The news that Jiang Ge's mother, Jiang Qiulian, won the case can be regarded as a good thing this winter.
The jiangge incident should not be known to many people.
Summed up in four words, it is a modern version of the story of "the farmer and the snake".
The girl Jiang Ge studied in Japan and met another girl, Liu Xin, who was also a fellow countryman. Liu Xin made a psychologically twisted boyfriend, and after getting along, he found that his extreme personality wanted to break up, because he was afraid of being hurt by his boyfriend, Liu Xin hid in Jiang Ge's house. Jiang Ge was originally kind enough to take in his friends, but unfortunately he was involved in a fatal relationship and sacrificed his young life in vain.
The specific process, other number owners on the Internet have written in great detail, and I will not repeat it here. I was deeply touched by a sentence I saw, so I wanted to discuss it.
The friend said—
"If this lawsuit (Jiang Qiulian v. Liu Xin is now renamed Liu Mouxi, the dispute over the right to life, body and health) is won, I will teach the children not to be like Liu Xin." If they lose, I will teach them not to be like Jiang Ge. ”
That friend said, the lawsuit is won, will tell the child to be like Jiang Ge, I understand that it means that educating children, treating friends or should be shot when they should shoot, if they are wronged, justice will be late but will arrive, full of positive energy.
In our culture, Guan Erye, who is loyal to his friend, is worshipped as a god, and Lei Feng, who is happy to help others, is regarded as an example to learn, even in private emotions, "inserting a knife into the ribs of a friend" is a more positive word. Therefore, it is conceivable that Jiang Qiulian must have taught Jiang Ge in this way from childhood, but she would never have thought that it was this responsibility for her friends that would one day make her daughter lose her life and die elsewhere.
Of course, life in the world for decades, it is impossible not to make a friend, to make friends is to watch over each other. And in most cases, it is unlikely that friends will encounter tragedies like Jiang Ge, and even Jiang Ge himself certainly did not think that one day he would die because of taking in his friends.
If there is no Chen Shifeng, or Liu Xin can handle her emotional problems, Jiang Ge may still be alive, may still be good friends with Liu Xin, and may continue to work, study and live together.
I don't want to raise my child to be a person like Jiang Ge, not to deny Jiang Ge's kindness, nor to think that Jiang Ge's help to her friends is wrong, but at the same time as lamenting Jiang Ge, I feel that a friend like Liu Xin is not worthy of her kindness.
In this whole incident, Jiang Ge's original intention was to "help friends" like everyone else, while Liu Xin showed an extremely egoistic side. Self-interest is not impossible, and it is human nature to constantly seek a balance between self-interest and altruism. But among friends, even selfish people should have contacts, and people who are selfish in everything should still be good to respect and stay away as soon as possible.
So I would rather Jiang Qiulian did not cultivate Jiang Ge so well, and would rather Jiang Ge choose to be selfish in the face of the demands of her friends. The so-called "harmful heart must not be, the heart of preventing people must not be without", and if the situation is not right, it should be reported to the police in time. As long as you can live well, even if you are called selfish, it doesn't matter. At least there is no need for the hard-working old mother to live by smelling her daughter's old clothes in the future.
But the real world is that it has been 5 years since Jiang Ge was killed in Japan. In 5 years, more than 1800 days and nights, Jiang Qiulian has been tossing and turning between China and Japan, counting the days day by day, there must have been countless moments of wanting to give up, and there must have been countless people who have advised her to know how to let go. But only by relying on this belief of "seeking justice for her daughter" can she support her day and night for the past 5 years. Because even where justice can't go, Mom will definitely arrive.
For Jiang Qiulian, the biggest difficulty in the past five years or so is not the hardship of cross-border evidence collection again and again, nor is it the fatigue of a 50-year-old who still has to study the provisions of Chinese and Japanese laws word by word. Instead, the black powder said that she was fighting the lawsuit to win eyeballs and earn traffic, and she was eating her daughter's blood steamed buns.
Such a flow of eyeballs no mother wants, and even if she wins this lawsuit, it is not the end of Jiang Ge's story, Jiang Qiulian said, and when Chen Shifeng returns from prison in Japan, she will continue to sue.
I admire Jiang Qiulian's persistence and tenacity, I know that for the sake of the child's mother, I can open up anything, but the whip did not draw on myself, and I still can't imagine how much pain it will be.
If time can be turned back, if everything can be turned back, will Jiang Qiulian still teach her daughter to help others as the basis of happiness? I do not know.
If it comes to an end, do I have the courage and courage to fight to the death with the murderer of my own children? I don't know and don't want to know, not only do I not want to know myself, I would rather all moms never know the answer.
Jiang Qiulian's lawsuit against Liu Xin will definitely be won, because this is related to our long-standing national cultural inheritance and the public order and good customs of our entire society, so she must win. But if you want to ask me, do you want to raise your children to be like Jiang Ge, saying "want" is a beautiful word, saying "don't want" is the truth.
I think I will remind the child that knowing the face and not knowing the heart; I will warn the child that life safety is the first at any time; I will persuade the child that not all friends are worth fighting with their lives...
Because of how he won the lawsuit and how he kept the hearts of the people, Jiang Ge will never come back
And the mother's biggest wish is to keep her daughter alive.
Author's introduction: Chen Yan, love gossip, love movies, love children, love yourself more. The new book "Real Education in the Family" is listed simultaneously on the whole network.