"Now I'm going to see Jiang Ge and bring this (verdict) to her." Tell her that Mom did it. Jiang Qiulian had tears in her eyes and choked on the camera with a heavy verdict.
In 1894 days and nights, Mother Jiang finally ushered in the first instance judgment:
Defendant Liu Mouxi (formerly known as Liu Xin) compensated plaintiff Jiang Qiulian for various economic losses of 496,000 yuan and consolation payment for mental damage of 200,000 yuan within 10 days from the effective date of the judgment, and bear all the case acceptance fees.
In court, Jiang's mother held a school bag on her chest, which contained the clothes jiang ge wore when she was killed. She said she wanted to witness the moment with her daughter.
Source: The Paper
This scene is sad to watch.
696,000, and Jiang Ge's life is far from being equivalent.
No amount of compensation would be enough to offset the mother's pain of losing her daughter.
A mother's long journey to revenge
On the way to find the truth for her daughter, Mother Jiang is not easy.
On November 3, 2016, bad news came, and Jiang Ge, who was studying in Japan, was killed.
Jiang's mother still couldn't believe that 8 minutes before her daughter was killed, they were still talking on the phone, and now they were separated by yin and yang.
Mother Jiang rushed to Japan and looked at her daughter's body full of knife edges, she beat her chest and stomped her feet: "10 knives, how good it is to stab me!" ”
The person who led to such a tragic situation for her daughter was the ex-boyfriend of Jiang Ge's good friend Liu Xin.
Previously, Liu Xin, because of his emotional entanglement with his ex-boyfriend Chen Shifeng, asked For help from Jiang Ge and borrowed Jiang Ge's apartment.
On November 2, 2016, Chen Shifeng went to his apartment to harass Liu Xin, who was alone at home, and Liu Xin told Jiang Ge to go home and relieve him. Jiang Ge twice proposed to call the police, but Liu Xin refused.
At 16:15, after Jiang Ge returned to the apartment to help Liu Xin break the siege, Jiang Ge accompanied Liu Xin out. During this period, Chen Shifeng has been following Liu Xin to her destination of work and sending messages threatening Liu Xin.
In order to make Chen Shifeng dead-hearted, Liu Xin asked his colleague to pretend to be his current boyfriend, which further angered Chen Shifeng, and he left a sentence: "If you get along with him, I will be desperate."
At 23:00, Liu Xin's work was over, she felt dangerous, and sent a number of WeChat messages to ask Jiang Ge and her to meet at the subway mouth, Jiang Ge was very realistic, and waited for Liu Xin at the subway mouth for about an hour.
At 0:15, Liu Xin and Jiang Ge went upstairs together, and Liu Xin, who was walking in front, sensed the danger and quickly took out the key to open the door, and locked the door after entering, causing Jiang Ge outside the door to be violently controlled by Chen Shifeng and there was no way to escape.
"Lock the door, don't scold anymore." Liu Xin's words completely angered Chen Shifeng, and the desperate Chen Shifeng stabbed Jiang Ge 11 times, and Jiang Ge let out a final scream.
At first, Jiang's mother tried to find Liu Xin, who was living in Jiang Ge's house at the time of the crime, only to learn about her daughter's final situation before she died.
Liu Xin knew that the murderer was Chen Shifeng, but he avoided Mother Jiang, let alone any explanation and explanation. Jiang Ge's funeral also did not see her trace.
In desperation, Mother Jiang looked for Liu Xin all over the Internet, but instead was threatened by Liu Xin: If you send information to the Internet, I will stop assisting the police.
On August 23, 2017, under the pressure of public opinion, Liu Xin apologized to Mother Jiang in front of the camera, but Mother Jiang never expected that the challenge to her bottom line had just begun.
After Liu Xin apologized, he turned his head and continued to attack Jiang Ge and Jiang's mother on the Internet.
Liu Xin poured dirty water on Jiang Ge and sent a private message on Weibo to stimulate Jiang's mother: "Auntie, is the blood wonton delicious?" (Before Jiang Ge was killed, he bought wontons for Liu Xin.) ）
She systematically and premeditated her, believing that Mother Jiang was using Jiang Ge's death to make money, and threatened to send her duck neck and pigeon meat (Mother Jiang called Jiang Ge a little song). They made a video of Jiang Ge's private message voice, which viciously called "sesame open door", implying the door that cut off Jiang Ge's way of life. Even during the festival, sending "family reunion, happy new year" stimulates Mother Jiang...
I can't imagine how Mother Jiang would feel when she saw these things.
For 5 years, Liu Xin used all the evil imaginable in the world to Jiang Ge and Jiang Mama.
A lot of people don't understand it as much as I do.
And Liu Xin did it.
Countless nights, Mother Jiang hugged the blood-stained clothes of her daughter on the day she was killed, and swore in her tear-soaked heart: I will live, seek justice for my beloved daughter, and defend the dignity of my beloved daughter!
A mother who has lost her daughter, she is strong enough and must be strong too.
Don't let the good people chill
After 1894 days and nights, the righteous judgment finally arrived!
The court made several factual bases for the trial, and also slapped those who supported Liu Xin and slandered Jiang's mother:
1. Liu Xin prevented Jiang Ge from calling the police. After liu xin, who was deeply in trouble, asked Jiang Ge for help, he refused Jiang Ge to call the police twice, and Liu Xin pushed Jiang Ge into a dangerous situation.
2. In the face of Chen Shifeng's continuous stalking, pestering and intimidation behavior, Liu Xin expressed fear of Jiang Ge, indicating that Liu Xin had realized that his life safety was threatened and had a sense of danger.
However, for the multi-faceted relief and maintenance of his friends, Liu Xin did not fulfill the duty of care to remind and inform.
3. Liu Xin locked the door and blocked Jiang Ge's escape path. Liu Xinming had foreseen the danger of Chen Shifeng, but did not inform Jiang Ge, and asked Jiang Ge to accompany him home.
However, when Chen Shifeng committed the violation, out of self-preservation, he closed and locked the room, completely blocking Jiang Ge from the door of his residence and losing his life. Liu Xin failed to fulfill his obligation to ensure safety in social interactions.
The judgement also states:
Jiang Ge's behavior is in line with the core socialist values and public order and good customs, and should be praised, and he deserves legal remedies for his unlawful infringement. As a friend of Jiang Ge and a rescued person, after the incident, instead of being grateful and giving sympathy and comfort to the relatives of the deceased, Liu Mouxi provoked him with inappropriate words, further aggravating the pain of others, and his behavior was contrary to common sense and human feelings and should be condemned.
This judgment not only explains the risks of Jiang Ge, but also in the process of helping Liu Xin with kindness, little by little, due to Liu Xin's behavior of not calling the police, not informing, and not reminding, Liu Xin needs to bear legal responsibility. It also fully affirmed Jiang Ge's righteous and courageous deeds, her kindness, and condemned Liu Xin's problems in moral behavior.
On January 11, Ms. Jiang responded that she would donate the compensation she received to the out-of-school girls.
Mother Jiang once said something like this:
"If I win the lawsuit, I can educate the children, don't be like Liu Xin (Liu Nunxi); if I lose the lawsuit, I can educate the children, not the people like Jiang Ge."
Fortunately, Mother Jiang won the case, so that the kind people would not be chilled.
In the past 5 years, the pain of losing her daughter has continued to pervade Mother Jiang's soul, and she has never fallen in the face of attacks and malicious slanders from all directions.
With calm and restraint, she tried everything to prove the innocence of her daughter and herself.
If there are always bad people,
Do you still teach your children to be kind?
Someone asked Mother Jiang to sue her (Liu Xin), what is your purpose?
Mother Jiang said, I want the truth, money is just a means of punishment!
She imagined her daughter alive:
"It's been three years since Jiang Ge graduated this year..."
"Jiang Ge is working, and the two of us will often video."
"When Jiang Ge gets married and has children, I will do laundry at home, cook, and pick up and drop off their children..."
If there is a choice, all a mother wants from beginning to end is the peace of her child's life.
Today, we still have options and opportunities to give our children better protection.
This is also a reflection left by the Jiang Ge case:
Good people are hard to be, and they may even take their own lives. Before helping the elderly to be touched by porcelain, after there was a first aid fainting passerby anti-defendant, let us once question whether we should insist on being a good person, or do we want to educate children to be a kind person?
The philosopher Russell said, "Of all moral qualities, the good nature is most needed in the world." ”
Kindness is a quality that does not easily hurt others.
When a person has this quality of "not easily hurting others", and this quality is known to everyone, everyone will be more willing to cooperate with such a person.
Under the same conditions, the chances of success that a good ordinary person can achieve are far greater than those of an evil "wizard". Although the latter is more capable, there is a threat, people are seeking advantages and avoiding harm, and people often push people with poor character down out of self-preservation psychology and replace them with good people.
This magnetic field formed by this natural "kindness" will bring us more choices and opportunities.
As teacher Yin Jianli said:
A kind person is the person who has the least friction with the world, and it is easy to become a happy person; a child who is not harsh in mentality will grow up with a more comfortable attitude, more harmonious interpersonal relationships, and more help and opportunities.
Kindness is precious, but if we don't learn to protect ourselves, it can be a disaster.
In life, not everyone knows how to cherish such qualities, and even use your kindness to achieve their own goals without a bottom line, such as Liu Xin.
Therefore, we need to teach our children to add some sharpness to kindness, and the following three points are the principles:
1. Pay in principle
Kindness is never unconditional help, on the contrary, true kindness is given in principle.
For example, if someone falls into the water and you can't swim, the best way is not to jump hard to save people, but to choose to throw a lifebuoy, shout people and call the police.
It's a kind of self-responsibility, but also a responsibility to others.
2. Confidently refuse
Kindness is never about not knowing how to refuse other people's requests, and even if you can't sometimes do it, you have to agree to it. True kindness is knowing that it is not your obligation to help others and that you have the right to refuse.
Sanmao once said something like this: "Don't be afraid to reject others, if your reasons are justified." When a person asks for it, he has prepared two answers in his mind. So, to give him any of the answers is to be expected. ”
So, if someone else's request makes you embarrassed, just refuse.
If you always have people around you who embarrass you and constantly drain your energy, the best thing to do is to stay away.
3. Learn to take care of yourself
You don't need to tolerate others without a bottom line, give others a bottom line, just need to clarify your own responsibility boundaries and do a good job in the moment.
When you are not strong enough, the best thing to do is not to please others, but to be good at yourself and improve yourself. Only when you are strong, you will have more ability to help others, which is the greatest kindness to yourself.
Gu Cheng said in the poem "Rose": "The rose wears sharp thorns, and it does not become a thorn, it just defends its own spring flowers and is not trampled by wild beasts." ”
This is true of roses, and it is true of good people.
This is also the most important human skill that parents can teach their children - to be a good person, but not a "good old man" or "a bad good person".
If every parent can continuously give their children respect and love, they can better help their children form a healthy and independent personality, form clear boundaries, and give birth to sharp kindness.
Then there will be a lot less Liu Xin and Chen Shifeng in the world, and there will be more Jiang Ge who can live well.
About the Author: Shattered, Yin Jianli Parents Academy Original Content Editor, Family Education Recorder, Sharer.