Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
An original emotion number that deserves your attention
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Reality and the Internet seem to be two diametrically opposed dimensions.
Everyone in the network is rich, everyone does not want to get married, and men and women are opposed to each other.
What we see in life is the opposite phenomenon, most people are still ordinary people, they long for marriage, and have always followed the natural law of heterosexual attraction.
According to the latest reports, the number of marriage registrations after 00 in Fujian has reached 12,831, of which 22 are men.
About this data, many people may not understand, and then I will explain it to you.
Our marriage law stipulates that the age of marriage must be 22 years for men and 20 years for women.
It's only 10 days since 2022. In other words, the 22 boys who received the certificate went to get the certificate as soon as they arrived at their birthday.
There are fewer boys who have birthdays before the 10th, and the number of marriages can reach 22, which is already very not simple.
Looking at the number of girls, girls can get married at the age of 20, and the number of women who have entered marriage in the past two years has exceeded 10,000.
What does this mean?
This shows that both men and women after 00 are very active in marriage, and they usually can't wait to enter the marriage hall as soon as they reach the legal age of marriage.
This is only the data of Fujian, and the national marriage data should be more impressive.
The post-00s marriage intention to break the network rumors
The web is different from the real world after all.
Before the Internet rumors, the post-00s do not want to get married, but in fact, it is the opposite, they not only want to get married, but also can't wait to get married.
In fact, this online rumor seems particularly absurd from the beginning.
First of all, when the Internet rumors appeared, the post-00s had not yet reached the legal age of marriage, and at this time they were still just children, so whether they were married was not within everyone's consideration at all.
Even if a few post-00s have said that they don't want to get married, it is just a joke, and when they really fall in love, they still especially hope to enter the marriage hall.
Secondly, even if the post-00s have reached the legal age of marriage now, there are many post-00s who are in a state of study, they are going to college, and they have not yet fully entered the society, so they do not have a special understanding of marriage.
Finally, if you want to know whether a group of people are married, you have to look at their attitude after entering society.
From the newly obtained post-00s marriage data, it can be seen that those post-00s who have not read books and have already broken through in society have already started married life.
It can be seen that young people's yearning for marriage has never changed.
The post-00s marriage data makes older men and women more and more embarrassed
After 1, 00 entering marriage, it symbolizes that they are really old
The post-00s have begun to enter the marriage hall, which indicates that the older men and women in their thirties who have not yet married really can't afford to wait.
Especially the post-80s who are not yet married, their situation will really seem particularly embarrassing, after all, the age is here, and in the matter of marriage, age is extremely important for everyone.
2, the family and relatives of the marriage will be more and more intense
For the post-80s, the marriage promotion procedure is about this, when the post-80s are talking about marriage, parents hope that their children can also talk about marriage.
By the time the post-90s talk about marriage, they have begun to be very anxious, because the post-90s are married, and their children after the 80s are not yet married.
And now the post-00s have begun to enter the marriage hall, which is really a fatal injury for the parents of the post-80s.
Seeing that their nephews and nieces, and even the next generation, have begun to enter the palace of marriage, and their children are not yet married, they will naturally increase their efforts to urge marriage.
If relatives also follow suit, older single men and women will face a relatively scary scenario.
3) They themselves will become more and more anxious
Everyone on the Internet says that they don't want to get married, especially older single men and women, but in real life, they are busy with blind dates, even if they do not enter the blind date market, they are also mobilizing people around them to help introduce objects, which shows that they really want to get married.
If they want to get married but can't meet the right person for a long time, they will become more and more panicked as they watch people younger than themselves step into the marriage hall one by one.
In such a state, they will also start to panic inside, and they don't even know what to do.
4, since ancient times, people who do not fit in are easy to be regarded as outliers
Man is a social animal, so only by being in the community can he live better, as has been the case since ancient times.
90% of people will get married, and the rest are only a very small minority, so those who are not young, but have not entered the marriage hall for a long time, are easily regarded as outliers.
Although it is said that it is necessary to go your own way and let others say it, no one living in the human world can really care about the eyes of others.
The strange eyes or special views of others, as well as casual words, can easily sting you.
How should older single men and women solve the marriage problem?
Solving the problem is the only way out when it happens, and avoidance or anesthetizing oneself will only make the problem worse.
Face the problem and solve the problem, so that everyone can be relieved from the embarrassing situation.
01 Go out of a small space
The most fundamental reason why some people are always unable to get rid of the single is that they have been staying in a very small environment, and this small environment is actually closed for them.
The circle is small, the people they know are very single, how can they find the right other half?
A person can only improve the single rate if he has the opportunity to know more about the opposite sex, so expanding the social circle and knowing more people has become the best way to get off the single road.
Therefore, people can increase their circle of friends and meet more people.
02 Rational use of surrounding resources
Your colleagues, relatives or friends, or even people you just met, can become a resource for you to get off the list.
If a person wants to get off the list, you have to go through the introduction, so that you can find the right other half as quickly as possible.
03 Turn passive into active
Don't be in a passive state all the time, so that you can never get rid of the single, be an active person, meet the right person to take the initiative to attack or take the initiative to understand, so that the probability of taking off the single will increase a lot.
Opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared, and only if you are willing to do it, there is a possibility of success.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
May your life be full of surprises, and may your happiness come as scheduled.