Author: Number One Emotion
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In real life, people are worried about getting married, especially the dowry and the house, and I don't know how many men and women who are eager to get married are troubled.
In fact, the reason is that the human heart is too complicated, there are too many desires in life, so the human heart gradually changes from simple to complex, if you want to return to simplicity, it is obviously not so easy.
Many times, whether it is a bride price or a house, it is just an accessory to marriage, and if you can see them, you will naturally no longer be troubled by it.
Case:
Her name is Shi Hong, and when others refuse to get married because Fangben does not write her name, she is distressed because her boyfriend wants to write her name, because she knows that there is no free lunch in the world, not to mention that her boyfriend is usually not so luxurious.
Shi Hong is 3 years younger than her boyfriend, and she is certainly not as mature as the other party in her mind, but even so, she still has a heart eye, and did not agree with her boyfriend's suggestion, only said a word and then thought about it, and this matter was temporarily shelved.
First, let's talk about Shi Hong and her boyfriend's respective thoughts.
For Shi Hong, in the face of her boyfriend's idea of writing her name on the property worth 2 million yuan, her heart is naturally ecstatic, but when she calms down, she feels that her boyfriend is usually not so generous and good at talking, how can there be such an operation?
After in-depth understanding, Shi Hong learned that the reason why her husband wrote his name was to borrow money better in the future, if so, this risk could be borne by Shi Hong, and she naturally did not want to take such a risk.
The most important thing is that the two people are not married now, if in the end it is really not worth the loss, the final hurt and loss is still themselves, so Shi Hong expressed his own opposition, and Shi Hong's boyfriend is very incomprehensible, he just wants to take out a loan to solve the problem of the capital chain, how can he not get the understanding of his girlfriend?
Let's talk about the attitudes of the families on both sides, and the end result.
When Shi Hong told her parents about her boyfriend's idea, her parents did not agree to such an operation, although it seemed nothing on the surface, but in fact, she had to bear a debt of more than 2 million, which was obviously unacceptable to them.
To this end, the parents of both sides have also sat down to talk, but Shi Hong's attitude is very obvious, if it is only for the loan to write the house in my name, or marry me, it is something she cannot accept, and it is better to take such a risk than to break up directly.
In the end, the two families could not find a solution that suited each other, and the two young people had different values and finally chose to break up.
Case Study:
Judging from the man's attitude, the purpose of this operation is certainly not simple, otherwise it would not have broken up with Shi Hong, and Shi Hong decisively chose the way to break up in order to defend his rights and interests.
It is reasonable to say that the family situation of both sides is good, and each other has reached the age of talking about marriage, the parents of both sides have also met, and they should cherish this feeling more, who admits that the man has such a moth, and finally pushed himself into the abyss, and finally gained more than he lost.
How women should protect themselves
Before marriage, it is best not to have any financial relationship between the two parties, although the two people in front of them are loving, but who can guarantee what will happen next? Just like Shi Hong, once she agrees to her boyfriend's request, but finally chooses to abandon her, then the remaining debt is Shi Hong's own.
Therefore, women must keep a clear head, do not easily get confused on the matter of money, whether the other party has bad intentions, should not increase their own sunk costs, otherwise the final trouble can only make you yourself.
What if the man has ulterior motives? As the saying goes, "the heart of harming people cannot be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without", even if two people love deeply, they must remain sober when they encounter financial entanglements, and some men often take advantage of women's confusion in love to obtain illegal benefits.
Of course, if two people are already married, it is another matter, after all, risks and opportunities are mutual, I believe that there is no bad mind at this time, and they will definitely work together for the happiness of marriage.
Write at the end
The writer Bing Xin once said: "If your heart is simple, then the world is simple." ”
In terms of marriage, two people together is a very simple thing, willing to be together, if you don't want to separate, don't use love with a complicated heart, maybe you can harvest what you want at that time, but in the end you will still pay a heavy price for it.
Therefore, it is better to make the heart a little simpler, stop losing yourself for the so-called desires, and calmly enjoy life, and the future will be happier and happier.