Today I saw a video in which the man pointed out the truth of marriage and couldn't help but want to share it with you.
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What is the purpose of marrying a wife?
Some men say, you can't even cook, you can't wash your clothes, what's the use of me marrying you?
Some men began to get angry when they saw that their wives had not cooked, saying that they could not even eat hot food when they came home tired for a day.
However, I would like to say that you are married to a wife, not an old mother, who is not tired for a day?
This sentence is said well: you are not looking for a wife for you to have children, but to accompany you until you are old.
The so-called husband and wife, the husband is not an identity, but a responsibility; the wife is not a nickname, but a guardian.
Becoming a couple may only require love, but becoming a family member requires the effort, sacrifice and compromise of two people. It's easy to be together, it's hard to go down.
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What is home?
The home is run jointly by husband and wife, weaving dreams and bittersweet and sour nests.
Home is not a simple concept, home is not a house, not a color TV, not a refrigerator, not a space where materials are piled up.
Home needs loving relatives, needs that special sense of truth, and two people who care about each other are home.
How to deal with the relationship between husband and wife is the most critical issue in the family.
In real life, good men may not necessarily marry good women, good women may not necessarily marry good men, and good women and good men are not necessarily happy.
There are thousands of people, there are hundreds of changes in the world, everyone's personality, taste, and quality are different, the way husband and wife get along is different, and a hundred couples have a hundred ways of getting along.
Marriage is like a table of wine—
Love is a staple food,
Tolerance, understanding, trust, respect are a dish,
Appreciation, humor, fun is wine and drink
Only with the above varieties of wine at the same time can it be regarded as a perfect banquet, and I hope that everyone will eat comfortably, eat calmly, and eat forever until the last breath of life at the wedding table.
As the saying goes, a hundred years of cultivation can be in the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can be a common sleep.
After the age of forty, the real couple is not who conquers whom, but who accommodates whom.
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A good couple should be like this.
1. From one end to the other.
After the age of forty, I recall that two people have lived together for so many years, and have walked through so many ups and downs hand in hand, and life has slowly become calmer.
Looking forward to the future, there are no difficulties that have not been encountered, and there is no obstacle that cannot be passed. The most important thing is to hold the people around you.
Suspicion and suspicion are the least worthwhile! You know, once there is distrust, it is difficult for feelings to break through the mirror and reunite.
Forty years old, most of the children are not around, and the family has returned to the life of two people. At this time, it is very suitable for some unfinished dreams when you are young.
Watching a movie, giving a small gift with a heart, or holding your wife's hand again to go for a walk can rekindle your passion!
2. Not too real.
"Don't conquer each other" This is the most important issue for couples. Conquest is something that often happens between husband and wife.
Talk about who's right and who's wrong! Discuss who hurt whom and who went too far! These are all taboos.
Good couples are always pretending to be stupid, pretending to be blind to each other, and protecting each other. What can protect the short is true love!
If both people are not willing to become stupid, both are shrewd, and they must find out and understand everything, then in daily life, they must be trembling, like walking on thin ice, living not easy and unhappy at all!
3. "Husband and wife", all things are happy.
Husband and wife are in the same heart, and the loess turns into gold. There is no right or wrong in family affairs, only harmony and discord, "husband and wife" can be harmonious, "home and" can be prosperous!
Husband and wife start a family, this home is a place of love, not a place of reason. The place of reasoning is the courtroom. The home has roots and souls, and this root and soul are controlled by husband and wife; whichever party does not control well will "lose harmony".
Quarrel, scold, fight and leave. Only in this way can we maintain the "harmony of husband and wife", can the family prosper, the family business prosper, and the children and grandchildren enjoy the blessings!
In a word: husband and wife, all the best!
4. Support each other.
Love, don't embarrass each other, don't criticize each other, don't blame each other, but be silly to continue to accompany each other.
Silly, because after so many years together, we have already decided and determined. There is nothing to know, to know, to improve, to improve!
If there is progress, it is accepted; if there is no progress, it is also accepted. Then, the love of husband and wife after the age of forty is there.
For a lifetime, to be able to have a person, love each other well, always be together, how beautiful! After the age of forty, husband and wife must continue to support each other, take care of each other, and accompany each other!
5. Don't forget your original intention.
After living together for so many years, love has slowly become affection, even if two people are now together, there is no original passion, then please don't forget to have feelings.
When you want to let go, have you ever wondered why you came here with her or him in the first place?
After being together for a long time, even if they are not as in love with each other at that time, they must choose to continue to stay together, have these done to each other?
Women know how to keep each other, men know how to be grateful, is a lifetime. So, after the age of forty, no matter what, don't forget to have feelings.
No matter how vigorous love is, it can't withstand the chai rice oil and salt of life, and no matter how earth-shattering vows can't stand up to each other's mutual companionship.
Falling in love is easier said than done. It is easy to call a wife, and it is not difficult to call a wife, but calling an old woman is a lifelong commitment!
In our lifetime, we have met many people, it is not easy to meet people who like, it is even more difficult to meet people who love each other, and it is even more difficult to love each other and be together.
The best ending is that you have become my responsibility, and I have become your guardian, so that we will stay together for a lifetime, and accompany each other until we are old.
What is a couple?
Love for a lifetime, quarrel for a lifetime, endure for a lifetime, this is husband and wife.