Recently, a bao mom in Quanzhou, Fujian Province, posted a video of Bao Dad tutoring 3 children to learn, which was praised by many netizens.
In the video, each of the 3 children has a desk and concentrates on completing homework together, Bao Dad sits quietly behind them and reads a book, and the father and son communicate from time to time, the scene is very warm.
Learning in such a family environment, 3 children naturally did not disappoint their parents, the wall in front of the desk was glued with awards, the results were very excellent, netizens praised this "people this is the senior show off", "the wall of awards is the best gift to parents."
In an interview, Bao Mom said that "although Bao Dad is busy at work, since the children can remember, he will take time out to accompany the children every day", and it is extremely gratifying to have such a Bao Dad.
In fact, it is true that nowadays, "widowed marriage" and "widowed parenting" problems are frequent, and the absence of Bao Dad in family education makes many Bao Mom miserable, and the healthy growth of children is also affected.
Good education comes from the "perfect cooperation" of parents and parents
Psychological research has found that in family education, the role of the father has an important impact on many aspects of children's mental health, self-worth, social adaptability, and career development in adulthood.
Once the father is absent from the family education, it will directly affect the child's future.
Although "male outside, female inside" is China's "traditional family model" since ancient times, but from the healthy growth of children, the harmonious atmosphere of the family and many other aspects, such a model into the modern family, undoubtedly has been somewhat out of date.
If Bao Dad is a "hands-off treasurer" at home and entrusts family education to Bao Mom, it will not only make Bao Mom physically and mentally exhausted, but also make her feel that Bao Dad pays too little, the sense of value in the family is too low, and it is difficult to achieve mutual respect, which is often the biggest reason for quarrels between husband and wife.
When the parents' feelings are not harmonious, and even when there is a quarrel, the child's concept of marriage and love, character development, etc., will be negatively affected.
And in the process of getting along with children, Bao Mom, as a woman, will naturally be more careful and know how to care for all aspects of her children, and Bao Dad will be more adventurous, so that children dare to try and think more rationally.
The different personality traits of Bao Dad and Bao Mom, because the different educational concepts brought by different growth environments, will bring different nutrients to the growth of children, and good family education requires Bao Dad and Bao Mom to play "perfect cooperation".
Bao Dad should take care of the family before he is busy with his career
Confucius once put forward the Confucian idea of "cultivating oneself and ruling the country and the world" thousands of years ago, and the "Three Character Classic" has the awakening maxim of "the son does not teach, the father is transgressive", and it is understandable that bao dad earns money to support the family, but while busy with his career, taking good care of the family is the most important.
As a "clear stream" among the rich and noble, Bao Dad Huo Qigang has been on the hot search for many times because of accompanying the baby, sometimes taking his wife Guo Jingjing and the children to the countryside to participate in labor, sometimes accompanying the children to wash the car, watching dramas, etc. He has never forgotten to take time out of his busy work to take care of the family.
Guo Jingjing also said in an interview that Huo Qigang is busy at work and has to run around every day, but he will take time out with his family every day.
Sometimes even if a meeting is needed at night, Huo Qigang will first take time to go home and have dinner with the children, so as not to go back too late and the children will not be able to see themselves in bed.
And it is precisely because of Huo Qigang's companionship that the children have grown up very well, and the parent-child relationship is particularly intimate, and there are often some warm scenes between father and son, which have been praised by many people.
Good parent-child companionship, quality is more important than quantity
Although fathers play a pivotal role in family education, they often also assume the responsibility of the largest source of the family's income, so how can dad strike a balance between the two?
The answer is that the quality is better than the quantity, and the father should try to improve the "quality" of parent-child companionship under the premise that the time spent with the child is limited.
For example, when the child is writing homework, if the father just plays with his mobile phone on the side, does not ask the child, or even plays the voice, then it is naturally difficult to achieve good educational results, and may even usher in the child's disgust.
When accompanying the child, the father should participate in the child's activities, maintain eye contact with the child, language communication, when the child needs to get feedback from the father, the father should be able to respond in time, so that he feels his attention.
In this regard, many fathers may think that I am exhausted from my daily work, so why should I have the energy to "serve" my children like this?
In fact, for Bao Dad, high-quality parent-child companionship is also a kind of relaxation, and Bao Dad can also harvest satisfaction and happiness in the process of accompanying his children.
If The father regards accompanying the child as a "chore", then the most important thing should be to change his own concept in time.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Educating children should not be done by Bao Mom alone, and it is even more a matter of Bao Dad.
And how to balance the relationship between family and work, to give children a higher quality of companionship, every father should think carefully, after all, the healthy growth of children is always the first.
Today's topic: Will your father participate in family education?
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