Many parents are always saying, "Don't let your child lose at the starting line." But in fact, parents are the starting line for children. Bad parents, their children are doomed to failure.
There is such a joke.
A father returned home, saw his child take out a test paper with a zero score, and in anger, beat the child up.
A few days later, the father came home and saw a test paper with two points, and without saying a word, he arrested the child and beat him violently.
But after playing the child, calm down and take a closer look, it turns out that the two-point test paper was from when I was a child.
In reality, of course, there are parents worse than that.
My second uncle only had a primary school education, had little interest in reading and literacy, and was also addicted to mahjong, often "bloody battles" all night long, and did not have much time to discipline his cousin.
But he always tried to persuade his cousin to play fewer games and study well. But the cousin just took his words as a side note.
Later, he felt that his cousin was becoming more and more incompetent, and he began to make a big fuss again, saying: "How much books are read, good or bad, what about it?" Even if you read a master's degree or a doctorate, you don't come out to work for others, and it's different from not reading! ”
Teacher Bian Yufang, a professor of psychology at Beijing Normal University, said: "Parents are the starting line of children. "A large number of studies have proved that a person's original family has a key impact on the cultivation of his intelligence, character, and morality.
However, many parents often forget their own educational responsibilities, relax their strict requirements for themselves, and do not play their own role model, resulting in their children losing on the starting line from the beginning, and even embarking on a wrong track.
Ouyang Xiu, a great scholar in the Northern Song Dynasty, was born into poverty, and his father died very early, leaving orphans and widows to rely on each other.
Ouyang Xiu's mother, Zheng Shi, had only read a few books roughly and barely recognized a few words, but her foresight was very admirable. She did not relax her cultural education for Ouyang Xiu because of her family's poverty and her own cultural quality.
Zheng wanted Ouyang Xiu to read and write, but his family was very poor and could not afford to buy paper and pencil.
One day, when Zheng saw that the pond in front of the house was covered with hagi grass, he was immediately inspired to use the grass stalks as pens, spread sand as paper, and began to teach Ouyang Xiu to practice writing stroke by stroke. She asked Ouyang Xiu to erase it and write it again, and so on and on until it was neatly written.
This is the story of the famous "Painting Hagi Godson".
In this kind of education, Xiao Ouyang Xiu soon liked poetry books and practiced the ability to recite by eye. In order to broaden his horizons for Ouyang Xiu, Zheng Read More Good Books, and often took him to the homes of people with many books to borrow books to read.
It is precisely because of the careful cultivation of the Zheng family that Ouyang Xiu finally became a famous person in the literary circle of the Northern Song Dynasty.
Perhaps, parents do not need to have a million family wealth, do not need to have a full belly of poetry, but at least there should be a minimum yearning and reverence for cultural knowledge. Parents have a yearning for knowledge and culture, so that children can be imperceptibly infected, gradually cultivate children's desire for knowledge, and lay the most solid foundation for children's knowledge development.
French scientist Marie Curie became more vulnerable after the death of her husband, but even so, she was reluctant to sell the radium isolated in her laboratory.
She insists that no matter how difficult and difficult life may be in the future, she will never sell her scientific research results. She always hopes that her daughter can cultivate the idea of hard work and simplicity, and not covet enjoyment.
Later, when she rushed to the United States with her two daughters and accepted a gram of radium given to her by the president of the United States, she also did not forget to warn her daughter: "Radium must belong to science, not to individuals." ”
When France was involved in the tragic First World War, Marie Curie donated all her Nobel Prizes for the construction of national defense. In order to get her daughter exercised, she even took her daughter Ilena and X-ray machines to the front line of the war. She asked her daughter to assist her in checking the wounded soldiers and experiencing the cruelty of war on the front lines of the war.
When the war ended, Irena was awarded the Order of Merit by the French government. After the experience of war, Ilena has become more mature.
Marie Curie has always insisted on carrying out strict moral education for her daughter, playing her own role as an example and setting a good moral example for her children. Later, Ilena not only inherited the mantle of Marie Curie's scientific career, but also inherited her noble moral character and became an outstanding talent who made outstanding contributions to society.
The moral education of parents leading by example is an important part of the child's sound personality shaping, which determines whether the child's virtue is noble, whether the habits are good, and whether the person is appropriate and appropriate. And all of this is far more significant for a child's success than the impact of genetic intelligence.
There was a female writer who went out after dinner with her young daughter in her arms to see the neighbor's white goose. The daughter was very excited, and pointed at the white goose and kept calling, which attracted the attention of the geese, so the white goose stretched its neck and swung and rushed over.
The daughter suddenly felt very nervous, and hurriedly turned around and wrapped her hands tightly around her mother's neck.
The mother also had cowardice in her heart, but she did not mess with herself and show her cowardice and timidity to her daughter. Instead, she immediately patted her daughter's back lightly and said, "How cute it is, white feathers, long neck, look at it!" ”
With the encouragement of her mother, the daughter was no longer so nervous, turned around and laughed.
She continued to hold her daughter and walked toward the flock of geese, but the flock of geese instead took the initiative to disperse.
The writer felt a lot of emotion in his heart, thinking that although his daughter was young, she could be keenly aware of her mother's psychology. When faced with difficulties and risks, if parents cannot show strength and bravery, but show a cowardly and panicked side, it is easy to transmit emotions to their children.
If the child accidentally falls, the parents should not shout, otherwise even if the child falls not heavy, it will cry; if the parents are calm and calm, encourage the child to stand up, the child will learn the ability to take the initiative to overcome difficulties.
Excellent parents can give their children the safest attachment, let them understand that behind them, there is always the love and support of their parents, so their willpower is more firm, they are more confident in the face of difficulties, and in the future life full of hardships, they will dance the most beautiful dance.
Many parents always say, "Don't let your child lose at the starting line." ”
Therefore, they let children participate in a variety of training courses, set the most ambitious goals for children, squeeze out the children's last free time, and want to rely on superficial educational investment to lift children as high and far as possible.
But in fact, the parents' attitude towards cultural knowledge affects the child's desire for knowledge; the moral character of the parents determines the height of the child's moral character; the strong will of the parents determines the child's ability to overcome many obstacles.
As the saying goes: "Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and rats make holes." ”
How big the pattern and how high the level of the parents are, how far the child can go, how dashing and beautiful.