Early love is a headache for many parents, the original very well-behaved, very obedient children, into the adolescent love sinus at the beginning of the age, just like the change, the more because of the problem of early love to criticize the child, the more the child wants to resist, like a "stick to beat the Mandarin duck, difficult to separate" bridge section.
The daughter fell in love early and her grades seriously declined
The daughter of the cousin's family, last year because of early love can make the whole family sad, the daughter who has been well-behaved, quietly fell in love with the male classmates in the class, at the same time, in the midterm exam, the score seriously declined.
After being told by the teacher that the child had fallen in love early, the cousin learned that the boy was a bad student who was hanging on to Lang Dang, and angrily called her daughter to the room that night and scolded her, and declared: "If you don't break up again, don't call me mom in the future." As a result, instead of ending this early love in time, the daughter became closer to the boy in order to rebel against her mother and teacher.
Even, once the teacher was in the office, severely criticizing the daughter's early love problem, the daughter who has always been well-behaved and obedient, dared to openly quarrel with the teacher in the office, and finally simply skipped class with the boy, but the cousin was worried enough.
Three "keepsakes" are reminding parents that the child has fallen in love early, and the parents are about to enter the seat
1. Couple accessories
In the small shop at the entrance of the school, there are many couple jewelry, and after the middle school students fall in love early, they usually regard the couple necklace and the couple bracelet as a love object, which is equivalent to the symbol of the confirmation of the relationship between the two children. Of course, couple necklaces have obvious features, such as heart-shaped jewelry, carved name jewelry, etc., if you are afraid of not recognizing it, you can visit the small shop near the school.
2. Crafts with special meanings
Many girls in middle school, if they have a favorite boy, are accustomed to folding a thousand paper cranes, and when they have saved up a thousand paper cranes, they will give them to the boys they admire. Handicrafts such as a thousand paper cranes and paper hearts are equivalent to the promise of love in the middle school era, and if parents find out, they should be vigilant in time.
3. Letters
Children in middle school are quite simple, and often at first they are not embarrassed to express their love verbally, and they will express it in a gentler way, such as letters. Of course, the invasion of privacy by peeking at letters is not recommended, but the letters usually used to express love will have a "heart" pattern on the outside.
The beginning of the love sinus needs to be correctly guided by parents
1. Open your heart
Every child in adolescence will have a good feeling for the opposite sex, but some children know that learning is important, and some are troubled by emotions. If the child has an early love situation, "beating the Mandarin duck with a stick" will only make the situation worse and make the child more rebellious.
At this time, the wisest thing for parents is to open up with their children, such as talking about the love of their parents' generation, talking about their own views on love, what is love, what kind of boys or girls are worth interacting with, what kind of non-worthy of interaction, and allowing children to measure in their hearts.
2. Teach children to protect themselves
There are some problems that mothers can't avoid, especially the girls' bodies, some places that can't be touched by boys, and the thunder pool that rules that children can't cross. At the same time, it is better to educate boys to know how to respect girls, and correct guidance is better than blindly curbing.
3. Respect the privacy of children and make three chapters of the law
If you use the method of "search", "peek", "stalking", it will provoke the child, resulting in the child's reluctance to communicate with the parents, and even the situation of rebellion and deliberate opposition with the parents. If parents are aware, they can generously and gently invite their children to reveal their hearts to themselves, and make three chapters of the law, no cases of declining grades, no late home, and no crossing the thunder pool.
Adolescence early love is a headache, affecting learning not to say, if the feelings are not smooth, the child will become depressed and unhappy, but if the parents' wrong behavior, it will make the situation worse, so at this time, parents must adjust their mentality, do not let the child stand on their opposite side.