On January 10, 2022, the highly publicized "JiangGe case" was pronounced in the first instance at the Chengyang District People's Court in Qingdao City, Shandong Province, and the court ordered Liu Xin to compensate nearly 700,000 yuan.
Hearing this news, countless netizens secretly wiped their tears, sighed that justice was in the hearts of the people, and scolded Liu Xin, who was killed by Jiang Ge when he locked the door fiercely.
After losing her daughter for more than 1800 days, Jiang Qiulian has also aged a lot. After getting the verdict, she was slightly relieved.
Looking back at the "Jiang Ge Case", the most incomprehensible and indignant thing is Liu Xin's various divine operations. In Japan, she locked Jiang Ge outside the door of her apartment, resulting in Jiang Ge being assassinated by Chen Shifeng; in China, she had no remorse, repeatedly sent incomprehensible messages to Jiang's mother on holidays, and sprinkled salt on the wounds of a lost mother.
There is no need to endure any longer. Mother Jiang gave Liu Xin a chance, but she was inhuman and unrepentant. In the end, Jiang's mother only had to take her daughter's former "friend" to court and ask for an explanation for her dead daughter.
Teaching children to stay away from "garbage people" is a compulsory course for every parent
Liu Xin said that she was innocent, and in my opinion, she was dead.
Entangled by her ex-boyfriend Chen Shifeng, she found her "friend" Jiang Ge, hoping that Jiang Ge could help her. Jiang Ge, who was righteous, stepped forward and let Liu Xin live in his apartment to avoid Chen Shifeng's harassment. Unexpectedly, Chen Shifeng still came to the door and ambushed outside the door with a knife in his hand.
What no one could have imagined was that after the encounter with Chen Shifeng, Liu Xin, who ran into the house in advance, actually locked the door, leaving Jiang Ge outside to meet Chen Shifeng's anger, and Chen Shifeng, who was almost crazy, transferred his hatred to Jiang Ge and moved his hands on her. Jiang Ge looked desperately at the locked door and slowly fell down... One door, separating two worlds. On one side is death and on the other side is life; on the other side is good and on the other side is evil. (Attached to the court judgment at the end of the article, all the details of the internal affairs are issued)
After the "Jiang Ge case" happened, I often wondered: What kind of selfish human nature would lock the door and let his friends take the knife for themselves? What should I do if my child makes such a friend?
It is said that multiple friends are good to go, but I think it is more important to teach children to stay away from "garbage people" than to teach children righteousness!
As parents, we always want our children to have good qualities, but we forget to tell them that not all of them are worthy of their kindness.
From the media reports, we can obviously see that Jiang Ge is a kind, tolerant, considerate and righteous good girl. Liu Xin encountered emotional problems, as a friend, she did not complain and kindly took her to live in her own home. Half an hour before she was killed, she even packed the ravioli and happily took Liu Xin home with her.
What about Liu Xin? He lived in Jiang Ge's house for two months, did not help to share a penny of rent, did not buy daily necessities, did not clean, and even waited for Jiang Ge to come back and dump the garbage. What is even more excessive is that at the critical juncture when Chen Shifeng broke into it with a knife, the egoist Liu Xin actually cut off Jiang Ge's last way to live for 100% of his own safety!
I believe that no parent would like their child to encounter such a "garbage man". Psychologists have analyzed that the kinder the person, the easier it is to meet selfish people. There is nothing wrong with teaching children kindness and righteousness, but we must let children know that the premise of kindness and righteousness is to protect themselves, learn to distinguish between good and evil, and not be a good old man. If you pay without reservation, blindly endure and give in, you will eventually be dragged into the abyss by the "garbage man" and make yourself and your loved ones miserable.
Tell your child that these kinds of "garbage people" should be kept away!
Children grow up day by day, and it is impossible to live under the wings of their parents forever. After entering the school and society, they will encounter all kinds of people, the so-called "near Zhu is red, close to the ink is black", in terms of dating, parents must pay more attention, you can let the child play freely, but when necessary, you must intervene in time, so as to avoid the child's careless dating, "garbage people" around, or be taken badly.
When these kinds of "garbage people" appear around your children, tell them: stay away as soon as possible!
The first is the extreme. Chen Shifeng, the murderer in the "Jiang Ge case", is a typical extremist, and when he encounters bad feelings, he does not communicate calmly at the first time, but goes to the extreme, kills people with a knife, and kills innocent people. Extreme people, more paranoid and extreme, will subconsciously avoid their own mistakes and shortcomings, grumpy and irritable, easy to make a big fuss because of a small matter, unreasonable, and do not care about the feelings of others. Make friends with extreme people and your own children are vulnerable.
The second is selfish people. Liu Xin in the "Jiang Ge Case" was selfish to the extreme, knowing that he had done something wrong, but he did not have the slightest guilt about the death of his friend, and in order to clear his responsibility, he constantly slandered Jiang Ge who saved her afterwards. Even sending messages such as "Happy Family" and "Eating Blood Ravioli" to Jiang Ge's mother during the festival repeatedly stimulated a mother who had just lost her child, which was simply inhuman.
This kind of selfish person is always self-centered, ruthless, does not know how to be grateful, will not make any concessions to his own interests, and has no moral bottom line. Make friends with selfish people and the child is bound to get hurt.
The third is the person who bursts with negative energy. It's not good, it's not good, it's not good, it's not going to work... Negative energy can be contagious, if the child's friends around always transmit negative energy, then over time, the child may also be affected, into the vortex of negative energy, unable to extricate themselves, easy to form a pessimistic, inferior personality.
The fourth type is people who like to compare. Today's children are relatively precocious, if there is no correct guidance, it is easy to form a wind of comparison, than parents, than the house, than the car, than the grades, than the pride and complacency, than the shame of the self. Make friends with such people, the child's vanity will also expand day by day, become snobbish, love vanity, and easily go astray.
So, how do parents know about their child's dating? For example, you can often chat with your child, talk about their good friends, or recently new friends, and let the child make an evaluation of his friends. You can also let the child invite friends to the home to play, through observation, to further understand the child's friends.
If you want to keep your child away from "garbage people", first let your child have confidence from an early age
It is important to teach children kindness and righteousness, but we must first teach children to learn to stay away from garbage people, so that children know how to protect themselves.
Some children are born with good popularity, so good that they have no sense of boundaries, good for good people, good for evil people. Some children, pure flattering personality, please parents, please teachers, please friends, but forget to please themselves...
Some people say that a child with confidence and security is more likely to distinguish between good and evil, and has more courage to defend his own interests. I agree with this view, perhaps, only the richness of the heart can be inviolable!
From the perspective of children's psychological development, the nurturing environment of childhood has a huge impact on the personality of adulthood, especially before the age of 3, it is the foundation of life, parents must give their children enough security, let him become a confident person, parents at least to do the following two aspects.
1. Accept your child's emotions
Children who gain attention and love by pleasing others, on the surface look very good to get along with, have a soft personality, but are actually very pitiful, do not know how to refuse, consider the feelings of others in advance, ignore their true thoughts and needs, always suffer from gain and loss, and live carefully. To avoid children forming a flattering personality, parents should spend more time listening to the child's voice, learn to accept the child's good and bad emotions, do not always ignore or snub the child, give the child a little more attention, the child will have a more sense of security, do not have to please others everywhere, and have more confidence to deal with the "garbage man".
2. Let the child form a sense of property rights
Children who lack the awareness of property rights are more likely to be targeted by "garbage people", and when they are bullied, they dare not resist or ask for help, but will only endure in silence, do not say a word, and let themselves be hurt. Children with a sense of property rights will realize that "mine" is "mine" and that no one can take it away. Children at the age of 2, began to gradually produce a sense of property rights, parents want their children to have a position, principles, we must help them establish a sense of property rights, but also to establish a sense of security. For example, don't force your child to share toys and snacks, and teach your child to be brave enough to say "no" when they don't want to. A child with a sense of property rights and the courage to refuse can protect himself from harm when facing "garbage people" in the future.
Write at the end:
The "Jiang Ge Case" has come to an end, and this is a story of "farmers and snakes". In the struggle between good and evil, wan fortunately in the end "good" still won the victory. Judging from the fact that most people stand on Jiang Ge's mother, this society is still full of conscience. Of course, the "Jiang Ge case" also reminds us that as parents, it is more important than teaching their children to be kind, brave, and righteous, so that they know how to protect themselves and stay away from "garbage people".