How to raise children who "cooperate" with their parents
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Invited expert: Teacher Wang Bingyuan
Hello everyone, today Xiaobei invited a professor of science psychology at Inner Mongolia Medical University, and Teacher Wang Bingyuan explained to us how to cultivate children who "cooperate" with their parents.
When it comes to the cooperation between children and parents, that is to say, in the process of educating children, children are more obedient and need to do something, and they can actively and effectively respond to and cooperate with parents. Many parents are actually very unconscious will ask their children to obey, in the eyes of many people, the child's good and bad with obedience and disobedience are completely combined. To actually oppose obedience to rebellion is in itself inappropriate.
Whether the child is obedient or disobedient, too obedient, or too rebellious, in fact, it is not normal, it is the two extremes of the way, in fact, what we are talking about here is not to say that everything is listened to by the parents, but I hope that the child and the parents can establish a relatively good cooperative and interactive relationship.
So how do you raise children who can work with their parents?
#01 #
respect
To see the child as a unique individual, not an object of control, that is, we must allow the child to make mistakes in the process of his exploration, because the child will inevitably make mistakes, our main task is to help the child realize, and then correct it, so that the child can naturally cooperate with the parents more smoothly.
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Emotions and behaviors
independent
Emotional and behavioral independence, which is a sign of a child's growth and maturity. Then when he has independent needs and performances, it does not mean that the child is against you, but because he has his own ideas, and with his own ideas, you have to respect him. Then the child's demand for independence is not to listen to your words, as parents, we must correctly understand and correctly cope.
#03 #
Children are allowed to have their own choices
That is to say, we must exercise the ability of children to choose on their own. Don't ask the child to realize the unfulfilled wishes of adults from an early age, and prematurely arrange various goals for him, this practice is actually a very cruel fact for the child.
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Trust the child
Be able to take care of your own affairs
We have to always tell our children that you can do it, and I believe in your ability, which is actually to encourage children to try. Of course, in the process of trying, we must give the child some reasonable suggestions, put forward some effective guidance, so that the child will also pay attention to your suggestions, then this cooperative relationship between you can be well established. Don't make too many decisions for your child, treat your child as an independent individual, and they will naturally become assertive. Parents respect the child, give him some choice of projects, let him choose by himself, which helps the child to have his own independence, his own ability to control himself.
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To allow children to be different
opinion
Let the child be able to argue with the parents, this argument is not to argue, but to express their opinions on some issues and some things. We can let the child participate in some things in the family or school, let them make their own decisions, so that it is the recognition of the value of the child, let the child know that he is valuable, these things can be decided by himself, then the child will feel that you respect him, you respect him, of course, he will respect you, so that he will be willing to cooperate with his parents to discuss things in the future.
#06 #
Let your child learn to control their behavior
Parents should help their children establish the concept of right and wrong, let the child understand what can be done and what cannot be done, so that he can gradually establish a set of standards of right and wrong in his mind, he can judge himself, and the child can realize whether his behavior is correct according to this standard, so he can control himself very well.