Girls' Academy: Children love to lie, try this trick!

Saint Qi Sunshine Psychology Xu Man

Some parents say that their children will lie when they are still in kindergarten, and parents say that children who go to primary school steal money from home, and also use their parents' mobile phones to secretly transfer money to buy things, and parents say that their children falsely report test scores, change 71 points to 97 points, and repeatedly teach and do not change, what can be done?

You can try this trick

Parents should be the most trusted people for their children, if the children dare not tell you the real situation, then is there a problem with your parent-child relationship with your children and the parents' methods of educating their children?

You should first repair the parent-child relationship with your child and gain your child's trust. You can sincerely apologize to the child, "Sorry baby, I feel quite frustrated, it must be that mom and dad did something wrong, you don't dare to tell us the real results, only to let you secretly take money from home, now mom and dad sincerely apologize to you, you have difficulties must first find mom and dad, we can accept your real grades and are willing to help you improve your grades; what you really need, mom and dad are willing to support you."

When your child is willing to open up to you, you can find out why your child is lying.

In fact, children lie

There are several reasons for this

Seek advantage and avoid harm, avoid possible punishment or get the desired benefit. If the child tells the truth to the adult, there will be adverse consequences, such as the child's test failure, go home and you split your head and cover your head and lose humiliation, or even slap it, will the child dare to tell you the truth in the future? If the child wants something, is often rejected by the parents, and does not get a convincing reason, the child may have to steal money from the family. In addition, when children are particularly young, it is easy to confuse the objective world with the fantasy world, and even do not know that lying is a bad behavior, and some children lie and find that they can deceive adults, which is very fun.

You can say so

It's not right to lie

Making mistakes, hiding from the first year, not hiding from fifteen, a lie often needs to be covered up with many lies.

If you know your mistake, you can change it and be a good child

Parents should tell their children that everyone will make mistakes, that mistakes can be changed, that they are good, and that correcting mistakes is a good child.

Empathize and communicate positively

In doing so, parents can understand their children's feelings and needs to avoid their children from always lying.

At the beginning of people, nature is good, parents should not prematurely label their children, sentenced to "punishment", found that children lie, is to help children improve, promote parent-child relationship opportunities.

Parents are the imitation objects of children, when parents are consistent in words and deeds, honest and honest with their children, it is easier for children not to lie.

Source: Tianjin Women's Federation Rights and Interests Department

Edit: Mu Nan

Proofreading: Late Winter