Every parent wants their children to become dragons, phoenixes, and tigers.
No one wants the child to be cowardly and inactive, and they all hope that the child can grow up and stand alone in the wind and rain.
However, many people unconsciously spoil their children into weak greenhouse flowers.
These children cannot withstand the baptism of wind and waves. You can only live in care.
The strength of children is multifaceted, not only the success of the career, but also the strength of the body.
Only when we are strong in all aspects can we be competent for the burden of the family and shoulder the responsibilities of society.
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Spoiling a child too much is harming him
When I was a child, I always listened to the grandmother next door tell a story: she said that in the village where she used to live, there was a family that was particularly able to coddle children, and this child was a bit like some rich second generation now. However, at that time, the rich second generation was much inferior to the current rich second generation.
Their greatest blessing is that they can eat and drink without worrying.
One year the couple was going to go on a long trip, and in order not to starve the children, they came up with a special method, they burned a large cake, leaving a hole in the middle of the cake, which was used to carry it around the neck, and if the child finished eating the front, they could continue to eat.
This cake will keep them coming back without starving the child.
But when they returned, the child starved to death. The child didn't know how to turn the cake around, and only ate a small piece of bread in front of him.
Later, when I grew up a little, I felt that my grandmother was deceiving us to attract attention.
Until I read a real report. The story of the first lazy man. This is why I believe that the grandmother is not sensational. There is such a thing in the world.
The person who claimed to be the world's first lazy man was named Yang Suo, because he could not cook, and was starved to death at home at the age of 23.
This person is from Xinyang, Henan. His parents were ordinary farmers, but they always took good care of their children and never let their children suffer a little.
Yang Suo did not walk on the ground before he was 8 years old. It was the father who carried it with a picker.
After growing up, due to the pampering of his parents, Yang Suo completely lost his ability to survive and would not even cook.
When his parents died one after another, he completely lost the dependence of life.
At the beginning, the villagers also sent him a prepared meal. In this way, he barely survived a few spring and autumn.
That winter, after several days of snow, his cousin felt it was time to see him, and when he arrived at Yang Suo's residence with the prepared meal, he found that he was already stiff and starved himself to death at home.
This Yang Suo was spoiled by his parents and did not let him do any work since he was a child. He lacks the most basic life skills and abilities. When his parents died, he was starved to death. It's a tragedy that shouldn't have happened.
This is enough to show that being too spoiled of the child is actually harming him.
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The development of society makes life convenient, but it is also impossible to be lazy
In modern life, it is more and more convenient, hungry to order takeaway, go out and take the car.
Compared with Yang Suo, some people have more than that. However, there was no more tragedy of starving people. This is probably due to the development of modern society.
In one video, a girl has not gone downstairs for three months, and the landlord's aunt is afraid of an accident and goes upstairs to check the situation.
As soon as I opened the door, I was stunned by the scene in front of me!
All kinds of takeaway packaging garbage piled up into a mountain.
There was no place in the house where I could get my feet.
It turned out that the girl had been playing games in the building for three months. When you are hungry, you call for takeaway, and you have not set foot in the outside world for three months.
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To take on a big responsibility, you have to suffer some hardships
As Mencius said, "Therefore the heavens will descend upon the Scythians, and they will first suffer their minds, strain their bones, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and confuse their deeds. ”
Modern children suffer too little. Most of them grew up in honeypots.
But if they are allowed to go back to the past, starving and freezing, it is obviously impossible.
However, it is also appropriate to let them suffer some hardships.
First of all, let them clearly understand from their minds that happiness is not innate, and only by appropriately suffering can they cultivate their strong will.
Even if you have no worries about food and clothing, you should deliberately cultivate your life skills.
Many children lack exercise, giving people a feeling of weakness and can't help the wind.
The first few days I went to the bank to do a business, and in the window was a thin girl, her slender fingers tapping on the keyboard, which made me break out in a cold sweat, and her fingers were slender, like five chopstick heads.
Have people degenerated into such a form now? At first glance, there is no labor or physical activity.
Although modern civilization is highly developed, in a few years, intelligent robots will begin to replace humans in large quantities, and in the future, all the physical work will not be done by people. But the human body must not degenerate into a "pole of hemp".
Children are the future of our families, and only those who are physically strong can take on heavy responsibilities. Therefore, here, there is a strong appeal: let children participate in more sports activities, cultivate their ability to live, so that they can stand up their backbone in life.