirrors of his understanding of this society, and their parents were humble in front of him like slaves, pleasing him, obeying him, and he thought that the whole world was like this. As long as someone does not follow him, he will feel that it is someone else's problem.
Yang Suo was so idle that he grew up to seventeen or eighteen years old, and his basic self-care ability was not available, not to mention his skills, living in the countryside, he could not do any farm work, and he did not study well, so he dropped out of school so early.
Basically do not understand cultural knowledge, there is no way to rely on manual labor to gain a foothold in this society, Yang Suo's survival pressure can not be underestimated. But obviously Yang Suo had never thought about these problems, he was just a little emperor in the family who had reached out and opened his mouth.
But even the strongest canopy also collapsed that day, Yang Suo's parents died one after another not long after, due to the old age and physical decline, coupled with excessive fatigue, and after having children, the old two families are even more open-minded to work, just to give Yang Suo a delicious meal.
Overnight, Yang Suo was left alone in this world, and he was only 18 years old that year. 18 years old is the age when many children have just grown up, full of curiosity and expectations for the future. However, although Yang Suo has reached the age of 18, his cognition and understanding of the world is still stuck in the childhood era.
Coddling creates unqualified adults
He doesn't know how to get along with people, doesn't know how to take care of his own life, and can't rely on himself. After his parents collapsed like heaven, he didn't know how to live, and it was difficult for him to even feed himself. He sold everything in the family, but because his family was not rich, there was no old bottom to feed him.
Yang Suo began a life full of hunger, in order to alleviate hunger, he lay motionless on the bed, which can reduce the calorie consumption. When all his savings were consumed by Yang Suo, he had no food to eat at all, and the kind villagers could not bear to let the 18-year-old boy starve like this, so they spontaneously brought him some meals.
Unexpectedly, Yang Suo, who was already hungry and hungry, was still able to pick fat and thin at this time. The inhabitants had already sent him elaborate dishes, which were already fat and thin and nutritious.
However, these dishes were still too light for Yang Suo, and he wanted to restore his previous food, which showed how luxurious the meals he had eaten before were.
Yang Suo lay in bed every day and mixed days, sometimes hungry, he got up to eat the meals sent by the neighbors, and when he was not hungry, he let those meals go away. He also did not go out for a walk, every day he was hiding at home, and finally he was even too lazy to even go out to the toilet. Man lives to such an extent that he is not even as good as livestock.
Yang Suo never thought of using his own ability to improve his life, because this was beyond his cognitive range, he did not know how to change his life, nor did he know how to rely on himself, which his parents had not taught him.
Since he was a child, his parents held him in his hands for fear of falling, and he was afraid to melt in his mouth, and gave him the best everything. His parents never thought that one day they would take a step away from their children, abandon their children, and how would they go after doting on their children like this?
Yang Suo's parents are very irresponsible, they blindly let Yang Suo slowly become a waste at home according to their own wishes, but they have never considered his future.
What a selfish gesture it is to let the child enjoy at home what they are good for him. Perhaps even Yang Suo's parents themselves did not think that their love was selfish, they thought they had given everything.
Time, energy, and money have all been extremely selfless in this precious child, but such behavior has really snuffed out Yang Suo's chance to grow into an adult.
Therefore, to be good to the child is never to let the child accept a little suffering, but to correctly guide the child to a path that ultimately belongs to him. As a parent, it is never possible to taste all the hardships of life for your children.
What parents can do is use their own experience to tell their children how to avoid the risks they may face in the future.